The words "solitude" and "solitude" in loneliness clearly tell us that loneliness is a person, and only a person can be called lonely. At first glance, it always gives people a sad and miserable feeling.
In fact, this sad feeling is our misunderstanding of loneliness. Chen Guo, a Ph.D. from the Department of Philosophy of Fudan University, gave a perfect interpretation of loneliness. She said: "Carnival is the loneliness of a group of people, and loneliness is the carnival of one person. Loneliness does not seek external things, but seeks itself."
How to understand this?
As humans, although we live in society and are social animals, we are destined to be lonely. Who can truly accompany you from birth to death until the end? It is you, yourself. No one but you will accompany you all the time. This design of the Creator clearly tells us that we are destined to be lonely.
However, loneliness is not miserable or sad. On the contrary, loneliness is beautiful, advanced and wise. In the long journey of life, we are surrounded by people and things around us. From the time we open our eyes in the morning, we start our busy day, dealing with people, working, studying, and living. Busy. When we say hello, say hello, chat, and communicate with the people around us, we understand the temperament and character of the people around us, but what is missing is ourselves.
At home, you will communicate and live with your partner, children, parents, brothers and sisters. In the workplace, you will get along with your colleagues, your boss, and do things. In your free time or when you feel uncomfortable, you will find friends and partners to accompany you to chat. During your precious day, you give your time to the people around you. However, have you quietly left time for yourself? Do you have real time for yourself? The only person who can accompany you from beginning to end is yourself. Have you ever gotten along with, communicated with, or understood him?
The world-famous ancient Greek temple, the Temple of Elphi, has two lines of words engraved on it: one line is "Know yourself"; the other line is "Don't overdo everything." It can be seen that knowing yourself is such an important life issue. So, what is the best way to know yourself, is to be alone, in other words, alone.
Only when you are alone will you calm down, stop dealing with people other than yourself, and start dealing with yourself. When you are alone, you start to reflect on yourself, understand yourself, and entertain yourself spiritually. As Chen Guo said, "Loneliness is one person's carnival. It is not asking for external things, but seeking for yourself."
Loneliness is often quiet, because one person has no words. In fact, what words are, most of them are useless. As Mohammed famously said: "We say no more than three useful words in a day." So, in fact, we really don’t need so many words, we need to be quiet and alone more.
In marriage, we often say that we are happy when we are alone before marriage. Then, after marriage, he may be happy. You are not happy when you are single, and you cannot be happy when you are married or two people. In other words, you are happy when you are alone, and you will also be happy when you are with others. Therefore, only those who get along well with each other can get along well with others.
Life is essentially a person’s lonely growth. Whether you are willing or not, a person's life, from birth to death, is growing little by little every day. No one can help you grow or grow for you, only you. You can only be responsible for your own life. You have your studies, your work, your studies, your illnesses, your birth, old age, illness and death. Even with the help and company of others, you still have to face it and bear it yourself. , to grow.
It seems that loneliness is really a high-level and beautiful compliment, it is really beautiful. May everyone learn to enjoy loneliness and enjoy the carnival alone.