1, manage your emotions.
Anger and losing your temper are never signs of high emotional intelligence. Some people spread sesame seeds and mung beans as soon as they encounter small things, and then they may make bad behaviors, scold others with their mouths, or throw things hard. Those who have children at home vent on them, but they don't know that this is a manifestation of low emotional intelligence.
When negative emotions appear, we should calmly find out the reasons and immediately resist when we know the reasons, instead of letting the emotions erupt and make irrational behaviors or say extremely hurtful words.
People with high emotional intelligence know how to face up to emotions first and then manage them well. When people have negative emotions, they should learn to divert stimuli, do things that are beneficial to their physical and mental health to achieve the purpose of diverting attention, and tell themselves: be the leader of emotions, not the slave of emotions.
2. Learn to reject others
In life, some people will accept other people's demands because of face problems, but they are forced to do things they obviously don't want to do, for fear that others will say that you are heartless and far away from you. This is to help others wronged themselves and be a good person.
When the other person's request makes you uncomfortable, if you don't want to do it, you should politely refuse others on the spot, instead of thinking behind your back: I don't want to help him, but I'm afraid the other person will alienate you. Meditate in your mind, consider your own factors first, and love yourself first.
People with low emotional intelligence often consider how others feel about themselves, but they don't care about liking me, focusing on what they want to do, and not knowing how to refuse others. If you want to do it, you must promise others. If you don't want to do it, you must refuse decisively and listen to your inner voice. People who know how to refuse others are smart and have high emotional intelligence.
3. Don't bring negative energy to others.
Emotion is like an infectious chain, which is contagious. Put a positive, cheerful and energetic person with a negative one together, and one person will become unhappy and negative under the influence of another person.
Some people are full of negative energy, and it is good to vent these negative things on social networks once or twice, but after a long time, others will think that you are a grouchy and negative person, and then they will block you out and hack you.
People with high emotional intelligence will reasonably release their negative energy by talking or writing, instead of replacing the original negative thinking mode with the current positive thinking.
Step 4 keep your mouth shut
People with low emotional intelligence can't control their mouths and don't pay attention to what they should say and what they shouldn't say. As long as they want to say something, they can't stop talking, but saying it without careful consideration may hurt people's hearts. The so-called disaster comes from the mouth and causes unnecessary trouble to yourself.
To improve emotional intelligence, you should control your mouth and think about it for three seconds. Don't talk too much, leave three points, lest others think that you are overreaching, unrealistic and incompetent when you can't do it yourself.
5. Have an inclusive attitude.
When you see others make mistakes, don't always criticize others' mistakes, because considering that everyone makes mistakes, no one is perfect and has no money. People just need to learn from their mistakes and sum up their experience.
If you tolerate others, you will tolerate yourself. Tolerance is a virtue.
People with high emotional intelligence know how to tolerate others, and don't just see their shortcomings everywhere, just like when they sometimes make mistakes, they consider others, themselves and others.