Regarding children's educational experience 1, loving children needs learning, not being born.
Gorky has a famous saying:? Loving children is what an old hen will do, but being good at educating children is a national event, which requires talent and all life knowledge? .
2. Distinguish between different loves:
A British woman doctor of psychology said: All love in this world is for the purpose of aggregation, and there is only one kind of love for the purpose of separation, and that is the love of parents for their children. The truly successful love of parents is to let their children get out of your life as soon as possible and become an independent individual.
Therefore, in order to understand this, we must be willing to let children grow up, rather than asking for help, and let children do what they can.
3. Family and school should do a good job of division of labor. The school is responsible for teaching and the family is responsible for educating people. Both are indispensable.
Teacher Liu, a famous and excellent head teacher in China, has some classic words for parents:
? When people say that this child is different from that child, they mainly mean the difference between this parent and that parent. ?
? The score of an exam is accidental, but whether parents are responsible or not will inevitably determine the development direction of children. The equal treatment of teachers is always relative. Parents who have a strong sense of educational responsibility and can work closely with teachers should naturally pay special attention to their children? This is fair. Because there is no family cooperation, the teacher's efforts are completely useless. ?
4. If children want to change, parents should change first.
If parents want to educate their children, they must first educate themselves.
Parents must reflect on their own growth while accompanying their children.
Parents should constantly introspect and sum up experience. The problem itself is not a problem, but how to look at it.
Parents should always think about the following questions:
1), what was your parents' way of education when you were a child?
2) Do parents often find your strengths to encourage you, or are they always critical of your weaknesses? How is your child now?
3) How do you feel about your parents' education?
4) Do you want your children to be like you? What you feel now is how your children will feel in the future, so what should you do?
Accompanying children to grow up is not to sacrifice today's happiness and happiness for his happiness tomorrow, but to realize happiness in the current education process, so that children can feel different happiness and happiness at each growth stage.
(1) Yes? Become? what's up Back?
Become? For the children? Why? Habit formation, personality, emotional intelligence, etc. You should go all out.
Back? Parents should be weak, leave the stage to their children and cultivate their independence.
(2) How old is your child? Parents should keep childlike innocence when playing with their children in primary school.
(3) Making children realize the happiness of life is the ultimate goal of parents accompanying their children to grow up (kindness, gratitude, discovering the advantages of others, dedication, positive optimism? . )
6. Don't impose your opinions on children.
How old are the children and how old are you?
Squat down and talk to the child.
Don't take children for granted.
Like what? Naughty and disobedient Waiting is your evaluation. For children, it may be experiencing happiness.
7. Life is full of opportunities for education.
Education is not about preaching the truth, but bringing positive energy to children through the subtle influence between trivial things in life. Everything can be an opportunity for education, depending on how you look at it. This is also related to the American educator Dewey? Life is education? The concept of.
8. Both husband and wife share the responsibility of educating their children.
One is leading and the other is cooperation. The education of husband and wife must be consistent.
9. A good relationship is greater than a good method. A good relationship requires heartfelt respect and understanding for children. No? Tube? Son, but? Companionship? He has grown up.
10, if you love a child, you must respect him.
The most essential need in everyone's heart is to be cared for, recognized, respected and understood by others, regardless of age, gender or race.
Only by respecting children can they be self-respecting, confident, positive, caring, responsible and reasonable, and at the same time they can respect and understand others.
Sun Ruixue once said: Only when children are respected can they do their own thing wholeheartedly. They don't need to participate in the feeling of reading, guessing the minds of adults, etc. Concentrate on exploring all kinds of things. His thoughts are free and his thinking is active. Children's intelligence, concentration and memory will be improved, and their personal strength will be enhanced, laying a good foundation for life development.
On the contrary, a child who grows up in an environment where he is often reprimanded and beaten will be particularly sensitive to things, will look at things with a vigilant and uneasy attitude, and lose the exploration of the true colors of things, leading to unclear concepts, unclear cognition, and rigid thinking. Such children's academic performance is generally not ideal.
1 1, follow the order of love.
German psychotherapist Bert? Hellinger found that in the family system, there are some hidden motives that are not easy to be realized or perceived by people, which are manipulating the relationship between family members. This is the order of love. If we get along with our families in the order of love, our relationship will be very good and everyone will grow up happily and healthily; If we ignore it, our family will be troubled.
The adhesion between women and children in China has become an instinct in the blood. After giving birth, the child is the first. When children are young, the relationship between mother and child has been above the relationship between husband and wife. At this time, the family is also prone to crisis. For example, the husband feels that being left out leads to derailment; When children grow up, they want to get rid of the intimate relationship between mother and child and the control of their mothers, so there are cases of rebellion. Westerners abide by the love order in the family more than we do. Their closest relationship is husband and wife, followed by children and parents. Therefore, it is easier for westerners to establish equal and harmonious relationships among family members.
12, parents want it? Internal repair? Become confident.
Apart from setting a positive example for children who pay attention to manners and have good living habits, what is the fundamental change? Parents really need to be confident inside. Parents' self-confidence can essentially follow the law of children's physical and mental development and is the source of all scientific and reasonable educational ideas. Parents' self-confidence can achieve real peace of mind, and they will not care too much about other people's opinions and evaluations, and will not combine the success or failure of their children with their own face and dignity, so that all kinds of so-called can appear on their children. Question? Keep a calm mind and then let go? Question? Turn it into an opportunity for growth.
About children's educational experience 1, learning is everywhere.
Parents' words and deeds, your words and deeds will have an impact on the growth of children. Whether it is positive or negative, children are constantly absorbing. How do you treat your elders or get along with others? The layout of your home, the housework you do in the kitchen, the dishes you serve; You clean the room and put things back; The clothes you usually wear, everything you say and do Children have been learning from you since they can walk and talk. So how children learn today is basically the result of your subtle influence in the first ten years.
2. Education is slow and growth is lifelong.
Three generations of gentlemen. Not only this child, but also generations. Our eyes should not only see the growth of children throughout their lives, but also see the next generation, two generations or even more than three generations. Only in this way can we ensure that after a hundred years, your family will become better and better, or more and more noble. Parents are learned. When your children become parents in twenty or thirty years, and you become grandparents, the next generation of children will naturally receive a much higher education from an early age. What about after two or three generations?
Of course, for this child now, in the primary school stage, all we have to do is one word? Raise. Cultivate habits and cultivate them slowly. Cultivate learning enthusiasm and correct attitude, cultivate honest people, and cultivate the quality of kindness and justice. If these are all cultivated, what are you worried about when the child grows up?
Miss Mingsi told her parents to study first and love to study.
How can you ask your children to learn without self-study? If you don't like learning yourself, how can you ask your children to love learning? Just before the parent-teacher meeting, several parents walked into the classroom without saying hello to the teacher. If you are rude yourself, how can you ask your child to be a polite person? So don't blame children when they are not learning well, please review yourself first.
4. Read aloud, read aloud and read repeatedly. This is the best way to learn Chinese and cultivate a sense of language.
Be sure to let the children read aloud every night. Whether it is Chinese or English, this is the most critical way to learn a language. Don't be shy. If the child doesn't want to, you can also read with the child. Any child who can read aloud with emotion will certainly not be bad at Chinese and composition.
5, more companionship, good children are sometimes accompanied.
Always consciously, children with excellent academic performance are mostly influenced by good family atmosphere and responsible education of their parents. Unconscious children must be accompanied by their parents if they want to get good grades. Parents must spend more time with them. I really need to leave some time for the children. No matter how busy you are, you should spend more time with your children. When the children are reading, you are also reading beside them; When the child is doing his homework, you are also reading beside him; The children recite there, and you can also read books. You don't need to ask too much about his homework, just stay with him quietly. Being busy and tired at work is no reason. You only have one child, the only one.
6. Encourage more and criticize less to cultivate children's self-confidence.
You can't always criticize your children. In the future, your child will grow up slowly, and one day, you will not be able to criticize him. Always criticize, children will resist, and one day they will resist. I believe that the child's little progress, don't worry. Trusting children is the most important thing. Nothing can promote your progress more than gaining the trust of others.
7. Communicate more, talk on an equal footing, and treat children with care.
Spend some time chatting with children every day and pay attention to their performance. If you can't communicate with your children face to face because you are busy, you can communicate with them with paper and pen. Children in the fourth grade can already communicate by letter. For example, when you get home, the child has rested. I suggest you write a few words to express your apologies and concern. It's not the length and quality, but your wholehearted devotion to your children. Children are sensitive, and every time we care about them, they will deeply remember us.
One lesson about children's education is that teachers need to have their own educational ideas. People have ideas to be attractive, especially teachers. Charming teachers are happy and will be loved by students and respected by colleagues. There are many teachers who will be? Ideas? These two words scared me into thinking that this was a master's patent. In fact, everyone can and should have their own ideas. A master has the thoughts of a master. As an ordinary teacher, he has the thoughts of an ordinary teacher. Master's thoughts are like torches, and our thoughts can be candles; Torches can illuminate a wider space, and candles can at least illuminate the soul of a classroom, which can make mediocrity have nowhere to hide. Only when teachers' souls are thorough can they guide students' souls to develop healthily higher and further, and the progress of students' thoughts is the source of teachers' happiness!
Secondly, teachers need to have their own educational personality. A teacher with personality must have his own philosophy of life and refuse to follow the crowd. They always maintain their own mental state of independent thinking and independent code of conduct, and will not be disturbed by shallow popular concepts and secular consciousness in society!
Third, teachers need to mold their own style. If having one's own thoughts and personality is the spiritual image of teachers, then elegance is only the external image that teachers must have. Of course, the external image and the internal spirit are unified. As an engineer of human soul, teachers have been illuminated with many brilliant auras, and the changes in the understanding and definition of teachers' professional connotation have been bothering every teacher! Elegant demeanor reflects the image charm and inner temperament of teachers, which will naturally win the respect of students and parents and become one of the sources of teachers' happiness.
Fourth, teachers need to build their own spiritual home. The variety of life will have different ideas and forms that affect our real life and spiritual life. However, when such influence becomes related to our spirit, we will lose our independent value judgment and orientation, and consciously or unconsciously produce a strong psychological gap in the process of comparing with others. If this gap is not reversed in time, it may lead to the deviation of our spiritual concept. How to really avoid such a psychological gap? I think the best way is to build your own spiritual home. This family is independent and quiet, which can eliminate the troubles in the world, stick to one's own opinions, live outside the circle and show one's talents in an angular way? When the pressure of our existence leads to our physical and mental exhaustion, the first thing we need is to find an independent spiritual space of our own to appease our scarred souls. Generally speaking, this space is only open to people with the same spirit.
Finally, I want to say that any creation needs a price. The happy life of teachers requires us to moisten our tired figure and old forehead with diligent sweat and tears. When everything is in the past, if we can calmly greet the smiling faces of every student we have educated, that is the highest realm of teachers' happiness!