Zhuge Liang's empty plan lies in his accurate judgment of Sima Yi's inner thoughts. If Zhuge Liang is caught by Sima Yi at this time, Wei will lose such a strong enemy as Zhuge Liang, and Sima Yi's role will not be great, and the enemy will be defeated and the adviser will die. Therefore, Zhuge Liang expected that Sima Yi would choose to let him go and save his own strategy.
The so-called no hurry and no rashness is a measure; It is easy to be impatient when things happen, and the small level is caused by personal character, which is what we often call impatience and bad temper; It is wisdom to treat things calmly, objectively and realistically analyze and judge the deep-seated purpose behind the appearance, and then make a decision; Under what circumstances should you show impatience? Under what circumstances must we be calm? Discretion must be in place;
After Guan Yu was killed in Maicheng, Zhang Fei was eager to avenge his second brother and assigned his men an impossible task. If he doesn't finish it, he will kill his subordinates and eventually lead to his own death. This is a typical case of not being calm and not being measured. When the second brother is killed, he must show no revenge and swear not to be human, but he should also analyze the problem according to time and make a feasible revenge plan. As the saying goes, it's not too late for a gentleman to take revenge for ten years, and he will stay in the green hills without fear of firewood.
The so-called supercilious, is a principle; Modesty is excessive modesty, arrogance is excessive pride, immodesty and arrogance is a kind of bottom line thinking, a kind of red line thinking, I don't touch the red line, at the institutional or legal level, I don't do offline behavior, at the human or moral level;
At the same time, in the face of others touching their own bottom line and principles, dare to make a clear attitude, resolutely say "no" and safeguard their personal dignity and reasonable interests; Life is worse than death.
The so-called humiliation is a gift; Without the repeated baptism of setbacks and success, it is impossible to bear the pain of failure, let alone face the temptation of success; Only by tempering into steel can we forget humiliation and take our time; The joys and sorrows are invisible, the likes and dislikes are not shown, the joys and sorrows are not revealed, and they are prepared for danger in times of peace, and they are sleepy without losing their ambition.
Zhuge Liang confronted Sima Yi in Wuzhangyuan. Because the Shu army has difficulty in transporting grain, it must be done quickly. However, Sima Yi realized Zhuge Liang's weakness, so he adopted the strategy of avoiding war to consume the Shu army. Zhuge Liang sent Sima Yi women's clothes to humiliate him in order to anger him. However, Sima Yi, who was very shrewd, saw through Zhuge Liang's strategy, killed Zhuge Liang without anger and won the final victory.
Not being influenced by emotions is a strong self-control ability; Everyone knows that "impulse is the devil". Things can't crush people, but emotions can crush people. Many times, the problem is not the thing itself, but the transfer of emotions, which complicates the problem;
Du has a famous saying: first-class people have the ability and no temper; Second-class, capable and tempered; Third class, no ability, no temper; Fourth-class, incompetent, and tempered; A truly wise person is one who knows how to control his emotions.
To sum up, there is no cold, where is the plum blossom fragrance! Without rich life experience and profound reflection, people can't be indifferent, unhurried, unhurried and supercilious. What we learned from the paper is superficial, and we know nothing about it. We should set a grand goal in life and strive for it step by step by relying on down-to-earth practice. 1, sleep quality should be guaranteed. Whether engaged in physical or mental labor, or even under pressure, it is a kind of consumption for people, so it is very important to have a good sleep.
A study by scientists from the University of California, Berkeley and Harvard Medical School found that a lack of sleep for one night can lead to more activity in the area of the brain responsible for emotional management, which indicates that lack of sleep is easy to get out of control.
You see, I can't sleep well and it's hard to be calm.
If you are busy, I think you should adjust your nap every day and go to bed at night. If you don't sleep at night, you will collapse the next day, and continue to collapse at noon and afternoon for a long time.
2. Exercise more when you have time. If you don't exercise regularly, your physical function will decline. A person in poor health will be too tired to move. It hurts here and there, and his mood will not be calm.
In fact, you don't need to apply for a fitness card or report to class.
You can choose to go out for a run, just run near your home and sweat. You don't care about running a lot a day. You should stick to it and go out running every day.
You can also choose to take a walk and go a little further. The process of walking is also conducive to the recovery of your mood.
3. Read more books and think more when you are free. Find a relatively quiet place that doesn't affect your attention, sit down and read a book by yourself, and you will soon calm down.
The more books we read, the more we can understand things, and the more we can understand them. There are all kinds of life in the book. Maybe we are not happy at present, but we may find some answers from books.
4. Reduce expectations of people and things. Don't expect or be disappointed.
If you have no hope for a person or a thing, you won't be too surprised and disappointed in case of out-of-line behavior.
We should be fair and scientific in our understanding of ourselves, and we should not set unrealistic goals for ourselves, nor demand too much of ourselves, let alone demand too much of ourselves. In this case, you will gradually fade away.
5. Deal with things that make you angry later. Some things will break you down. If this matter doesn't have to be solved immediately, it can be delayed. For example, if you attend your child's parent-teacher conference and the teacher criticizes you and your child in front of all parents, you want to beat your baby on the ground when you go home. In fact, you can sleep first, and when you wake up, your anger will be much less. Things will be relatively peaceful at this time.
If it's urgent, I suggest you go to the bathroom for a few minutes, wash your face, take a few deep breaths, calm down a little, and then talk. After all, it won't do you any good if you go crazy and hit people. Think about the consequences. Maybe things can't be solved. You have offended everyone.
6, how to solve the problem, only money. This sentence seems ridiculous, but it makes sense.
Don't think too much, work hard and make money.
More money is not necessarily good, but no money must be sad.
With more money, you don't have to worry too much about your livelihood. In this way, people's troubles will be much less, and there will be nothing to be angry and angry about. It's hard to calm down. Come on, live a good life, live a good life.
The IQ should be high enough. Emotional people generally have low IQ and often make mistakes, which leads to bad mood and easy to lose their temper. I once had a boss who admired him very much, because no matter how many mistakes the following people made, he never lost his temper and always calmly analyzed problems, but everyone dared not listen to him. I've never seen him lose his temper. He speaks beautifully, has a clear mind, speaks well and is good at socializing. He is really good material for being a leader, and now he is the vice president of a large state-owned enterprise. I want to imitate him, but I can't imitate him. I can't get rid of the habit of getting excited easily. I have a low IQ and a low EQ.