First, be confident. Only when you believe in yourself will others believe in you. If you have no confidence in yourself, then others will have no confidence in you.
Second, we should respect ourselves. As long as you value yourself, others will value you. If you don't value yourself, then others won't value you. In other words, you must think of yourself as a "person" so that others will think of you as a "person". On this issue, people avoid two extreme "lives". One is that you don't regard yourself as a "character", and you are too humble. Others will look down on you and think that you have no strength, ability, experience and influence. This is a kind of life. We should also avoid another extreme "life", that is, treating ourselves as "people" too much, giving people the feeling of arrogance. Such people will give you too much discretion, don't know the rules, and don't know the importance. This is another extreme "life". Neither life is acceptable.
Third, find your own position. What kind of identity you are, what kind of role you play, what you say and do, so that others will speak highly of you. Seek politics in its place, not its position. Don't think too carefully about the upper level, but consider the execution of the lower level. You are a subordinate in front of the leader, a leader and a colleague at the same level in front of the subordinate. Only by grasping your position in work, entertainment and social interaction can you be comfortable and recognized.
Fourth, you should be generous and calm, so that others will think that you are capable, have a good psychological quality and trust you easily.
The key is to do things well. It is important for people to observe a person or listen to him, but the key is to observe his actions. No matter how well things are done or said, things are never done. After a long time, others will think that you exaggerate and have no real skills, thus denying you.
Sixth, generally don't talk about yourself. In general occasions, especially social occasions, don't talk about yourself, including your outlook on life, hobbies, ideals, likes and dislikes, personality, way of doing things, way of being a person, etc. This is very, very important, and it is a very important experience for me. The reason is that a person's authority, influence, charm and image are actually "beauty comes from afar and beauty comes from obscurity". If you talk too much about yourself, there will soon be no distance between others and you, and others will see clearly, which will make people feel that "you are such a person, and you are nothing more than that", so that others' awe, respect and admiration for you will soon disappear.
7. If you must talk about yourself, talk about your successful experience as lightly as possible. Please note that this experience refers to the objective fact of success. Even if you don't tell, others may know. Not your inner world, your ideological success and Excellence should not be underestimated as mentioned in the last article. Don't underestimate the experience of failure, so people will only despise you more.
Eight, don't show off your knowledge, don't show that you have unique opinions on many issues, and don't talk about many issues. Doing so will either make life jealous or boring, or make people think you are bragging, sour or immature, and, as mentioned above, make people see your thoughts clearly. Moreover, many times, others may not necessarily agree with your point of view.
Nine, some occasions can not be too frank, and sometimes even need a certain set of words. As the saying goes, "To tell the truth, the ears are empty", and the real implementation is sometimes empty, which often points out the problems of others or society. In this way, either others don't like it or others think you are a little "angry". Moreover, telling the truth will show your true thoughts to others. As mentioned above, sometimes your true thoughts can't be revealed. Moreover, telling the truth is often a slip of the tongue. You may put your foot in your mouth, or others may disagree with you. So sometimes some cliches may not be very good, but at least they won't go wrong and won't make people see your real thoughts too clearly.
Don't always promise others, learn to say "no" when necessary. If you are easy to talk and always promise others, it will be easy for others to fix you, and it will be easy for you to do things according to others' intentions. In this way, others are often influencing you, not you, so your "weight" must be greatly reduced.
Eleven, to have a certain temper. When others do something that hurts you or hurts you, you should come back and let them know that you are not satisfied with what they have done, so that they will not mistakenly think that you are ok, or even satisfied with what they have done. When you show your unhappiness, you may avoid the next unhappiness.
12. Be a good person, not a weak one. The ancients said, "Mashan is ridden, people are bullied" and "It is better to offend a gentleman than a villain", which is really a wise saying. If you are a bully, then others will definitely not take you seriously. If others think you are not so easy to bully, then they naturally dare not ignore you. When others are ready to plot against you or hurt you, they will not be reckless, or even simply give up plotting against you and hurt you. When others dare not plot against you or hurt you easily, your influence will increase invisibly. At the same time, when you dare not offend you easily, your words and deeds will not be easily denied, and naturally your influence or "gas field" will rise. Furthermore, when they have hurt you or assassinated you, you should try to make them pay for their assassination or injury, or if they don't pay any price for their assassination or injury, they will continue to hurt you next time, or even more.
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