You know that father plays an important role in the growth of children.
However, no one is born a father. If you want to be a good father and educate your children well, you need to continue to learn and improve.
Father’s love is like a mountain. On the occasion of Father's Day, today we not only learn from the teachings of the three "best fathers in history", but also pay tribute to fathers, including all the hardships in the world.
1. Zeng Guofan: Four sentences, don’t let your descendants become losers
A famous official in the late Qing Dynasty once served in the vassal state, held an important official position, and had a well-off family background.
But his education, food, clothing, housing, and transportation are all the same as those of a poor scholar, and Shu can become a great person. If you are tainted with the wind of wealth, there is no hope of success.
Zeng Guofan had the habit of writing family letters. It is said that Zeng Guofan wrote 253 family letters in 1861 alone. By writing family letters, he continued to educate his younger brothers and children, and taught them with Zeng Guofan's words, so that descendants of the Zeng family could be born in large numbers.
Zeng Guofan has a famous saying about family management in 16 words:
Thrift leads to prosperity, and diligence makes a person healthy.
Diligence and thrift will never lead to poverty.
Zeng Guofan handled 10,000 tables every day, worked hard from morning to night, and never slackened off, setting a good example for his children.
Major official documents are produced by self-criticism and rarely lie about the production of others.
In his later years, he became blind in his right eye, but he still persevered every day.
The diary he wrote remained until the day before his death.
To educate people, we must first correct ourselves. The words and deeds of parents are role models for children. Only by providing good tutoring and providing children with a good growth environment can children make a difference and make a difference in society.
2. Liang Qichao: In four words and nine words, nine children will grow up
Liang Qichao is a modern Chinese thinker, politician, educator, historian, and writer. Another first-class child-teaching master.
Speaking of Liang Qichao’s educational thoughts, it can be seen from the following sentences.
1. Be friends with children
Unlike the general "Chinese-style parents" who need to establish absolute authority in front of their children, Liang Qichao also educates and guides his children, but he is used to being friends. like tone.
Teacher Liang Qichao wrote more letters to the children than to the children. As a father, I write letters to my children to talk about study, making friends, love, life, political affairs, etc. Teacher Liang talks about everything in a lively and lively way without being intimate. How different is he from today's parents?
2. Health is more important than grades
"It doesn't matter even if you fail the exam. Don't be anxious. ... You brothers and sisters can all study hard. I will never blame you." Study, but I got sick because I was too busy in class, but I was worried.
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"What is important about not being able to go to college? Learning is not about a degree, but about it. The foundation of thickening the wall.
"You don't need to be too eager to learn. Just like a can, the more you rush, the more anxious you are.
< p>”Liang Qichao is “a family of three academicians”. When his children do not do well, what he says most is words of comfort and consolation.
On the contrary, today’s parents will only enroll their children in various tutoring classes to teach them various knowledge and skills. The result is counterproductive and misses the point.
3. Don’t ask about harvest, don’t ask about hard work
Liang Qichao used Zeng Guofan’s famous saying to educate his children, “You can’t ask about harvest, but you can’t ask about hard work.
This sentence The meaning is that when we teach children to work, they must not only consider rewards and rewards. In addition, thinking about doing a good job and cultivating your own world will naturally lead to good results.
This understanding and strong outlook on life can help children maintain an optimistic attitude in adversity and overcome difficulties
3. Song Jiashu: Three things taught six influential figures
Not many people may know about Song Jiashu.
But when it comes to his six children, probably everyone knows about him.
The eldest daughter, Song Xialing, the second daughter, Song Qingling, and the third daughter, Song Meiling. , the eldest son Song Ziwen, the second son Song Ziliang, and the third son Song Zian were all influential figures in the 20th century.
I am very curious about what kind of education Song Jiashu gave his children - what kind of education taught him six years. Great kids.
The answer is to teach your children three things.
1. Tolerance and calmness
Perhaps because he strongly resisted the stereotypes of his parents when he was a child, Song Jiashu has always been tolerant to his children, allowing him to comply with his children's wishes and firmly believe that there is nothing he can't do in life. to things.
He expanded the children's interests. He often told the children about his adventures and told them: "For those who have courage, nothing is difficult in the world."
< p>As a result, his children are energetic and innovative.2. Everything depends on independence
When children are crawling and learning to walk, Song Jiashu encourages children:
“One step, two steps, three steps, okay! Don’t Cry, get up and walk again.
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Later, when the children grew older, Song Jiashu sent them to boarding school to study and cultivate their independence.
Having strong willpower is, in a sense, getting rid of dependence on others and believing in your own power.
Therefore, it is beneficial for parents to consciously cause "pain and fatigue" and frustration to their children.
Let them experience the hardships of life from an early age, and know from an early age that the road to life is blocked. Learning to control oneself from an early age is to prevent children from becoming slaves to their own weakness in the future and to learn to receive education from setbacks.
3. Growing up in frustration
Once, Song Jiashu took Song Qingling to Longhua on a thunderstorm day.
The race starts around the towering Longhua Tower, with 6 laps around the tower.
Another way Song Jiashu exercises his children’s endurance is to fast with them for a day.
On this day, hungry children are faced with appetizing meals to suppress their appetite and would rather endure hunger than touch the food.
To cultivate children's strong willpower, parents should use natural situations in life to allow children to face difficulties bravely and actively overcome them. This is truly effective frustration education.
4. Teaching by words and deeds is the core of educating children
As the saying goes, "If a son does not teach, the father will not do anything wrong." If our children are ineffective, get into trouble every day, and behave very shamelessly, When it comes to education, when others blame it, they will never say that the teacher failed to teach well, nor will they say that it was the partner who ruined him
A child has never succeeded without any reason. Parents say "there is no deliberate education, just let nature take its course", but people who silently work hard on their children's habits, personality, and character are invisible to others.
Looking at the journey of educating children of three outstanding people, Zeng Guofan, Liang Qichao and Song Jiashu, as parents, the most important thing in educating children is to teach by words and deeds.
Cultivate people and correct yourself. Parents’ words and deeds are always role models for children. Only by giving children a good growth environment can children make a difference. Only by entering society can they achieve great achievements and have an impact on their lives.
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