In life, there are always scenes where we meet a woman in the corner of the city, at least in appearance. I believe many men have encountered the problem of passing by with loss or bravely stepping forward. Going or not? What should I say when I sleep? Will she ignore me? When you think about these problems, you may have lost the opportunity to know and communicate with this MM. Go forward with a smile and you will find it easy to strike up a conversation.
I talked to mm many times, and the overall success rate was over 80%. Personally, chatting up is the best way to test a man's communicative ability and overall cultivation. A successful conversation contains wisdom and courage, which is an art. Let me talk about some superficial views and experiences.
People and articles
Harmony is a man-made factor in accosting people, which can be analyzed from three angles: the accosted person, the accosted object and the people around the accosted object.
Personal factors: first of all, you should look average. Of course, handsome guys have an advantage in this respect, but women are different from men. A man with an average appearance and a normal figure can also get their favor. A man who is too beautiful and ostentatious sometimes makes them feel disgusted. Looks are natural, but clothes can be changed. Try not to wear anything like Hahan's clothes or quaint clothes to strike up a conversation. Maybe you think you are cool, but women are inherently insecure, and no matter how cool and handsome they are, they can't resist their deep fear of strangers. The suit and tie are not very good either. If you're not wearing Armani, at least take off your tie.
An ordinary T-shirt and a pair of jeans are enough. The key is to be clean and tidy, so that girls can feel that you are a serious person first, so that you can get close to her and make her believe what you say.
Target object: it is the target mm, which is a person's skill to survive in society. Observe the object you want to shoot first, and see what type she is to suit the remedy to the case. Of course, it takes experience, but at least she can always tell if she is in a good mood now! If her eyes fall on you, you'd better smile (very important) and see if she will smile back; If your eyes meet, it's best not to avoid or retreat. This is the best opportunity to turn passive into active, and see if she will bow her head shyly. If she can, then you can say that you have succeeded halfway.
People around the target: mm rarely acts alone, and in most cases she has companions around her. We should take a good look at this. It's silly to talk to a mm, and her boyfriend will come over soon.
When Mm has female companions, it is not good to have too many female companions. It bothers me to talk about them. You'd better forgive yourself if they ask you to invite all of them to dinner. After all, you only care about one of them. The situation of the two female companions is good, because at this time, the two female companions will go aside to chat by themselves. In the case of a female companion (which is the most common situation), it is the most difficult, because the relationship between them is relatively close. She cares about talking to you, which will cause dissatisfaction with her partner. It's embarrassing that you can't care about both of them at the same time. The target mm may also deliberately put on a high profile because of this. At this time, your language communication ability will be tested. If you find that there is no companion after careful observation, and it is a godsend, act quickly!
Case: Location: Wu Yueyuan, Xuhui District, Shanghai.
When I was a sophomore, many people went to the game room on the third floor of May Garden, which contained many MMs. I often go there to play kof when I don't have a girlfriend. Once I noticed a mm, wearing a denim skirt and half long hair, which looked good. After careful observation, she found that she had an inseparable female companion, and the relationship between them seemed to be good. That female companion wears glasses and takes good care of that mm's appearance. I didn't make a move until my date went out. Mm is playing bubble dragon, so I'll put in a coin to play with her. In less than 30 seconds, mm was ko by me. She looks a little overwhelmed and seems to want to leave. I helped her put in a coin and said to her with a casual smile, "Would you like to play with me again?" After a few words, I felt that she had been laughing, and asked her for a phone number without saying anything. My intuition tells me that there is a game. But just then, the woman came back. This is a disaster. The dinosaur with glasses first glared at me, and then took mm away. I missed it and failed, I think.
I stayed in the game room for a while. If I lost anything, I went downstairs to Xinya Dabao. After ordering something, I turned around and saw mm and the glasses girl sitting not far away and passed out. They also saw me, and I smiled politely. I chose a table far away from them for dinner. I ate faster, and they didn't eat well after eating. I wanted to go straight back, but I finally went to their desk and said hello: "Hello!" " "Facts have proved that my decision is correct. Just as I walked out of Xinya's big bag for about 20 steps, mm caught up with me and gave me a note with her phone number and mobile phone on it.
Shi Tian tablets
"Everything is ready, only the east wind." Just in time. Heaven is always changing. Which season of the year has the highest success rate? In what climate is the possibility of success high? When is the easiest time to strike up a conversation in a day?
The ancients said that women in spring are Qiu Si scholars, which makes sense. But it's different when talking to people. I think the success rate of hitting on people is the same all year round, whether it's windy or rainy. There is no problem that the weather affects success. The key is whether you can use it or not.
For myself, I hardly go out with an umbrella, especially at school. Rainy days are the best weather for me. Because it rains, you can borrow an umbrella from mm, so there are mm everywhere in classrooms, restaurants, libraries and normal universities. And the reason is grandiose, you can say that it will be sent to you in one minute. You can buy one from the supermarket under the mm umbrella, or you can get one from the dormitory. Umbrella is not your purpose, the key is that she knows you when she borrows it, and trusts you initially when she returns it. It is recommended to borrow it from the restaurant when eating, because there are more mm there, which is not as tiring as running the classroom. More importantly, mm seldom comes to dinner alone. You can borrow her umbrella and let her go with her date. I did this to get her phone number directly. It can also be used outside the school. Don't be timid because of the bad weather.
When is the best time of day to strike up a conversation? It is very inappropriate to strike up a conversation at night, unless it is in a specific place. Human nature is afraid of the dark, and with the improvement of adulthood, girls are more afraid of the dark than boys. Personally, I don't strike up a conversation at night. I don't forget the past and learn from the future. At night, it is difficult for mm to see your face clearly and feel the sincerity you want to express. It's really hard. This refers to some relatively empty places, such as roads, playgrounds and so on. Besides, if you can't see her clearly, you will inevitably mistake her for a beautiful woman. So for your safety and hers, try to avoid chatting in an open place at night.
Case: Location: Changqiao District, Xuhui District, Shanghai
I was a sophomore. At that time, when I rented a house in Changqiao Sancun, I often had to take 13 1 or 804 to go to class. Sitting at 13 1 at night is a sin, and it will be squeezed into a human shape. One night, I came out of school and noticed a mm while waiting for the bus at the station. She looks cute in a pink sweater and with broken hair. However, he looks younger. I guess he is a student in the middle school attached to Normal University or has come to Normal University to make up lessons. She went to 13 1 and I followed her. I've been staring at her. The bus was crowded and she protected herself well. There are more and more people on the bus. It's a tragedy that beautiful girls squeeze into buses or subways. . . . . . There are too many unfortunate people in the world. I have been waiting for the bus with few people, trying to squeeze in to help her block, and I also have the psychology of knowing and protecting her, but there are too many people on the bus.
At the station of Shanghai Middle School, she got off the bus like a fly, and I just got off at that station. I looked at my watch. It's almost 10. She walked in front, and I was wondering if I should go up and strike up a conversation. At that time, the environment was very bad, and the street lights around were very dark. It happened that I wore a rather quaint dark blue T-shirt, and more importantly, she just got off the bus. Reason told me I couldn't go up, but in the end I persisted in a daze. "Hello, classmate, can you meet me?" I said: She seemed startled and kept turning to look at me. Damn it, why is this street lamp so dim? I thought, keep talking to her. She replied to me, feeling very flustered. The light of the street lamp is getting weaker and weaker. There is no light at the corner of the intersection ahead, and she walks faster and faster. It's probably over, I think, slowing down, but still following her. After a walk, there is an entrance to a new village in front, and there is a very bright street lamp. Judging from her appearance, she is about to cross the road. I know this is the last chance. I stopped her: "classmate". She looked back. At that time, the street lamp flashed in my eyes: "Is there really no chance to know each other?" I stopped and she stopped. We looked at each other for about ten seconds, and she asked, "Can you speak Shanghainese?" I smiled and said nothing. I saw her smile, too. Watching her walk into the new village, I think it's really a failure this time.
Geographical articles
"Those who win the world have the right time, place and people." Geographical location is also a key factor in chatting up people, so we should put aside some special places here. Chatting up in special places is often directly related to sex, and it is likely to involve money, which is not considered here for the time being.
In most cases, a relatively closed place is better than an open place, and a place with people is better than a place without people. Classrooms, buses and restaurants are all quite good places to strike up a conversation; On the busy road, the playground was almost there. I don't know if it's because women are responsible for raising the next generation, so it's easier to feel safe in a relatively closed place, which is why most women want a warm small family more than men. But this is not absolute. No one is stupid enough to talk to a woman in front of 10 people in a closed elevator. All elevators have monitors. If only you and the girl you've always wanted to know are in the elevator to work, it's an opportunity given to you by God!
In most cases, you can't choose the place to strike up a conversation, because you can't predict the direction of MM, just wait for a better environment, and sometimes you will lose the opportunity. Therefore, the knowledge of geographical location is the most difficult for a chat-up person to master. It requires long-term practice and reasoning, and it needs to be applied in combination with the right time, the right place and the right person, so that it can be recruited without success.
Case: Location: Southern suburb of Shanghai Normal University
That was my junior year and I moved to New Village of Normal University. As far as hitting on mm is concerned, I have been through many battles. That night, a group of wolves and I taught reading and foraging in the southern suburbs. Southern religion is not big, just three floors. Boring, we always look at the classroom separately and look for mm, but I didn't. I was smoking in the window on the second floor, and a "wolf" friend came to report that there was a beautiful mm in the classroom of this building. We immediately rushed over to check and saw a mm in the first row of the window of a classroom, with long black hair like a waterfall and graceful figure, which is my favorite type. All the "wolf" friends looked at each other, and you started fighting for the prey before you got it. I am more awake: "Please, I haven't seen my face yet. What's the hurry?" "Must be good, even with this figure. . . . "(Ugly, omit the word 100)" Are you afraid? " A "wolf" friend used stimulation. "Don't look at your usual scenery. I don't think I can meet this type of woman. " Haha, shall I bet you? I promise to get a call from her tonight! "After verbally agreed on a big meal, a group of us filed in.
I went straight to the seat behind her and sat down. The "wolf" friends behind me were really not interesting enough and gave a strange laugh. I looked a little when I passed in front of her just now, and my face was not bad. I watched it carefully in the back for a while. It's really perfect hair and beautiful shoulders. I still keep my head down, quite feminine, but I feel very introverted. I think it's a bit tricky. Over time, mm will leave at any time, and it is not easy to succeed directly by chatting up or passing a note. Then what should I do? Just then, mm stood up, damn it! You can't leave. Good thing I didn't take anything. I went to the bathroom. I thought about it. After a while, there was a piece of paper under her book. After a while, mm came back. After sitting down, she saw this piece of paper and felt that she smiled quietly, then took out her mobile phone. I turned around and made a victory sign to all my wolf friends. Moments later, my mobile phone rang, and I received a short message from mm in front. My handwriting on the paper is: classmate, your hair is really beautiful! What is the secret of protecting the law? /kloc-0 135xxxxxxxx Wu.
Miscellaneous articles-use of tools
If the public wants to do a good job, they must first sharpen their tools. The tool here is just a tool. Just like picking up girls, there are many tools to use. Using these well will definitely get twice the result with half the effort. The most eye-catching thing is transportation. Don't talk to mm with a small battery. Bicycles are better than this. If you have a sports car, even the Geely Beauty Leopard is a weapon for those who want to compete. A friend and I drove a silver sports car around the campus of Normal University. This guy also removed the silencer and turned on the stereo at full blast. This kind of lethality has reached a considerable level, but mm's motivation is questionable.
Not everyone has a sports car, and not everyone can afford a puppy. Sometimes puppies are even more lethal than sports cars. I often hide a puppy in my backpack and visit Normal University. I sat downstairs in the camphor garden where milk tea was sold and took the puppy out. I saw mm people swarming in. Of course, waiting for the rabbit may not find your favorite MM. At this time, the dog will suffer a little, so give him a bath. . . . . . Looking for mm with a wet dog: "Do you have a hair dryer, classmate?"
It happened again.
In addition, there are many props to use. Due to space constraints, it is not too cumbersome. In fact, tools are only an auxiliary means, and the key is * * * own understanding of the weather, places and people.
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In this world, it can be said that there is no mm who can't strike up a conversation. The only question is whether she will let you chat up. Even if you are a handsome man; Even if you have money, you can't get mm's phone number without chatting up. Chatting up is to show your masculine charm in all directions. A successful chat-up will make you more confident and attractive. Well, don't equate flirting with lewdness. In countries like France and Italy, if a man doesn't know the skills of hitting on people, he will be laughed at. Ask yourself, you can talk to complete strangers online, why can't you accept the admiration of normal men in real life?
I wish every man can pass by himself and become friends or even partners with the mm who passed by in the future. Love is innocent, long live dialogue!
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1 1 Tips to help you say goodbye to singles.
1, surprisingly unexpected
Application type: suitable for both men and women
One afternoon on the pedestrian street, Miss Kobayashi wandered alone. Suddenly a man came up and asked politely, "Miss, what time is it?" Kobayashi said apologetically, "Sorry, I don't have my watch and mobile phone, and I don't know the time."
At this moment, the man held out his hand, pointed to his watch and said, "I know it's 3: 50 p.m. Beijing time, and there's a movie on at the cinema over there at 4: 00." May I invite you to see it? "
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Success probability: ★★★★
Friendly reminder: this method is for both men and women and only applies to people with a sense of humor.
2. Direct attack method
Application type: suitable for both men and women
Zhao Zhao and some friends came out of the cafe, and the man who had been paying attention to her in the cafe just now followed. Zhao Zhao did Sarah laugh, don't know what's the point of such childish tracking. The man stepped up to catch up with her, walked up to her in a few steps, spread out his hands and stopped him. He looked Zhao Zhao in the eye and said seriously, "Hello! My name is * *, and I'm a junior majoring in * * at C University. I really want to know you and make friends with you. " Friends burst into laughter, and Zhao Zhao smiled back and said to him, "Just be an ordinary friend. Hello, my name is Zhao Zhao. "
Success probability: ★★★★★
Friendly reminder: sincerity is the greatest secret of success in chatting up people. In front of people who are at a loss, you can gain trust by introducing yourself frankly.
3. Free time utilization method
Application type: suitable for both men and women
Xiao Wang has gone to Beijing on business. He was tired of being patted on the shoulder because the plane was delayed at the airport. He turned around and saw that the person who took his picture was actually a beautiful woman. She asked, "Do you also take the * * flight? Is it really late? " It turns out that beautiful women also travel alone. Xiao Wang suggested going to the airport cafe for a drink, and the beauty readily agreed.
Success probability: ★★★★★
Friendly reminder: while waiting for the plane to go on a date, the environment and mood are good, and there is a little loneliness in "We Meet". We understand. What is the relationship between acquaintances? So the chances of hitting on people are higher. Similarly, this method also applies to trains and ships.
4, vest left word method
Application Type: Male
Xiao Si used to take a bus all the way, with the girl he often saw. One day, the girl finally had a chance to talk to him. She sat behind him, and Xiao Si vaguely felt that something was going to happen. Sure enough, the vest suddenly felt itchy. He didn't look back and knew what she was doing. At the station, Xiao Si got off as usual.
The white T-shirt vest he is wearing says: I see you every day, can I be friends? My phone number is 139. ...
Success probability: ★★★
Friendly reminder: not every man has such good self-restraint. You can write it on his vest. He will probably jump up and shout, "Oh, my God! My CK! " As for women who love clothes like life, this method is absolutely impossible!
5, the palm left word method
Application type: male, generous female
For details, see San Mao's "The rainy season doesn't come". She found a boy who had a crush on him for a long time on the playground. Without saying a word, she took his hand and wrote his name and home phone number on his palm. A kind of romance that silence speaks louder than sound spreads in the hearts of two teenagers.
Success probability: ★★★
Friendly reminder: when you rush to grab his or her hand, you may have to make a simple explanation, such as: I am not a bad person! Wait, otherwise it may be misunderstood as robbery. After all, silence is better than sound, and not everyone can appreciate it.
6. bosom friends are hard to find.
Application type: suitable for both men and women
On the Mid-Autumn Festival, the school was blacked out. Two girls, Silent and Mosquito, are wandering around the campus, with nowhere to go, and no one is cute. I was depressed when I suddenly saw two boys walking by with their guitars on their backs. After consulting with mosquitoes silently, I boldly went up and asked, "Can I listen to you play a song?" Perhaps it was the hazy moonlight, the annoying power outage and the girl's pleading that made them move and immediately agreed to their date.
Success probability: ★★★★★
Friendly reminder: anyone likes to show his strengths, especially those with special skills. This reason sounds beautiful.
7. How do hooligans muddle along
Application type: male, kind-hearted female
This is the real way to talk to the devil. At lunch time, she came to her usual leisure restaurant, holding a spoon in her hand, went to the man who looked pleasing to the eye and said to him blankly, "Your food looks delicious." Can I have some? " He blushed and stammered, "Go ahead." The laughter of friends around reminded him and quickly added, "Why don't I treat you to a key meal?"
Probability of success: ★
Friendly reminder: it is said to be the devil's method of chatting up.
Step 8 ask for advice with an open mind
Application type: suitable for both men and women
He Da has a crush on the girl who wears a red bathing suit and swims breaststroke well in the swimming pool. He swam to the girl and asked, "Hello, you are a good breaststroke swimmer. Can you give me some advice? " The girl looked at him suspiciously, and he immediately said, "I know butterflies." Why don't we exchange experiences and lessons? " The girl smiled.
Success probability: ★★★★★
Friendly reminder: Be modest, really be modest, and hide the meaning of drunkards. The possibility of rejection is not without, but at least it won't embarrass you.
9, pour praise method
Application type: suitable for both men and women, especially for women.
Su Dong caught up with the girl coming out of the shopping mall: "How to get to Renmin South Road?" After the girl led the way, he took a deep breath and said, "God, can you tell me what perfume you are wearing?" She immediately looked at him warily, and he explained, "I've been looking for this perfume for a long time." Did you buy it in this shopping center? What brand? How much is it? " A series of questions about perfume let the girl off her guard. She kindly told him the answer and took him to the counter. Of course I bought the perfume, but he gave it to her.
Success probability: ★★★★
Friendly reminder: be careful to ask only what you want to ask, and don't let the other person think that you are planning something else. Wear everything, don't wear flattery, everyone likes his taste to be recognized. And people are kind. When he (she) tells you the answer, he (she) also has time to see you clearly. Is it worthwhile to leave a phone number?
10, theater mate selection method
Application Type: Female
At the entrance of the theater, Haiyang held two most popular theater tickets, but the friend who had arranged to come together broke the appointment temporarily. He wants to see it, thinks it's boring to be alone, and doesn't want to sell it to scalpers. At this time, a pair of girls nearby were asking the scalper about the ticket price, and they were about to give up when the ticket price was hit. Ocean went over to one of the girls and said, "May I invite you and your friends to the theater?" He gave the tickets to two girls, with only one request. He hopes that the girl he is chatting with will invite him to tea in the future. The selfless act immediately touched the girl and took the initiative to make an appointment for the meeting time and place.
Ocean left happily, a drama that can be watched or not, in exchange for an unknown love, he felt very cost-effective.
Success probability: ★★★★★
Friendly reminder: this spirit of giving up the ego to achieve the overall situation is very convincing, but girls are easy to be together. Don't make a bad proposal that only invites one person to see it, or the probability of success will drop to zero immediately.
1 1, mobile phone dating method
Application type: suitable for both men and women
Dandan met him at the light rail station and fell in love at first sight. After getting on the bus, she has been thinking about how to strike up a conversation with him so as not to be misunderstood as 13 o'clock. Seeing that the bus was about to arrive at the station, she was anxious and stepped forward and said, "Can I borrow your mobile phone?"
Maybe she looked really anxious (not on the phone, of course), so he handed her the phone at once. After Danny pressed a few numbers on it, her cell phone rang. Looking at his puzzled look, she smiled and said, "My number is already on your mobile phone. Can I contact you often in the future? "
Success probability: ★★★★★
Friendly reminder: Although there are frequent cell phone robberies, there are many good people after all. As long as the appearance is not "criminal", you can generally borrow the other party's mobile phone. This method is both implicit and effective, and it is worth a try.
most important of all ...........
Courage+confidence.