Internal is better than external, and long-term is better than immediate.

Acquisition is better than talent, introspection is better than indoctrination.

2, if you can attack the heart, it will be self-defeating. You have known from ancient times that soldiers are not good at fighting.

It is wrong to combine leniency with severity without judging the situation. You should think hard about governing Shu in the future.

-Wuhou Temple in Chengdu

3. People around us will always help us;

It is also the people around us who embarrass us.

4. The highest state of doing things is to go with the flow, and the highest state of being a man is "a soldier who does not fight with others."

5, everything is not in the present, it is better to watch a play than to watch a play;

People have to take care of themselves, and sometimes they have to step down as soon as they come to power.

-Hengshan

First, Tao: the law of interpersonal communication

6. The law is about the overall situation.

7, always meet the actual and potential needs, so that others will be useful to you; Always consider each other's actual and potential feelings, so that others will think you are amiable.

8. Useful people are not necessarily amiable, and amiable people are not necessarily useful.

9. Only useful and amiable people can have a sustainable space for survival and development.

10, the existence of life: one depends on intelligence, and the other depends on wisdom.

1 1, intelligence: ① good memory; ② Attention is more persistent; ③ Observe carefully; 4 imagination should be rich; ⑤ thinking is more agile.

12, intelligence is used to understand problems, and wisdom is used to solve problems.

13, two qualities of wisdom: ① choice ② performance.

14, communication is the category of wisdom.

15, the core of communication: communication of information and feelings between people.

16. The purpose of communication: to share information, convey ideas, exchange opinions, express attitudes, exchange feelings and express wishes.

17, communication is a science: ① relationship theory: emphasizing interpersonal communication is a relationship; ② Emphasize that interpersonal communication is a dynamic process; ③ Content theory: emphasizing that interpersonal communication is the communication of information; ④ Unification theory: emphasizing that content and relationship are dialectical relations.

18. Communication is an art: ① Art is not equal to science; Art pays attention to creativity, non-repetition, and unique things.

19. The more mankind develops, the more artistic and scientific science becomes. They parted on the mountain road and met at the top of the mountain. (Flaubert, French writer)

20. The result of communication is to change people's behavior.

2 1, the use of communication methods, whatever is appropriate, we will use what communication.

22. Communication field: ① Socialization: People who are good at communication have many friends; ② Family life: a harmonious couple who are good at communication; Career development: People who are good at communication have a successful career.

23. Conditions for becoming friends: ① Must be in direct contact; ② Exchange information; 3 exchange feelings.

24. prerequisites for making friends: ① kindness and assertiveness. Interest is the foundation, and friendship is sublimation.

25. The more connotations, the less extensions; The more standards, the less conditions are met.

26. The foundation of love lies in fully affirming each other's advantages, and the foundation of marriage lies in fully containing each other and maintaining a long-term relationship.

27, arguing for decades, people say that marriage is good.

28. A family that is too lazy to quarrel will inevitably break up in the future.

29, the ideal family: find a balance between noisy and not noisy.

30. Employment purposes: ① Making a living; 2 show talent; ③ Determine social status.

3 1, the purpose of achieving employment is to deal with people. ① How to see the world through other people's eyes ② Control ③ Show ④ Trust.

32. Leaders are good at changing others' thoughts and behaviors with their own thoughts and behaviors.

33. There are two kinds of people in virtual space: ① fans: people who speak well of others; ② cynics: people who pat bricks on the back.

Second, the law: rules about interpersonal communication.

34. Laws and rules are different.

35. The essence of communication is to establish good interpersonal relationships through correct and appropriate interpersonal attraction. Doing things well at this point requires not only wisdom, but also wisdom to do things well according to the rules. Wisdom is a function of age. Those who don't know when they are young suffer, and those who don't know when they are old suffer. History cannot be assumed. Leaders cannot choose.

36. Communication focus: self, honesty, enthusiasm and tolerance.

37. Be patient with others-reflect your true self.

38. Your economic status and your living conditions can be jumped out by job-hopping; However, your political status and social status can only be achieved through hard work.

39. In the new unit: I made a mistake; Making a group of mistakes is called sin.

40. In a relatively long unit: a mistake is called a mistake; Making a set of mistakes is called style.

4 1. There are three kinds of people in the crowd: giving charcoal in the snow, adding icing on the cake and adding insult to injury.

42. Treat others with sincerity-reflect an honest self.

43, the mountain, do not need to rely on the mountain; People, but need to rely on people. (Spanish proverb)

44. Three basic principles of being a man: don't bully, keep promise and keep promise.

45. Affinity criteria: First, are others satisfied with what you have done? Second, is what you do convenient for others? Third, do others believe what you do?

46. "Eat a small loss to be in a pile."

47. Treat others peacefully-show a tolerant self.

48, "harmony" prospers the family, reading prospers the family, but "harmony" is the most prosperous family.

49. Dedicated to my mother, who gave me the love of life; Dedicated to Hillary, who gave me a life I love; Dedicated to Chelsea, bringing all the joy and meaning; I miss my grandfather, who taught us to respect people who are not respected by others, because after all, we are no different. (Clinton's My Life)

50. When a person thinks more about the interests of the other party, the result is often "harmony". When a person feels, the result is often "harmony". A person who thinks more about each other's difficulties often ends up with "harmony".

5 1, people who hurt others will eventually hurt themselves and will not be separated because of gains and losses. People who belittle others will eventually stab themselves, instead of judging right and wrong by likes and dislikes. Those who judge others judge themselves at last, and compare the success or failure of heroes.

52, sharp mouth hurts many people, and idioms are mixed.

53. People who measure a lot tend to have a small temper and many children with a big temper; People who smile often have fewer troubles and fewer friends; People who speak well tend to have less controversy, and those who have less controversy have more friends.

54. Small business is business; If it is big, it is politics; Small business is technology, and big business is life.

55. People who often do great things say that they are incompetent and lucky; People who are often unsuccessful say that they are capable and unlucky.

56, see the official: smart people-point to yourself, not others; Smart people-either think for themselves or others, and pursue a win-win situation; A smart person-either do nothing, no matter what he does, he will definitely achieve a win-win situation.

57. People are often smart or not.

58. Treat others with joy-reflect a passionate self.

59. "Man is an animal that pursues happiness" (Godfather)

60. Let your friends underestimate your strengths and your enemies overestimate your weaknesses.

6 1, optimistic people are always satisfied; A humorous person is always a satisfactory person; A relaxed person is always a satisfactory person.

62. People are not as tall as people, and water is not as flat as water.

63. First, no matter how satisfied I am, I won't make others feel wronged; Second, I can satisfy others, but I often don't let myself feel wronged; The third kind of people are always unlucky, so who will help you at a critical time? (American Secretary of State Powell Classic III)

Third, skills: methods of interpersonal communication

64. Knowledge changes long-term destiny, while skills change real life.

65. It's easier said than done, and it's easier said than done.