1. A gentleman is not afraid of disaster, but does not rejoice in fortune.

——"Confucius' Family Sayings? Beginning of Punishment"

Appreciating a gentleman focuses on inner cultivation and is not enslaved by external things. "Don't be happy with things, don't be sad with yourself", always maintain a normal heart and cope with the complex social life maturely. Just like the Wei and Jin Dynasties that people admired later, the mood and anger were invisible. Only after experiencing the ups and downs of life can people reach this spiritual state.

2. Wealth and honor are not beneficial, and poverty and lowliness are not harmful.

——"Explanation of Confucius' Family Language: Five Etiquettes"

Note: increase.

When appreciating a true superior gentleman, wealth cannot add anything to him, and poverty and lowliness cannot diminish anything. That is to say: "Wealth and honor cannot be fornication, poverty and lowliness cannot be moved." What they pursue is the great ideal of "improving and benefiting the world". In order to realize their ideal, they can endure loneliness and poverty.

3. A husband is good as a man, but evil as a man.

——"Confucius' Family Sayings? Interpretation of the Five Etiquettes"

Explanation: A gentleman likes to promote the good deeds of others and does not encourage the bad deeds of others.

In appreciating the world, no one can escape the most basic standard of right and wrong, good and evil. Only by being dedicated to good can we righteously reject the intrusion of evil.

4. The tree wants to be quiet but the wind does not stop; the child wants to be nourished but cannot be kissed.

——"Confucius' Family Sayings? Thoughts"

The appreciation tree wants to stand quietly, but the wind keeps blowing. When the children want to honor their parents, the parents die early. . This kind of human regret cannot be undone by anyone. Being filial to your parents is not something you do on a whim one day, but something you should do all the time on a daily basis.

5. Those who are brave enough to speak will shine, and those who are brave enough to walk will be cut down.

——"Confucius' Family Sayings? Three Forgiveness"

Annotation: People who boast are flashy, and people who like to show their ability to do things often brag.

What a person who appreciates boasting reveals is his ignorance, and a person who brags reflects his own shallowness. "Peaches and plums do not speak, but they make their own mistakes." Gold will always shine, so there is no need to be complacent about the little results you have achieved.

6. Those who love others will be loved by others, and those who hate others will be hated by others.

——"Confucius' Family Sayings: The Wise King"

Commentary: If you like others, others will also like you; if you dislike others, others will also dislike you.

Appreciation There is no love without reason in the world, and there is no hatred without reason. This is the development of Confucius' concept of "forgiveness". You must know how to extend yourself to others, as the saying goes, "If you sow melons, you will reap melons; if you sow beans, you will reap beans."