1. Think before you speak.

We often say that a person should "accumulate virtues of speech". Think before you speak. You would rather not speak than speak evil words. Before speaking, think about whether the other person is really as unbearable as you say. When husbands and wives get along, parents and children get along, and friends get along, it is inevitable that there will be stumbling moments over time. When small conflicts or frictions occur, do not use harsh words to deal with them.

Think about whether your relatives and friends are as miserable as you say, and whether they have made no contribution to you. Don't always focus on other people's shortcomings, have a grateful heart and see the shining advantages of others.

2. Bad words hurt people’s hearts.

We will always encounter unsatisfactory or emotional times in our lives. Once people are stimulated and their emotions are out of control, they tend to speak indiscriminately and can say anything heartless. Although the utterer does not mean it, it is hard to stop, and the bad words spoken inadvertently can cause immeasurable harm to others. The relationship between people is like a transparent glass bottle, and ruthless words are like a hammer. The breakdown of a relationship always starts with ruthless words.

Listen more and talk less, ask more and answer less:

These two are the same thing, both are identifying dependence phenomena in conversation. When others ask questions, they are dependent on you. If you answer questions, speak as soon as they are asked, and talk endlessly, you are being hypnotized and relied on by others. The sad thing is that you have no idea, and you think "I know so much" and "I am so awesome" "How clever I am."

A fool never thinks that he is stupid, and a frog in a well never thinks that the sky is infinite. When you meet someone with ulterior motives, if you give them a little guidance, you will fall into the trap. That's what it means to help others count their money after selling. Even if you communicate normally, being easily relied on will give people a feeling of superficiality and ignorance.