Question 1: Why is there a saying of great kindness and great hatred? It is a cold and incisive wisdom of China people in the way of the world to show great kindness to others. It is the same at all times and all over the world. In my generation, small favors are commonplace. You invite me to dinner, I invite you to dinner. Those who give it are like spring breeze, but those who accept it are not indifferent. It seems that they are harmonious, but those who are respectful and generous are not. The giver is condescending, and the receiver is worried. They all know that kindness is hard to come by, but it has become a burden on both sides for a long time. But friends come and go, who doesn't want to be respected? At least equal. Who wants to meet an old friend who is three points shorter than himself? The feeling of great kindness is generally like this. Avoiding the great benefactor is like avoiding the great enemy. The ancients said: the grace of dripping water is rewarded by the spring. But what if you don't get a spring or even a drop of water in return for a while? Only when I have no face, I am afraid that I can't avoid it. There are pressures to repay my kindness and psychological hints of inferiority. It is not surprising that it has turned into resentment. Darker and even hope that the benefactor will disappear forever, so the great kindness becomes a deep hatred. In ancient times, people with high morality and good conduct did not expect to repay their kindness, and often lived in seclusion or moved away from home to avoid the embarrassment of meeting each other. In fact, these knowledgeable people who know the world are called avoiding the world, but in fact they are avoiding disasters, and they have received great kindness as great hatred.

Question 2: What do you mean by not saying thank you for your kindness? Is saving lives a great kindness? For such great kindness, Yongquan Daily is obviously not enough to repay. Then how can I repay you? No amount of money can be repaid, and it is only fair to repay it with your own life. Of course I don't want to die, so I just want the other person to die, so repaying kindness and deep kindness becomes "biting off the hand that feeds you" and killing him. This so-called deep affection is more than revenge.

There is a story in A Supplement to National History: Li Mian, an envoy of Lingnan in the Tang Dynasty, released an assassin from prison when he was a captain in Kaifeng. A few years later, Li Mian visited Hebei and met the prisoner of that year. Therefore, when the prisoner saw the rescuer of that year, he couldn't help saying that he would take Li Mian to his home for warm hospitality, and privately discussed with his wife: "How can I repay my kindness if I live here?" The wife said, "Can I repay a thousand horses?" So, the prisoner said, no, no, a thousand pieces of cloth is not enough to repay saving his life. The wife said, "How about two thousand horses?" So the prisoner still shook his head and said it was not enough. The wife said, "If so, you might as well kill it!" " Thanks to the servant's tip-off, Li Mian was saved from death.

This is an amazing story, and you can only repay your kindness by killing it. But, if you watch Zhuangzi? In the last article "The Emperor", you will find that the person who told this story probably copied Zhuangzi, or at least was inspired by Zhuangzi. China literature is deeply influenced by Zhuangzi.

Look at Zhuangzi's original text: The emperor in the South China Sea is reckless, and the emperor in the North China Sea is chaotic. When I finished my work, I was kind to you. ┯ The song "The Virtue of Northern Chaos" says: "Everyone has seven things to eat and listen to, but this is the only thing. Try to chisel it. " One day you dig a hole, seven days you die.

There is a word called "negligence", which is now written as "alienation" and "sparseness". According to the ancient literature of China, it is the name of Zhuangzi, the emperor of the South China Sea, which means fast. His personality likes fast and pursues high speed. The emperor of Beihai, named "Hu", also likes fast and pursues high speed. Only the emperor of the Central Empire is different. He takes his time in everything. He doesn't set any plans and goals, nor does he pursue high speed. He is confused, sloppy, clumsy and sleepy. This emperor is a typical laissez-faire, let nature take its course.

The two emperors in the north and south felt a great sense of accomplishment. They have done a lot for the country and built many tall buildings. Both of them are very busy, the country is developing too fast, they are all trotting, and it is rare to have a public holiday. So they meet to relax in the chaos of the emperor of the central empire, because it is the best place for leisure, and the pace of people there is slow, so people like to spend their holidays in the chaotic country when they are tired.

A bald man came to his own site for a holiday. Out of courtesy, it is natural to have a reception when you are in a mess, so that you can do your best as a landlord. Chaos, the emperor, is not very talkative, but he treats people sincerely. He is a little sorry for his excellent chewing gum core writing and thinking ability. So, the two men discussed how to repay wonton for being so kind to us, eating so many good things and drinking so many good wines.

┖ I finally got it. Most people have seven tricks, right? Two eyes are used to see the wonderful world outside, two ears are used to listen to wonderful sounds, two nostrils are used to breathe and smell, and that mouth is used to eat and talk. However, look at this guy, chaos. He doesn't know anything. "This is unique", different. How can he do without understanding? The best way for us to repay him is to enlighten him, let him see the flowers and plants in the world and let him taste the delicious food from all over the world.

Suddenly said, okay. I sent someone to get the tools, so two people "tried to chisel". One day, they opened a hole for him. On the seventh day, the eyes, ears, nose and tongue were all open, and all seven holes were open. What was the result? "And Chaos is dead," and Chaos was repaid by two guys. It's over!

Zhuangzi is so humorous. Repay, repay, repay those who are exhausted alive. I almost burst into tears. Zhuangzi's humorous articles are the best in the world. Laugh and laugh, you cry; I owed a favor, so I discussed how to pay it back, and I killed someone. It's not enough for you not to kill me.

Reading Zhuangzi's articles can't be simply understood as doing bad things with good intentions. It shows that people in a state of chaos are really determined. Six roots are motionless, isolated from the inside and outside. Don't try to enlighten him or disturb him.

In ancient times, people were natural, and what they didn't need to cultivate was the realm of Tao. Zhuangzi said, "Thai, its lying slow, its sleeping in; Bring yourself ... >>

Question 3: How to understand the "great kindness and great virtue" in The Legend of Mi Yue? To put it simply, if you owe me a great favor and I have nothing to repay, then I owe you a great favor, which has become a sensitive point and weakness in our relationship. I won't allow others to take advantage of my weakness, so I will guard against you again. Well, it's so far away.

Question 4: Why do you say great kindness and great hatred? Because great kindness means paying a lot, so much must be demanded in return, but if the other party does not return, it will easily lead to his psychological resistance or hatred to the other party, because no one will willingly pay without asking for return. Moreover, if the other person gets a lot of goodwill, if the ungrateful person thinks you are stupid, or what you should do or think she is valuable to you, if you don't treat her with the same attitude in the future. Instead, he will think you are not good. For example, I have a friend who often lends me money, and I always readily agree, but every time I pay back the money, it is contradictory. Lending me money last year, I said I couldn't let go without saying a few words. As a result, the other party said, well, maybe we will go our separate ways in the future, that's what it means.

Question 5: The ancients said that great kindness is like hatred. How to understand great kindness as hatred? This is a calm and incisive wisdom of China people in the world. It is the same at all times and all over the world. In my generation, small favors are commonplace. You invite me to dinner, I invite you to dinner. The giver is like a spring breeze, and the receiver is not indifferent. It seems that the two sides are in harmony, but the great kindness is not there. The giver is condescending, and the receiver feels sad. As we all know, biting the hand that feeds you has long been a burden on both sides. But friends come and go, who doesn't want to be respected? At least equal. Who wants to meet an old friend who is three points shorter than himself? The feeling of great kindness is generally like this. Avoiding the great benefactor is like avoiding the great enemy. The ancients said: the grace of dripping water is rewarded by the spring. But what if you don't get a spring or even a drop of water in return for a while? Only when I have no face, I am afraid that I can't avoid it. There are pressures to repay my kindness and psychological hints of inferiority. It is not surprising that it has turned into resentment. Darker and even hope that the benefactor will disappear forever, so the great kindness becomes a deep hatred.

Question 6: How to understand the truth behind this sentence? People are rebellious or trapped by reality. Because you think you can't repay your kindness, it's like a debt. When you can't bear the burden of this debt, you will feel very tired, just like your enemy has done great harm to yourself, and it will bring you a psychological burden to collect debts from your enemy. For example, the heroine of the movie "Taking the Wrong Bus" became a big star and didn't want to recognize the adoptive father who picked up the bottle. After she became a big star, she thought that her adoptive father's life would lose her face and ruin her future, and she regarded her adoptive father as an enemy until she finally realized her return. If the person who picked up the bottle didn't show great kindness to her or there was no realistic gap between before and after, there would be no ups and downs of the film.

Generally speaking, for people with mental health, great kindness is great kindness. No matter who gives you kindness, you should repay it when you have the opportunity. If there is no chance, just say thank you and be grateful, because kindness and enmity are not repaid. Keep the freedom of mind, and you don't have to bear too many old ideas of debt of gratitude to affect your later life.

Question 7: Why is there a saying that you don't repay your kindness? This is a calm and incisive wisdom of China people in the world. This is true at all times and in all countries, and it is universal. In my generation, small favors are commonplace. You invite me to dinner, I invite you to dinner. The giver is like a spring breeze, and the receiver is not indifferent. It seems that the two sides are in harmony, but the great kindness is not there. The giver is condescending, and the receiver feels sad. As we all know, biting the hand that feeds you has long been a burden on both sides. But friends come and go, who doesn't want to be respected? At least equal. Who wants to meet an old friend who is three points shorter than himself? The feeling of great kindness is generally like this. Avoiding the great benefactor is like avoiding the great enemy. The ancients said: the grace of dripping water is rewarded by the spring. But what if you don't get a spring or even a drop of water in return for a while? Only when I have no face, I am afraid that I can't avoid it. There are pressures to repay my kindness and psychological hints of inferiority. It is not surprising that it has turned into resentment. Darker and even hope that the benefactor will disappear forever, so the great kindness becomes a deep hatred. In ancient times, people with high morality and good conduct did not expect to repay their kindness, and often lived in seclusion or moved away from home to avoid the embarrassment of meeting each other. In fact, these knowledgeable people who know the world are called avoiding the world, but in fact they are avoiding disasters, and they have received great kindness as great hatred.

Question 8: What does it mean to show great kindness and be as good as hatred? If you can't repay your kindness, you will feel extremely guilty and uncomfortable, just like having an enemy.

Question 9: How to understand the truth behind the sentence "repay kindness with vengeance"? Great hatred must be reported, and great kindness must be reported.

Question 10: Why is there a saying that you don't repay your kindness? It is a cold and incisive wisdom of China people in the way of the world to show great kindness to others. It is the same at all times and all over the world. In my generation, small favors are commonplace. You invite me to dinner, I invite you to dinner. Those who give it are like spring breeze, but those who accept it are not indifferent. It seems that they are harmonious, but those who are respectful and generous are not. The giver is condescending, and the receiver is worried. They all know that kindness is hard to come by, but it has become a burden on both sides for a long time. But friends come and go, who doesn't want to be respected? At least equal. Who wants to meet an old friend who is three points shorter than himself? The feeling of great kindness is generally like this. Avoiding the great benefactor is like avoiding the great enemy. The ancients said: the grace of dripping water is rewarded by the spring. But what if you don't get a spring or even a drop of water in return for a while? Only when I have no face, I am afraid that I can't avoid it. There are pressures to repay my kindness and psychological hints of inferiority. It is not surprising that it has turned into resentment. Darker and even hope that the benefactor will disappear forever, so the great kindness becomes a deep hatred. In ancient times, people with high morality and good conduct did not expect to repay their kindness, and often lived in seclusion or moved away from home to avoid the embarrassment of meeting each other. In fact, these people of insight, who know the world well, are called avoiding the world, but in fact they are avoiding disasters. As Samadhi, who has great hatred, they have gained great compassion.