How many parents spend their entire lives trying to gain respect and gratitude from their children; misleading and harmful.

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There is a plot in the drama "Pi" where Lin Dawei became unemployed in middle age and found a new job - a funeral host.

Because Lin Dawei felt that this job was not particularly decent, he kept it secret from his wife and children.

Until one day, her daughter Lin Miaomiao found out about this and went home and was furious.

She felt that the job her father did was too horrible, and it was making dead people's money. She even felt that she could not have dinner with him.

At that moment, Lin Miaomiao seemed to have completely forgotten her father's love for her and his contribution to the family.

She only felt that because of Lin Dawei's career, she might be laughed at by all her classmates, and she would never be able to hold her head high in front of her classmates.

At that moment, she completely forgot that her food, clothing, housing, and transportation were all supported by Lin Dawei's disgraceful job, so that she could pursue her dream without any distractions.

How many copies of Lin Miaomiao are there in reality?

How many people have walked on the road pretending not to recognize their "shabby" parents?

How many people have ever disliked their parents, just because they made themselves not "respectable" at a certain moment?

I don’t know how many of you have had this experience when you were in school:

When the school asks you to fill in family information and asks about your parents’ occupation, you will hesitate, but it’s not that you don’t know. It was hard to tell what my parents were doing, so in the end they had to use words like "farming" and "worker" to get rid of it.

When the school requires parents to come to school for a parent-teacher meeting, you are not willing to let everyone know your "farmer" father and "worker" mother, or even let them say a word in the classroom. Afraid that someone would notice them.

Even if you are traveling with your family and meet classmates and friends, you don’t want to tell them that this is my mother and that is my father.

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My mother is a takeout delivery person

There was a program in "Youth Talk" where a simple and honest young man took to the podium.

Tell all your classmates, teachers, and even strangers in front of the screen calmly:

“My mother walks through the streets and alleys of the city every day.

She wakes up early and stays up late every day, and the wind and sun cannot stop her. Despite this, there are still many people who do not respect this profession and sometimes give negative reviews for no reason. It’s unreasonable.

Because of my mother’s hard work, she doesn’t get respect from others.

I hope everyone can give more to people like my mother. Kindness, because the moment you open the door, what you see may be the 'little princess' held by my father."

Throughout the speech, there was no hesitation in the little boy's words or in his eyes. There is no escape.

He looked firmly at his overwhelmed mother and proudly introduced his ordinary delivery boy mother to his friends.

He said this about his mother:

“You play a very important role in this society. Many people just need someone to play these roles and serve them. That You are the one who serves others, and I think you are great.”

Mr. Cai Yuanpei once said: “There is no profession, big or small, as long as it is beneficial to the people, it is a legitimate profession.”< /p>

He respects his mother's career, and even more respects such a conscientious mother who works hard for the family. He is proud of this.

Under the "praise" of her children, Li Renzhi's mother seemed so nervous, overwhelmed, and even a little embarrassed throughout the whole speech.

Then my mother also responded:

“I was very touched when I heard what you said, because at first I thought you were the spirit for me when I chose this career. The meeting was a bit resistant and incomprehensible. I didn’t expect that you wouldn’t dislike Mom for doing this job. I’m very pleased.”

My mother’s response also reflected her feelings for her son. Guilt".

She was also worried that her children would dislike her and "cannot hold their heads up" because of her.

There are no parents in the world who don’t want their children to live a “decent” life, but people are born different.

My parents are both farmers with primary school education and working in the county.

Although I don’t know what my parents were like before they had me, after they had me, they seemed to never sleep in again. They had to prepare breakfast for me every morning and send me to school. I wanted to cherish this. Like a treasure, he took good care of me and grew up.

They gave up their leisurely world for two. They wanted to give me a better life, both materially and spiritually.

It’s just that sometimes, they are also ordinary people, and they can only choose to compromise materially and spiritually.

They may not have given me a rich spiritual world, but they have also given me the honor to get to know all the different aspects of this world.

Children born with a "golden key" in their mouths are, after all, in the minority.

Most people’s parents’ careers are not particularly respectable, and we are all afraid of being laughed at by our classmates. We also long for ourselves and our parents to be respected by teachers and classmates.

But we have forgotten that we are the ones who least respect our parents’ careers, and we are the ones who “look down upon” our parents the most.

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You have low self-esteem not because of your parents, but because of your incompetence

“A young man from Henan got admitted to Peking University with a score of 649. When he was in high school, his monthly living expenses were less than RMB 80. Yuan"

He only spends 20 yuan a week, the most expensive is a steamed bun with vegetables. In the 2019 college entrance examination, he was admitted to Peking University with a score of 649. He is Yan Jiaxiang, a student from a poor family in Zhongmu, Henan.

When the reporter walked into the home, Yan Jiaxiang’s father, Yan Xiji, opened the small iron lock of an old cabinet in the back room in a panic and took out a white plastic bag from it. His wife Song Xinmei took the plastic bag and squatted on the ground. He reached out from the bag and carefully took out a stack of certificates and placed them one by one on the ground. "These are the certificates that I, Jiaxiang, have received since I was a freshman in high school. I accidentally lost a few of them before, alas." Reporters at the scene After checking it, there were 47 certificates, 10 certificates of honor, and 10 big red flowers. "I am a sensible person. I go home once a month. When I go home, I either help me make noodles or wash my clothes." Yan Jiaxiang's parents said: "People in my family look down on me. Some people say that it would be better to work at Foxconn after graduating from college." Yan Jiaxiang went to junior high school. I haven’t even bought a piece of ice cream in three years. When I was in high school, other people’s children spent 50 yuan a week, but I couldn’t even spend 20 yuan (less than 80 yuan a month).”

Zhang Wanlin, the head teacher, said to Yan Jiaxiang. His evaluation can be summed up in four words: consistent and calm.

All the teachers’ evaluations of him were almost unanimous: “He has strong self-discipline, clear goals, and is proactive.” They were not surprised that he was admitted to Peking University.

I believe that 99% of people live a more respectable life than Yan Jiaxiang while they are in school, but who lives a life that is respected from the bottom of their hearts?

Last year, a little girl who was admitted to Peking University wrote an article "Thanks to Poverty".

Netizens commented: "Who wants to thank poverty!"

People's Daily commented: "Thanks to poverty is an attitude towards life, not a praise of poverty."

We cannot say disgusting things like: "Children from poor families should be more motivated and work harder."

But life will never reject your efforts, no matter you are poor or rich.

Romain Rolland has a famous saying: There is only one true heroism in the world, and that is to still love life after recognizing the truth of life.

We can complain that our parents gave us a bad starting point, but we cannot complain that our parents did not give us the opportunity to work hard.

The People’s Daily also commented: “What deserves gratitude and praise is not poverty, but the attitude of loving life and having the courage to struggle, which is the precious growth gained in the process of life.

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Your low self-esteem may not only be because of your parents, but also because you can’t even love life and fight for it, isn’t it?