Treat courtship letters correctly. It seems that the best way for middle school students to express hazy love is to write love letters. Adolescent boys and girls are full of curiosity and yearning for the opposite sex. I often can't restrain my inner impulse, pour my inner love and affection into my pen, and convey my love to each other through love letters. This is a very normal performance. However, this does not mean that middle school students can let their feelings develop freely without restraint. The best way is to freeze. The so-called freezing means that you should clearly express your attitude of stopping puppy love that has arrived or is coming soon. But the premise is: respect others and don't hurt others' self-esteem. The feeling of first love is often pure and sincere. We should protect and guide him, not destroy him Never be cynical, let alone rudely stop it. However, freezing does not mean extinction. On the one hand, freezing means that the attitude of not falling in love is firm, but on the other hand, it is also a respect for first love, which means that there can be a day of thawing in the future, and then a decision can be made when the conditions of both parties are ripe.
We know about this case. The taste of puppy love is bitter after all. So, how to treat the courtship letter correctly?
The most inappropriate way is to write back to the other party immediately and reprimand others; Report to the teacher. Ask teachers to punish "pursuers"; Tell your family, ask your parents to help you solve it, and make the contents of the letter public in the whole class, so that the other party is ashamed.
Imagine what is wrong with the above four practices. If you put yourself in the other person's shoes, I write you a love letter just to express your affection and admiration. If the other party has no "obscene, indecent" words or purposes, then if you take these measures, it will not only hurt your classmates' self-esteem, but also affect your normal friendship. The result of doing this is often to lose another friend who cares about you.
So what is the right thing to do? The best way is to freeze. The so-called freezing means that you should clearly express your attitude of stopping puppy love that has arrived or is coming soon. But the premise is: respect others and don't hurt others' self-esteem. The feeling of first love is often pure and sincere. We should protect and guide him, not destroy him Never be cynical, let alone rudely stop it. However, freezing does not mean extinction. On the one hand, freezing means that the attitude of not falling in love is firm, but on the other hand, it is also a respect for first love, which means that there can be a day of thawing in the future, and then a decision can be made when the conditions of both parties are ripe. The specific way is as follows:
Pretend as if nothing had happened. Some boys may write you love letters on impulse. If you reply immediately, it may make the other party mistakenly think that you care about the other party and may lead to more disputes. If you pretend nothing happened, you will still be with me as usual.
When he comes and goes, he can neither be too distant, show deliberate avoidance, nor show closeness and enthusiasm. After a period of time, he may understand your attitude and quit.
Face to face communication. If you pretend as if nothing has happened, the other person will still pursue you and pester you in every way. At this time, you can communicate directly with each other face to face, tell each other that you can be friends, maintain good friendship, and ensure that you will keep secrets for each other. You can also take the opportunity to give love letters to each other during the conversation to show your firm attitude. In short, when dealing with love letters, be careful, respect each other, don't hurt feelings, and don't embarrass each other.
Ask others for help. If the above two methods don't work, and he still haunts you, even after you have warned many times, it is necessary for you to hire a third party you trust. For example, the class reunion will convey your meaning and call parents or teachers when necessary to avoid unnecessary trouble.
Rational control of unrequited love. Just like the little girl in the case, if you are in endless yearning for a boy or girl now, and the other person's every move is worrying about your nerves, this power makes you unable to extricate yourself, then you might as well use sublimation. You should control your feelings with reason and try to get yourself out of the whirlpool of feelings. Cultivate your strong enterprising spirit and tell yourself to cherish your youth, study hard and master a skill, instead of indulging in the dispute of loving children. You can read some biographies of great men, or extract famous sayings from celebrities, and urge yourself to constantly surpass your ideals.
Self-suggestion is also a good solution. Always remind yourself: "There are more important things waiting for me to do." "Don't entertain foolish ideas", divert your attention appropriately, do something interesting, and devote yourself wholeheartedly. For example, go to the sports ground to play ball, read novels and listen to music. In addition, transfer your activity space. Try to reduce the chances of being alone with him or her, pay more attention to participating in group activities, expand your social circle, and dilute the "love relationship" surrounded by many levels and angles with friendship.
No one will eat immature green fruit, its aftertaste is bitter and astringent. Middle school students who are increasing their knowledge, it is best not to be emotional, you need reason. Walking into a dead end, if you want to get out, you have to pay the price, and a bright future will open for you. There are many beautiful things worth pursuing and experiencing. Swans travel to Wan Li Road because they aim high, while eagles fight the sky because they have a great vision. Today, you should work hard, use all your time and energy, and also for tomorrow's harvest. Don't concentrate your pursuit and ambition in the world of two people too early. Good times can't just get immature feelings.