Excerpted from "Learning to Talk to Children" by Zhao Yulin] You must be too familiar with the word "carelessness". Whether in life or in study, everyone has had such an experience and suffered losses as a result. For example, if you accidentally leave your keys at home, you have to call 110 if you can't wait for your family to come home soon. Or some students may have answered the questions incorrectly due to carelessness in the test, etc. The losses caused by such "carelessness" are usually not serious, but only cause a little more trouble for the parties involved. But if "carelessness" occurs in other situations, such as high school entrance examinations and college entrance examinations, it will cause more than just minor troubles. The losses are often incalculable or even irreparable.

Most people originally do not want to be "careless", but subconsciously they believe that "carelessness" can only be regarded as a small problem that everyone will make. Why is this happening?

Quite simply, no one will regard "carelessness" as "ignorance". Because it’s not impossible to be careless. Since it’s not impossible, it can’t be considered a big problem or a big problem. Of course, it’s not worth worrying about. Besides, everyone is bound to be careless and everyone is bound to make mistakes. In such a self-liberating consciousness, it is not difficult to understand the indulgence and tolerance of "carelessness".

For example, if a classmate loses points on a question in an exam because he cannot do it, he will be very angry, feel incompetent, and even feel sad and angry. But if you lose points on this question because of carelessness, then this kind of self-condemnation and complaint will fade a lot.

"If it weren't for carelessness, this exam would have scored 100 points!" - Parents often say it, and so do children. When mothers chat together, you can often hear words like this: "How did your child do on the exam this semester?" "Oh! Forget it, my child would have scored 100 points this time if it weren't for his carelessness!" Or "This time he was deducted 3 points for being careless, otherwise he would be ranked second in the class in this subject." At first glance, it seems that there are a lot of regrets and complaints; but underneath, there is also a hint of A little bit of satisfaction and pride.

Alas! What a regrettable realization this is! Therefore, if there is insufficient understanding of "carelessness", the disaster caused by "carelessness" is simply unpredictable.

Please pay attention to the following points:

1? Carelessness is worse than ignorance and more hateful

When doing exercises, a question is not answered correctly. As a result, there are usually two reasons.

The first type is entirely due to not knowing.

Another situation is that some children often have more than 0 when solving questions; or write less units; or the decimal point is in the wrong position; or the top line is 23, and after changing the line, it is 32 ; Or write a word wrong... In short, it is not an error caused by incompetence (you and your child should think about how many types of such carelessness there are).

The most regrettable thing is that when parents are guiding their children to study, if they see a question that they cannot solve, they often criticize and accuse them more severely, "How did you do this? Can’t even do the questions? ”

If you lose points due to carelessness, you will often say in a relatively gentle tone: “Oh, why are you so careless? If so, wouldn’t you? Did you do it right? "Pay attention next time!"

As everyone knows, the different attitudes towards these two different phenomena have caused the children to relax their vigilance against "carelessness" and ignore it. The analysis of "carelessness" weakens the understanding of the harm of "carelessness". Rousseau has a very insightful saying: "The reason why people make mistakes is not because they don't understand, but because they think they understand everything."

The change from ignorance to knowledge is a very important concept. It's easy, but a "careless" phenomenon can happen repeatedly. This comparison gives a good idea of ??which one is more harmful. Lenin once said: "Ignorance is closer to the truth than prejudice." We can also apply this sentence without exaggeration: "Ignorance is easier to obtain the truth than carelessness." Don't be afraid of "ignorance", because you can learn it if you don't know it. Those who don't understand can learn, but "carelessness" is terrible, because children think that "carelessness" is not "ignorance", so they do it carelessly again and again without any scruples, and they do it painfully again and again. Wrong, thus wasting a lot of time and losing many possible opportunities.

So carelessness is more terrible and worse than ignorance. Carelessness is caused by ignorance of carelessness.

2? Carelessness will form a habit, and once it is formed, it is difficult to change. Due to the neglect of "carelessness", carelessness appears again and again in learning, and slowly "carelessness" becomes a kind of inertia. , but I still can’t clearly understand it.

Many students have experienced this situation. After a semester of hard work, they thought that their test scores should be good, but the results were unsatisfactory. Many problems were caused by "carelessness". Although it is just "carelessness", unsatisfactory results often make you lose confidence in yourself and think that no matter how hard you work, your academic performance will not be improved. Then at this time, the child's self-confidence will gradually be hit, and he will gradually lose confidence and interest in learning. Just think about it, how can you succeed if you "lack fighting spirit"? Therefore, once "carelessness" forms an inertia and becomes a habit, it will never be easy to change.

We are all too familiar with the saying "A country is easy to change, but a person's nature is hard to change." Why do some people always like to lose their keys and wallets since childhood? As long as you pay careful attention, no one who is successful in their career is rigorous and meticulous in their work. Even those who seem careless are still "rough and detailed".

There is a famous saying in ancient Greece, "Character is destiny." So how is character developed? It's a habit! So how are "habits" formed? Just over and over again.

This is why educators emphasize one point - "Develop good habits from an early age"!

So "carelessness" can easily grow into a habit. If unfortunately it becomes a part of your personality, the possibility of success will be greatly reduced.

3? Carelessness is not a shortcoming, it is a mistake! ! !

When parents talk or criticize their children, they often say: My child’s biggest shortcoming is carelessness...

Everyone has shortcomings and everything has shortcomings. The world It is not perfect, because the world will progress only if there are shortcomings, and so will people. Sometimes, people's shortcomings are defects at certain times, and sometimes they may be advantages, so we often say: There is no good or bad personality. For example, if a person likes to lose his temper, this should be regarded as a shortcoming. Under normal circumstances, we can tolerate it and even forgive this shortcoming. However, it is wrong to hit someone when he loses his temper. And such mistakes should be investigated and corrected.

Everyone can easily find the difference between "shortcomings" and "errors", but because they are often very similar, we tend to confuse them and often mistake "errors" for "shortcomings". The reason is very simple. It is precisely because we have insufficient understanding of the harm of "carelessness" in our minds and unclear understanding of the attributes of "carelessness" that we ignore "carelessness", tolerate "carelessness", and even treat "carelessness". "Careless" indulgence.

To sum up, if you want to solve the problem of "carelessness", if you don't have enough, correct and clear understanding in mind, then the problem of "carelessness" cannot be solved, it will be like a ghost. If it appears at any time, it will destroy the achievements you already have, and it will also hinder the achievements that may be obtained in the future.

Although the consequences of "carelessness" are sometimes not very big, in any case we should be very vigilant and serious about paying attention to "carelessness". Because "carelessness is a mistake", mistakes must be corrected rather than explained! Therefore, our attitude towards "carelessness" should be - prefer left to right!

4? The phenomenon of "carelessness" is by no means "wrong writing", it is as simple as "copying the wrong line"

As we mentioned earlier, there are usually two reasons for getting a question wrong. , one is not knowing, the other is carelessness. Many students have had this experience. When they got a question, they thought about it for a long time and couldn't figure it out. At this time, someone gave a little hint, and then they figured it out in no time. Also, I couldn’t remember it during the exam. After I got out of the exam room, oh, I remembered it! What should this phenomenon be? Even if the child doesn’t know how to do it, it’s a bit unfair to him! Do you think you can? But not! So many students comfort themselves by saying that they didn't think about it carefully and were "careless", so they didn't do it. In fact, due to not being proficient enough in concepts and not understanding deeply enough, I am unable to solve the problem correctly, and this is actually not possible! It is a "blind spot" in learning. How many such critical loopholes in learning are often covered up by the word "carelessness".

After experiencing the above situation, the children's reaction was more indifferent, the past is over! This is often the case.

Think of "ignorance" as "carelessness", think about how terrible it is!

5? How to solve "carelessness"?

Having talked so much about the dangers of "carelessness", it's time to think about solutions! We should first classify, summarize and analyze "carelessness", and then think of countermeasures to solve it.

Let’s first look at the case in the question and how to analyze the phenomenon of “carelessness”!

Question: 10 people can plant 5 trees per hour. How many trees can be planted in 10 hours?

Incorrect interpretation: Suppose X tree is planted.

The first type: X=10×5×10=500

The second type: X=10×5=50 (tree)

The third type Plant: X=5×10=50

Solution:

Solution: Suppose X trees are planted.

X=5×10=50 (trees)

Answer: 10 people can plant 50 trees in 10 hours.

Analysis:

Mistake 1: Blindly multiplying the numbers. Sometimes it is because you did not carefully examine the question, and sometimes it is because you do not understand the meaning of the question at all.

Wrong answer 2: It is not "10×5" but "5×10". This seems a bit picky, but it shows that we should have a good quality in the process of doing the questions. Doing questions is not only about getting a correct answer, but also about accurate and perfect expression of thoughts.

Mistake 3: Obviously, I forgot to write the unit, which is incomplete.

The first two mistakes are not actually "careless" in the true sense, but they are often evaluated as "careless" (parents and teachers should especially pay attention to this). When such a simple question appears, it seems that it does not affect the overall situation, and it seems to be corrected in one sentence. However, after reaching the advanced stage of learning, the thinking may cause errors due to this deviation. This is the reason why many students are thinking hard and unable to solve the problem when doing it. Although others can understand it with just a few clicks, the reason is that the details are not grasped enough.

But as time goes by, I become less and less confident in my ability to solve problems, and I feel more and more helpless. The key reason is that such students often think they understand, but in fact they do not really have a deep understanding and mastery of the basic concepts. I have had this experience many times when tutoring students. When a student got a seemingly complicated question, he said to me without much thought: Teacher, I can’t do it. I then said: Please review the question again. But students will still say: Teacher, I don’t know how to do it just by looking at it. In fact, the question is not difficult, but this student lacks the confidence to solve it. When our parents and tutors encounter this kind of situation, they often act very complacent and explain it to the students in detail. As everyone knows, this actually harms the students.

The third type is typical "carelessness", but people often don't care. There are many types of carelessness like this, but this type of carelessness has one characteristic, that is, the form is relatively simple and often repeated. This is the true meaning of "carelessness". We will discuss errors that are not "carelessness" in another chapter.

Now that the method of analyzing the phenomenon of “carelessness” is relatively clear, what should we do next? First of all, make a summary of all the "carelessness" phenomena that occurred to you. Of course, it must be very specific and detailed.

In response to the "careless" phenomenon of students often writing typos, we have made statistics. No student who is considered a "typos king" will have more than 20 typos most often. No matter how many typos there are, It is often caused by unfamiliarity.

There is a fifth-grade child who has typos everywhere in his homework and compositions. The parents are very frustrated and the child himself feels very unsure. My child and I sorted out and counted all the typos in his notebook. The child and his parents discovered that there were only so many wrong words. They were very surprised. They had never expected it! After sorting out the typos and giving detailed explanations on some of them, for example, the typical careless classification of "thinking" will be written as "has been", which often leads to the wrong use of "的", "地", "得" "The reason is mostly due to the lack of essential understanding of the usage of "的", "地" and "得". After a detailed and patient list and analysis of the typos, a week later, the number of typos in the student's composition was reduced to only three. This surprised and made him and his parents happy, because three typos were a big problem for their children. How rare and difficult it is!

As long as the "carelessness" is sorted out completely and in detail, these phenomena can be strengthened mentally and consciously. As long as students encounter this phenomenon in similar environments in the future, their brains will automatically propose Early warning and response, so that "carelessness" can be curbed to the greatest extent. For example, everyone knows that you have to be careful when walking on ice because it is very slippery. Likewise, when faced with similar situations where carelessness is possible, it is like walking on ice and one becomes cautious. The chances of making mistakes will naturally be much less.

In fact, solving "carelessness" is just like walking on ice. Just be careful. Because you have fallen on the ice, you will remember it, unless the fall on the ice is not good for you. No impression! As long as you face "carelessness" with caution, "carelessness" will soon disappear from your field of vision. Although this does not completely guarantee that low-level errors will not occur, it can well reduce the error rate caused by "carelessness". The quality of problem solving and learning efficiency will naturally be improved.

Of course, the main way to solve "carelessness" is to check.

According to research by scientists, it usually takes 20 days to form a habit. After reading this sentence, I think you must have the confidence and determination to eradicate bad habits and establish good habits! There is no habit that cannot be overcome, for you and your child, without enlightenment and awareness.