This is a sentence written by Qian Yong, a scholar of the Qing Dynasty, in "Lv Yuan Cong Hua: Managing the Family".

Heine has a famous saying: I would rather use a small cup of truth, goodness and beauty to organize a happy family than use a few large pieces of boat furniture to organize a boring family.

Harmony is the ultimate destination of the family and the ultimate goal of family members' efforts. It doesn't matter how much money you have or how little you have. A happy family life is what money can't buy.

If a family has one heart, it will have money to buy gold; if a family has two hearts, it will have no money to buy needles.

This sentence comes from the mouth of Xu Wei, a talented man in the Ming Dynasty.

Xu Wei, who was born a commoner, lacked the love of his parents since he was a child, and was separated from his biological mother when he was less than ten years old. Although I live in my own home, I often feel like I am living under someone else’s roof.

Because of this, Xu Wei has his own views and insights on family.

A happy family always thinks in one place and works hard in one place. A family is like a small society. Only when everyone works together can they make a difference.

Avoid lawsuits at home, as lawsuits will lead to disaster; avoid talking too much in life, as talking too much will lead to mistakes.

From Zhu Bolu's "Zhu Xi's Family Instructions".

No matter how good the relationship is, it cannot withstand the torment of quarrels. We often say, "Too many words lead to misunderstandings."

During the quarrel, each other cannot control their emotions and exchange harsh words, which will cause rifts in the relationship.

If you talk too much, you will always get into trouble. If there are too many quarrels, the family will sometimes fall apart.

I am born between heaven and earth, and my only priority is to be a human being. Everything else does not matter.

A famous quote from Gao Panlong's "Gao Family Instructions" of the Ming Dynasty.

Whether in a family or in society, character is the most important.

Good family tradition means learning to be a good person. Parents are children's mirrors and first teachers.

In family life, parents must set an example for their children. Don’t cheat, don’t be violent, and let your children understand the principles of life through your actual actions.

Those who hide their essence in obscurity will be enlightened, and those who cultivate their minds in tranquility will be at peace.

Ouyang Xiu's famous saying in "Shizi".

Being honest on the outside but shrewd on the inside, being a little confused in life is great wisdom.

Family members should also be a little more confused when getting along with each other. Things in the world are never so clear-cut as black and white.

Family is a place of "love". There is no unsolvable hatred and no obstacle that cannot be overcome between family members.

Although a person is extremely stupid, if he blames others, he will be wise; although he is smart, if he forgives himself, he will be dim.

From "History of Song Dynasty·Biography of Fan Chunren".

No matter how stupid a person is, he always understands when blaming others; no matter how smart a person is, he is confused when looking at his own problems.

Be strict with yourself and be lenient towards others. In family life, don’t just see other people’s shortcomings, but be considerate.

The husband understands his wife’s hard work, and the wife understands her husband’s pressure. Parents understand their children and children respect their elders. This is true harmony.

It is not necessary for people who are good at what they do to respect themselves because of their appearance; for people who are good at talent, they are self-respecting and do not need to be so good about their words.

Yuan Cai's "Yuan Family Model" of the Song Dynasty.

A person with high moral character will naturally be respected by people; a person with outstanding talents will naturally be convincing.

You must be a real person. There is no need to put on a show in your family life, and there is no need to brag in front of your family. True feelings are revealed naturally from the inside out.

Those who are poor and humble but cannot live without it are chastity; those who are rich and noble but cannot live without are full of spirit.

Fang Xiao in Ming Dynasty