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Not satisfied

Men who like the new and dislike the old are dissatisfied.

Eating from the basin and looking at the pot is their normal behavior in marriage. No matter who such a man marries, the ending will be the same.

There is a saying that men are visual animals. Yes, all love at first sight is just lust. But after entering into marriage and becoming more and more familiar with each other, no matter how much you fall in love, you can’t escape the habit of liking the new and hating the old. curse.

Just like Zhang Ailing's famous saying: "In the eyes of men, a holy and quiet white rose becomes just a grain of sticky rice after a long time, and a red rose as noble as cinnabar becomes nothing more than a grain of rice after a long time." It’s a touch of mosquito blood.”

The biggest killer of marriage is not domestic violence or family triviality, but the sense of mystery that is gradually lost in getting along day and night.

When the late Taiwanese Chinese studies master Li Ao married Hu Yinmeng, "Taiwan's most beautiful woman", outsiders regarded her as a talented and beautiful woman.

One is a great talent and the other is a peerless beauty. Everyone knows that this marriage is a match made in heaven.

But what is regrettable is that their marriage only lasted three months and broke up.

When asked later about the reason for the breakup, Li Ao said that he once saw his wife blushing due to constipation in the toilet.

After the hazy sense of mystery is gone, the goddess is also an ordinary person. When the image of the goddess is gone, love disappears.

It is human nature to like the new and dislike the old, and it is not limited to men.

But the difference is that women are naturally very loyal to their families. Even if they find that the people around them are very different from their own imaginations, they will choose to be patient and maintain the integrity of the family.

Men are not like this. When they don’t get it, they have endless motivation to pursue it. But after they get it, no matter how perfect the other person is, their attention will be attracted by other “beautiful things” .

So, before getting married, every woman needs to keep her eyes open and see clearly the true nature of the people around her. Otherwise, if you marry a man who likes the new and hates the old, you will only be hurt.

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Don’t understand

Marriage and the human heart are far more fragile than we think.

There is a very popular saying on the Internet to describe the relationship between marriage and divorce: "You get married because you lack judgment; you get divorced because you lack tolerance."

For women, marriage is a process of finding an agreed-upon person and moving toward a future together.

But for men, marriage is only a part of life. If he does not get the respect and recognition he wants in this part, then they can give up this part without hesitation.

Some people often say that happy marriages are all the same, and every unhappy marriage is unhappy in its own way.

But for men, the misfortune of marriage is, to sum up, incomprehensible.

I read a survey before about why men choose to cheat. The confession of one man is very representative.

He said: "I have been married for 14 years and I am in the process of divorce because I cheated.

I have absolutely no confidence or dignity in front of my wife. No matter what my wife is, Both the family and the income are better than mine, and she keeps yelling at me.

Due to various reasons, I don’t have a fixed income, so my wife is suspicious of me in various ways. , tested me, she didn’t trust me at all.

It was for these reasons that I cheated. I went out to find a woman who could understand me and respect me. Now I finally feel the dignity of a man. ”

Faced with marital misfortune, women often choose divorce to end the pain, while men choose to find an extramarital affair that makes them happy to balance their mood.

Men are very rational. They know very well that divorce is a lose-lose outcome, and cheating is the most convenient and cost-effective way to enjoy different scenery without being responsible.

Being dissatisfied with marriage is not a woman’s prerogative. Men also have the right to be “picky” about marriage.

So, if you find that your husband has started to be hot and cold towards you, and is no longer obedient to you, first reflect on whether you are really considerate and understanding of your husband.

If the answer is no, then you must change your mentality in time. Don't give the man an excuse to look for flowers because of your carelessness, and then push the man further and further away.

Marriage is a matter between two people. Only when both parties care enough can they achieve a happy future.

03

Unreliable

Most marriages can withstand the wind and rain, but cannot withstand the ordinary.

Some people say that like is the joy at first sight, but love is long-lasting. But it is easy to find joy at first sight, but it is hard to find it after a long time.

There are always too many trivial matters in marriage, large and small occupying every day of married life. Ordinary life has naturally become the main theme of life, and a romantic marriage during love has become a luxury.

And some men who can't bear the mediocrity choose to have a kind of excitement outside marriage, which is like walking on the edge of a cliff.

In repeated temptations, they tasted the sweetness that was completely different from the calm marriage, so they fell deeply into it and became more and more addicted.

The vast majority of men choose cheating partners who are completely different from their wives, just like Miss Zhifu in the TV series "An Jia".

She has a completely different label from most women in the family, a young and artistic woman.

Her hobbies are painting and literature, and even when chatting, she always creates a romantic atmosphere belonging to a female literary youth.

This is a novelty that Mrs. Kan, who is a stay-at-home husband and raised child, does not have at all, so after arousing Kan Wentao's curiosity, he becomes addicted to this novelty and cannot extricate himself.

In fact, Kan Wentao does not want to divorce, but the daily life of daily necessities has dulled his enthusiasm for life. He is just looking for freshness and excitement in this way.

This kind of men's cheating is not because of love at all, their starting point is just their own happiness.

Marriage does have a lot of constraints, and you cannot be yourself as you please, but the constraints are for both parties, not just for men. If you do something that violates the marriage in order to break through the constraints, that is not informal. , but selfish.

The excitement in marriage is not to find different people to do the same thing, but to do various different things with the same person.

Love is never spoken, but done. Only a man who can resist mediocrity is a truly reliable man.

If a man does not have a strong sense of responsibility and is just as "fun-loving" before and after marriage, then he must pay attention, otherwise the rest of his life will be very tiring.

It takes a hundred years to be able to cross the same boat, and a thousand years to be able to sleep on the same pillow.

Being husband and wife is a fate that is hard to change, but you should cherish and look down on the person next to you.

One disloyalty will last a hundred times. Everyone must have the courage to end their mistakes. If you leave the wrong person, you will definitely find a better existence in the future.

Many people say that marriage is not easy, but it should be done and cherished. But what is more important is that the situation is easy to change, but the nature is difficult to change.

There are many good men in this world, but there are also many bad men. Therefore, the greatest responsibility for yourself is to still have the courage to enter marriage after seeing the truth about marriage.

No matter how long a life is, how painful it is to make do with it. I hope that the people we meet in this life can be accompanied by loved ones, who understand your joys and sorrows and protect you without worries.