The title of the first section of the first chapter of Li Meijin's Psychological Cultivation is "People who have no time to think are easy to confuse life". In this article, Professor Li mentioned two concepts: spatial thinking and temporal thinking. Spatial thinking focuses on the present, focusing on specific things; Time thinking highlights the overall situation and process, which is the whole life. As far as development and development are concerned, life begins with specific events, and countless specific events are isomorphic into life. Professor Li explained the importance of time thinking education for children by reviewing and reflecting on the psychological resumes of two criminals.

how to understand time thinking? Simply put, people can't just focus on the present, but must consider the future and the future.

Professor Li divided his life into stages in 2 years. The first 2 years are roughly equivalent to the period of study and accumulation. With this experience, a person can make money independently and manage his life. In the second 2 years, work, marriage and having children, etc., this can be described as the climbing period of family, career and other aspects, and it is busy to enter the third 2 years. In the year of no doubt, life has entered a new stage, can it enter the peak of life? The second wave of charge and efforts, and then ushered in the fourth 2 years. After retirement, grandchildren may come; The body is not good; Some people may have to support their elderly parents. The fifth 2 years are very precious, but not everyone can have them.

these five 2 years have basically outlined most of the basic trajectories of life, which is also the meaning of human beings. Specific to educational behavior, that is, doing n things in n time, parents should help their children do the most important things. The two cases selected in the book are criminals, so the answer is no, that is, what should not be done? "People should choose nothing to commit crimes all their lives." In a positive sense, what is the most important thing? That is to help children establish time thinking. The book says: cleverness is right and short-sighted, while great wisdom is right for life. This way of thinking is very good if you don't just stay in the immediate things, but weigh the whole life.

how to do it? Professor Li didn't say that you can read the cases mentioned in the book and then feel for yourself. Personally, I think we can do these tasks:

First, we should avoid pulling out the seedlings to encourage them. It is difficult for parents to consider the problem from the perspective of their children. Many parents ask their children from their own imagined goals. Self-conceived goals may be in line with the child's development level, or they may not. Parents should have the ability to reflect and adjust inappropriate requirements and expectations in time. Parents should avoid quick success and instant benefit, especially to avoid passing this kind of thinking on to their children.

the second is to pay attention to delayed satisfaction. There are two aspects to the reward of things: the present and the future. Thinking in time means thinking in the future. The cultivation of this kind of thinking needs the encouragement of delaying satisfaction. This is not to say that the immediate satisfaction is ignored, but that the effect of delayed satisfaction should be consciously activated. For something (such as sitting posture), parents can explain its long-term significance in advance; You can also trace back to the past for the results that have already appeared, and visually show the long-term significance of the event with specific scenes.

The third is to make children aware of their own fault. In the process of growing up, children will inevitably make various mistakes. How to teach children to face mistakes is a big test for parents. As soon as some parents see their children's faults, they yell at them, which is not conducive to their children's understanding of the key to their faults, and thus it is difficult to stimulate their sense of responsibility. Time thinking can be traced back to the whole life, and in essence it is still a consideration of the relationship between people at different stages. Therefore, paying attention to the exploration and cultivation of children's sense of responsibility is also helping them to establish time thinking to a certain extent.