I'm still a little shocked to hear that. However, considering that my mother-in-law's daughter-in-law is an only child and has just given birth recently, I understand her thoughts a little. Why is there such a cognition? I think there may be two reasons:
Nowadays, most people marry their only child. They have been pampered since childhood and have never suffered anything. After getting married and having children, it is inevitable that you will be in a hurry, take care of yourself and get help from your elders.
What's more, now more and more women go out to work, and bear part of the family economic pressure. Taking care of the baby, doing housework and other daily chores are given to the mother-in-law.
So the old people came to this feeling: "I want to be a daughter-in-law for two generations"! Take care of the elders in the first half and the younger generation in the second half. Especially after the son and daughter give birth to the baby and before the grandchildren are 0-7 years old, it may take longer to "help" if they have a second child.
So, as a daughter-in-law, how can I get along well with my mother-in-law during this time?
Daughter-in-law treats her mother-in-law: do more work, be grateful and communicate more, and do more housework after work.
Let's make it clear in our hearts first. My mother-in-law is a helper, not an opponent. Mother-in-law helps to do housework and take care of children, which is to help our small family get through this difficult period more smoothly. We can't have frequent family conflicts because of trivial matters.
Although we are very tired after work, we must share the housework together. For example, when I come home from work, my mother-in-law cooks, you wash the dishes and my husband takes care of the baby. On weekends, my mother-in-law has a rest, and you take the baby and husband shopping. This makes her mother-in-law feel comfortable in her eyes.
Be grateful to your mother-in-law during the festival.
Usually, we are always busy with work, children and life. We need a sense of ceremony to express our love for our families and improve our spiritual life.
When we meet my mother-in-law's birthday, March 8 Women's Day, Mother's Day and other festivals that are very meaningful to her mother-in-law, we should show her something. Send flowers to my mother-in-law, buy a new coat, cook a big dinner, wrap a big red envelope and so on. I also thank my mother-in-law for her constant help.
Communicate in time if there is any contradiction.
As the old saying goes: "Every 65,438 +0 generations, ideas and concepts are very different." Raising a baby with the elders, the collision of old and new parenting concepts, will inevitably lead to conflicts and contradictions. It is unbearable for some things, really unbearable.
Communication is the best way. After the incident, the two sides can sincerely and gently exchange their ideas and reasons, seek solutions and reach a settlement. As a mistress, we should be tolerant and considerate of her mother-in-law's difficulties and adopt a personality style suitable for her mother-in-law to deal with contradictions.
Of course, getting along is a matter for two people, and it is impossible to always ask one party to accommodate the other. It is best that in the process of communication, both mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should focus on expressing what they need each other to do. Both sides can be considerate of others with love.
The way for mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to get along with each other is: treat them as their own, and respect the guests. Tu Lei, a famous emotional tutor, once said: "The way for mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to get along is to treat them as their own and treat them as guests. Treating yourself as your own means caring for your mother, and other people's mothers are also mothers; Your own daughter is a daughter, and other people's daughters are also daughters. The treatment of mutual respect means that the daughter-in-law is not a family member after all, and it is impossible to be as close as her own daughter. "
Where the hell is this line? Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law need to understand each other, to discover, to think, to change, and to find a way to deal with their families.
Today's topic:
Do you agree with the view that a mother-in-law should be a daughter-in-law for two lifetimes?
How do you deal with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law
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