? In fact, think about this sentence, where there is oppression, there is resistance, which applies to many scenes. There was a time when I made a timetable for myself. I plan the time from waking up in the morning to going to bed at night. I break down big projects into small goals and mark how much I have accomplished every day. This schedule was completely abandoned after two weeks. The reason for giving up is that every day there are some new situations that will upset my plan, so that there will be unfinished tasks every day and I can't make up for them the next day. A timetable makes me fidgety every day, which not only records my unfinished tasks in detail, but also makes me lose my confidence. For a long time, I didn't make a timetable. Later, I summed it up myself, because I arranged the time too tightly and carefully, and I felt breathless every day. This oppressive feeling makes me resist spontaneously, so it is normal not to implement it. With this experience, my schedule is no longer full. I will make a list of tasks that must be completed, or set aside a lot of maneuvering time in the day, even if there is an emergency. Most importantly, I don't feel so depressed.
People who know me basically know that I have a hobby of buying books and reading. In my spare time, I like to go to online bookstores, read books recommended by celebrities and read my favorite books while drinking coffee. My hobby should be to enjoy it in a very relaxed situation. But one day, after a few friends and I started the 100-day reading plan, the feeling of reading changed. I force myself to read 50 pages a day in order to punch in and take notes. In fact, I have been insisting, but after more than 70 days, I finally stopped. Why? Again, where there is oppression, there is resistance! What used to be a beautiful thing turned into a task, and the frustration of not being able to complete the task because of occasional emergencies was the most tormenting thing for me. After this 100-day trial, I returned to my previous study state. If you want to study, study, and if you don't want to study, don't read, instead of forcing yourself to study if you want to watch TV. I told Falcon, who initiated the 100-day action plan, about his resistance. He told me that it is normal to have a rest in the middle as long as it is something he likes. Don't force yourself to do what you like, and you will stick to it. ?
I recently read Common Sense of Doing Things written by Hiroshi Ogura. In the book, he wrote: If you can't achieve 100%, then cheer for yourself. He is quite proud of what he has achieved in three days and what he failed to achieve in two days. In other words, in the 365 days of a year, it is conservatively estimated that a quarter of things are unsustainable. As long as you don't give up easily and start again and again, there is still a three-quarters chance of success. Therefore, even if he was bedridden, the number of successful days of getting up early actually reached 273 days. Therefore, he has no reason to discourage himself or blame himself. ?
Through my own personal experience and watching others' experiences, I deeply understand that it is appropriate not to put too much pressure on myself or others, just as it is appropriate to be nervous before a speech, but being too nervous will ruin the speech. Whether it is the arrangement of time or the handling of other things, don't be too reluctant. For example, if you love someone, you have to give them moderate space. If the two lovers are bored with each other every day, one of them will soon be unable to stand this state and propose to break up. Love needs flowing water. As long as the arrangement of things has a certain rhythm, even if it is not perfect, it doesn't matter if you stop and go, as long as you make progress! ?