On "Tolerance"

All rivers run into the sea, with great tolerance. "Wang Yang's unbridled is so spectacular, because of its mind, it does not refuse small streams and rivers. Throughout ancient and modern times, all successful people have the virtue of magnanimity and tolerance.

There is such a true story: the boss of a company is complacent about his "compliance", and employees are severely criticized and severely punished if they make a slight mistake. Soon, almost all the employees resigned. The boss still won't accept the lesson. After rehiring the employees, he did the same thing. As a result, all employees left him as before. He can't relax. I am the boss. Shouldn't employees be punished for their mistakes? His company ended in bankruptcy. He doesn't understand that because of various reasons in life, everyone will make mistakes of one kind or another. If you can tolerate others' mistakes and give them a chance to correct them, this is the basis for others to understand and support them. In the history of China, Li Shimin, Emperor Taizong, had the honor of "the rule of chastity", which was directly related to his tolerance and good listening to different opinions. The famous minister was originally the vassal of the eldest brother, Prince Jian. In the power struggle within the royal family, he encouraged Prince Jian to kill and staged a coup in Xuanwu Gate. After seizing power, he put aside old grievances and reused quantity, which made Wei Zhi feel that he was "willing to be the master of knowing ourselves and knowing ourselves with all his heart" and faithfully assisted Li Shimin, making great contributions to the creation of the prosperous Tang Dynasty.

In daily life and interpersonal communication, misunderstandings, frictions and contradictions will inevitably occur. In this case, some people abuse, tit-for-tat, and even fight, resulting in both losses. Not the loss outweighs the gain, but there is no "gain", only "loss". Loss of friendly feelings, loss of harmonious relationship, and even loss of life. In fact, there are frictions and contradictions. As long as it is not a malicious attack and the contradiction between the enemy and ourselves is irreconcilable, we should put ourselves in the position, take the initiative to take responsibility and say "I'm sorry". In this way, nervousness will turn into smiles and handshakes, and storms will turn into gentle winds and drizzles. Being strict with yourself and being lenient with others is the virtue of being a man, and it is also the foundation of winning people's trust and ensuring the success of the cause.

Of course, tolerance is not to win a good reputation, not to be harmonious, not to give up positions and principles, not to talk about moral laws, but to be good for you and me and everyone. This is pushing tolerance to the wrong abyss. There is a good saying: Proceed from the desire of unity and achieve new unity through criticism and self-criticism. This is the best interpretation of tolerance.

Tolerance is the highest reward for the tolerant.

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On "Tolerance"

People will inevitably bump into each other in a restaurant. Step on a person in a trance, say "I'm sorry" apologetically, others will understand, and then give a generous anger or smile, the clouds are light and the wind is light, and the rainbow remains. This is tolerance.

When people get along with each other, they should be tolerant. In the Tang Dynasty, Mr. Lou taught his younger brother to be tolerant of officials. His brother said, "Someone spit in my face and I wiped it off myself." Teacher Lou said, "This is not enough. Do you erase it, or do you insult you against the will of angry people? I think it is better to let Tucao kill naturally. " As the saying goes, "it is a blessing to do things one step higher and be tolerant of others", which is similar to Confucius' education that students should be gentle, humble and frugal. Susu, a Hong Kong writer, has a collection of essays entitled Tolerance is a Song, which sold out as soon as it was published. It can be seen that the Confucian thought of great love still has a heavy moral foundation. Therefore, when others are frustrated and fail, we should be more tolerant and less demanding, restrain our dreams and herald the sunrise. When you succeed, be more modest and less arrogant, which is also an encouragement to the people around you.

Then, in life, should we all be like this: "A big belly can hold things that are difficult to hold in the world;" Laugh often and laugh at ridiculous people "? Actually, it's not necessary We should also analyze in detail what we can hold, and only "hold what the world should hold". We must never be as tolerant as Mr. Dong Guo to the scum who are extremely vicious, selfish at the expense of others and playing tricks on others. I thought it would be nice to "respect a gentleman and treat a villain". For example, if public security is chaotic and hooligans make trouble, only by "striking hard" and taking effective measures can people's lives and property be guaranteed.

There is an article called "Don't offend the villain", which I dare not compliment. Be gentle and patient with bad elements who endanger society. In the end, you are the first one to have bad luck. To paraphrase Lu Xun's point of view, if you tolerate him, he will not tolerate you; When you are hurt, you can't tolerate him not only, but also.

Life needs tolerance, but indiscriminate tolerance means a lack of social responsibility.

Without tolerance, people will become dangerous; Blindly tolerant, people will become fragile.

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Maitreya Buddha and Man

"A big belly can accommodate things that are difficult to accommodate in the world;

Be kind and always laugh at the ridiculous people in the world. "

This is Maitreya's way of life, pretending things that the world can't tolerate with his paunchy belly; Laugh with his Lang Lang and laugh at everyone who can be laughed at. Buddha can do this, but in people, it can't just be like this.

Things in the world are complicated, big and small, good and bad, and all kinds of things abound, although? Quot Premier can punt in his stomach, but after all, some things are "tolerable". Like the Buddha, blindly tolerating all "unbearable things" is not to suppress people's personality. Can't tolerate "intolerable things" People have joys and sorrows, where does anger come from? Anger comes from the tolerance and forbearance of "intolerable things" to criminals, which will make criminals arrogant and trample on the law even more unscrupulously. No matter how big your stomach is, you won't tolerate such a thing. Of course, Maitreya's "paunchy" is not without its merits. We should carefully analyze some irritating unprincipled trifles with a tolerant attitude and find out the tolerable parts. A little more tolerance between people will lead to healthy and universal development of interpersonal relationships. From this perspective, tolerance and generosity are also needed.

Maitreya's "always smiling with kindness" seems to be ridicule and ridicule, but "ridiculous people" cannot be generalized. Laugh at those who deserve it; For others, such as the emperor in his new clothes, it is not appropriate to just laugh it off. Although the emperor is ridiculous, what should attract people's attention is that liars are abhorrent. What's the use of just watching and laughing? Therefore, when we meet ridiculous people, we must see the people and things behind the ridiculousness, so as to express our grievances and call them unfortunate and take a warning.

It seems that if you want to be "happy", you can't just "tolerate" and "laugh", but you should look at the problem with a correct and far-reaching vision, punish evil and promote good, set things right, be strict with yourself and be lenient with others, so as to purify the social atmosphere and improve interpersonal relationships. If we can do this, we will have a good life one day.

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bear

Before starting today's speech, let me tell you one thing: I lost my classmate Wang Chunwei's pencil box two days ago, and I really feel guilty, even though I didn't apologize to him at that time. I think Wang Chunwei must be very angry, at least he will have some ideas. Strangely, however, the next day he smiled and laughed at me, without blaming him at all. He told me that losing the pencil case is a trivial matter, but the friendship between classmates is great. It's not worth hurting your feelings about this pencil case. Besides, I didn't mean to.

I am very grateful to my classmate Wang Chunwei for his tolerance. So are many entanglements in life. If you can think more about each other and forgive others' mistakes, you will take the first step of tolerance.

There is a famous saying: "The sky is vast, and what is broader than the sky is the human mind." Ears seem to have recognized calluses, but we are often just giants in language and dwarfs in action. How many people in life have the courage to breathe all rivers?

I once took a taxi with a girl. She said she was very cultured. Because the driver took the wrong route, she gave him a sullen look. I'm confused. Maybe my speech in social situations is not as gentle as hers. However, at the moment when the driver repeatedly apologized, I just said from the bottom of my heart: "Never mind." Maybe he is not familiar with the terrain around here, or maybe he accidentally opened the wrong intersection. In short, his job is to drive, just like my classmate's job is to study. We have lost a lot of points on the test paper. Why should we demand an ordinary taxi driver and blindly think of him as the worst?

It can be seen that although tolerance is just a simple word, it is different from the behavior that can be trained in a short time. Tolerance means understanding others with your heart. Learn to put yourself in the other person's shoes, and tolerance can infiltrate your heart.

As I said just now, understanding is only the first step of tolerance. What about tolerance in a deeper sense? We often have to deal with people we don't like, and we often say, "I don't like this person." As a result, you can't get along with someone, which is often caused by personality incompatibility. I think sometimes the gap between people is precisely because they can't tolerate each other's personality or way of doing things. But who is the fault of character? Maybe no one is right or wrong at all. The only question is whether there is room for others around your expanding self. If you are accustomed to asking others to cater to you blindly, then selfishness and autocracy will get in the way. If you learn to say, "I don't like this man, but he also has the right to choose." Then, you step out of the second step of tolerance.

However, the most difficult state of tolerance lies in allowing others to be better than themselves. Everyone will definitely ask, "Tolerance is at best just tolerating the shortcomings of others and allowing things different from yourself to exist. What does it have to do with other people's advantages?

In fact, it is this last line of defense that we are most unable to keep-jealousy. Why is he so nice? Why is he better than me? If you say that to yourself, then, like many people, you have pink eye. Prescription, only-patience. Imagine that there are countless people above you in the world, and success is what you pay. Then why are you better than him? I think people who walk in front of you step by step deserve your respect. If there is no room for someone better than you in a narrow mind and you only respect yourself in your heart, then you will never surpass others or yourself.

We should really cultivate tolerance, but blindly tolerance, loss of principle, may also slip from tolerance to connivance. So how to divide the line between "tolerance" and "connivance"? When right and wrong are clear, everything is self-evident; But in some cases, this scale is extremely difficult to grasp. Therefore, it is still not easy to fully grasp the "tolerance" section in this great book of life!

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When people communicate with each other, it is inevitable that there will be Mao Dun and differences. What is most needed at this time is mutual tolerance and understanding.

A man should be good at learning tolerance. He shouldn't haggle over other people's mistakes and never forget them. He should give others a chance to correct, let bygones be bygones and help them make progress together.

So what is tolerance?

Some people say that tolerance is like water, because it can calm people down, so that they can see the truth and see themselves at the same time; Some people say that tolerance is like fire, because more tolerance not only means not caring about personal gains and losses, but also means warming others' hearts with your love and sincerity; It is also said that tolerance is a poem, because tolerance is not only manifested in the handling of something in daily life, but sublimated into the mind of the universe, which is poetic for people.

I admit that "water" is a warm way, "fire" is a warm connotation, and "poetry" is a broad tolerance, which is rarely as calm as water. The tolerance of giving charcoal in the snow is extremely valuable; The highest level of tolerance is even more touching, but I think tolerance is a manifestation of understanding. Only by understanding others can we tolerate others. There are bound to be bumps in life. If you want to live an easier life, you must learn to be tolerant. You have to understand first.

Tolerance is a virtue, a tolerance and a lubricant for coordinating interpersonal relationships. However, we can't blindly tolerate it without principle, and as a result, we become indulgent people. If the so-called tolerance turned into appeasement, wouldn't the world be in a mess? Therefore, tolerance should be principled and measured.

People need to understand each other, which can make helpless friends get some warmth in embarrassment and see a little light when mistakes are shrouded.

Friends, please remember: the largest in the world is the ocean; A wider sky than the ocean; However, what is broader than the sky is people's hearts.

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Rain clouds in the wind

In the distance, on the edge of the sky, a white and elegant cloud rises leisurely. Cloud overlooks the earth, takes a deep look at its original shelter-a small pool, and then swims in the sky with the wind. The sky is so magical, the sun is so kind and gentle, the eagle is so vigorous and brave ... everything is so fresh and beautiful, much bigger and better than that small pool. Cloud thought, we must cherish this hard-won happiness.

Yes, it used to be just an unremarkable mud rain in a small pool, a partner of the pool and a friend of the sand. One day, it was a beautiful blue sky. As soon as it looked up, it suddenly caught a glimpse of a light cloud floating in the sky, and it had a beautiful vision in its heart. A friend is eager to stay, but it says it is like an arrow that opens the bow. Friends have to bless it and tell it to come back to them if it is tired. So this rain is willing to endure the pain of sun moxibustion, and after all kinds of hardships, it has got rid of all the vulgarity, like a beautiful and moving cloud floating in the sky.

Clouds are floating freely in the air. During the day, I occasionally pass the birds and greet the sun. Greet the stars or chat with the moon at night. From east to west, from south to north, in this way, the clouds traveled all over the sky with enthusiasm. Gone with the wind, gone with the wind, one day, the cloud suddenly became aimless, how small the vast sky itself seemed, and a sense of wandering loneliness deeply invaded it. Thinking of the friendly warmth of the sun on weekdays, Yun is eager to follow it and accompany it to rise and fall in the west, and never drift with the wind again. However, when it told the sun its wish, the sun said, "No, no, you will block my brilliant light and become my stumbling block." Clouds have to quietly avoid the sun, wandering in the sky, wandering into a faint sadness, some desolate.

Clouds think of the quiet and bright days of the stars and the moon, and long to be with them in the quiet night sky. However, it was also politely rejected. Clouds have to avoid the stars and the moon silently, floating in the wind with sadness in their hearts, like falling flowers and flowing water, without direction.

The sun is still shining, and the stars and the moon are still shining. Clouds, still floating in the wind, wandering in the air.

Clouds faintly remind of the warmth of the pool, the sincerity of the precipitation, and a tear falling in the wind. Standing in my first rising sky, a strong desire to go home grows in the heart of the cloud like fire and wind. On the ground in the distance, the small pools are waiting for it with an unchanging attitude.

Late at night.

Cold wind.

Cold rain is falling.

For a while, some hot things kept falling into that small pool. It's not rain, it's tears of clouds on a cold night.

Under the night sky, a small pool is receiving it with its broad and warm mind.

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be magnanimous

There is a fable in Wen Li Gong Ji written by Li Ao in the Tang Dynasty: two people ride a national horse and a fine horse side by side. The good horse bit the neck of the Chinese horse's mane and made it bleed, but the Chinese horse continued to drive. The steed came home shivering, without touching grass or water. After the horse was comforted-closed its nose and ate with it, the horse recovered as before.

At the beginning of reading this article, I was angry at the cruelty and bullying of horses, and even more angry at their incompetence and cowardice. But when I saw the final change of Jingma, I couldn't help secretly cheering for Guoma, cheering for the tolerant spirit of Guoma and cheering for the harmony and applause brought by tolerance.

Tolerance is a kind of silent education, which will eventually make the person who hurts you willing or unwilling to go to the dock of the moral court and accept the trial of his conscience: Ma was shocked by the tolerance of the country and Malaysia and blamed himself. This kind of silent education will eventually inspire the wounded with a lingering conscience to live an upright life. The story of "Lianlin meets" gives us profound enlightenment. If Lin Xiangru is also a petty person, and Lian Po, I'm afraid Zhao would have been annexed. It is precisely because of Lin Xiangru's magnanimity of serving the country regardless of personal interests that he inspired and educated Lian Po and made him offer a humble apology. Even the turn of the forest made it difficult to send troops to attack Zhao easily. Tolerance has had an unexpected and great effect.

The result of tolerance is to make a person walk wider and wider on the road of life. "Only forgiveness can win people" is a wise saying, otherwise it will be difficult and even gradually perish. The national horse is tolerant of good horses, and the two horses have been neck and neck since then, and they have gone to glory together. Xiang Yu, who struggled to pull out the mountain, lacked tolerance. At first, Chen Ping and Han Xin, who were good at fighting, left him. In the end, even Fan Zeng, the closest "son and father", was forced away, only to end up under siege and commit suicide in Wujiang River. It can be seen that only with real tolerance will we not make enemies on all sides and be in a dilemma.

Here, it is necessary for us to learn from the practice of Guoma: its tolerance makes the horse feel ashamed, and then it comforts the horse with tolerance and makes the horse become a friend. So in a sense, forgiving others is also forgiving yourself. Give others some space and you will get a blue sky. Let's have this blue sky, be tolerant!

The story of national horse and good horse should be a mirror for people to reflect on themselves and understand others in real life. With the development of market economy and fierce competition, the relationship between people will become more and more tense. Isn't there a saying now that there are no fathers and sons in business? Once someone's money, status and reputation conflict, someone will abandon tolerance, pick up the knife of "an eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth" and cut it at the opponent. In fact, these people don't understand the meaning of tolerance. Tolerance is the vanilla in the valley, which makes people smell better; It is the steep rocks and golden pine trees that make people harder and harder.

Of course, tolerance is not unprincipled tolerance, no matter how tolerant the object is. The object of tolerance must be "good horses", not "bad horses". It is a person whose conscience is still alive and suddenly changed. We must not tolerate vicious gangsters and lawless villains.

As the old saying goes, tolerance is great and tolerance is high. Let's have a tolerant attitude. After many years, you will find that on the road of life, you have left an intoxicating and magnificent scenery.

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