How far am I from my dream?

I don't know if you have asked yourself this question. In fact, a dream is really an empty thing, because it is only an illusion to a great extent, but why is it not directly called an illusion? Because dreams can be realized by some people, but fantasies cannot be realized.

So, why do some people realize their dreams and others don't?

L said she was going to take the postgraduate entrance examination. When she said this, there were about 200 days before the postgraduate entrance examination. Postgraduate entrance examination begins at the end of February/kloc-0 every year, and most people will start preparing for various matters around 1 1 month in the previous year.

By March and April, I should have read all the basic contents of mathematics, but I haven't started to prepare at all.

"I don't think we should be too anxious now. I have to hurry to determine the colleges and majors I want to take, but I have to pass Band 6 first and I will take the exam soon. " I analyzed her plan with me like this.

I asked her, "Have you decided which one to take?"

"Well, I'm going to take an examination of XX University, because their scores are relatively low, and my dad said it suits me very well."

I asked her again: "Why did you suddenly prepare for the postgraduate entrance examination? I didn't always say no before. "

"Because my dad talked to me for a long time that day, I don't think I should be so confused anymore. Women should have their own careers and future development plans! Only in this way can we live a better life! "

When she said this, her expression was particularly serious. Coupled with the in-depth analysis of the status quo, I can't help but respect her. You know, she has always been the kind of person who eats and sleeps, and the exam is always the week before.

This time, she was very serious. She bought all the reference books for postgraduate entrance examination online that night and posted a famous aphorism on the table, which read, "Hard work will pay off, and hard work will create brilliance". I got up after six o'clock the next morning and began to study in the library. ...

After a week or so, she slept in bed like a pig every morning and "restored" her previous routine.

A month later, I couldn't help it. I asked her, "Are you still taking the postgraduate entrance examination?"

L put on a bitter gourd face, "you know what? I really want to study hard, but I really can't! I don't know why, I'm very upset these days and I'm too lazy to do anything. Alas, the postgraduate entrance examination is still too far away from me. Let's see. "

In fact, as soon as I heard her say this, I knew that unless she wakes up later and goes all out, her road to postgraduate entrance examination will definitely fail.

Postgraduate entrance examination is really a dream of L, but why didn't she succeed?

Because in her mind, this is not what she wants to do most. What she wants to do most, or her biggest dream, is actually to live a comfortable life of eating and waiting for death, instead of studying hard to pursue the so-called "realization of women's self-worth."

the second part

A lot of people do. They want to live a better life and change their destiny through reading, but these people are often just superficial actions.

They get up early every day and sit in the library all day; Stay up late to watch homework every night; At the beginning of each month, I will set a goal for myself and plan for one month. I think if I insist on doing this, my life will be better and smooth from now on.

However, they got up very early and looked at sitting in the library, but actually they changed places to play with their mobile phones. They stay up late just because the efficiency is too low during the day and want to make up for what they didn't do well during the day by staying up late at night, but most people still sit under the desk lamp and play with their mobile phones at night.

Plans made for yourself at the beginning of the month will always fail in the first ten days ... such people are simply too numerous to mention, that is, you, me and him around you.

Every time the task fails or the plan made for themselves is invalid, they begin to doubt the confused period of life: am I going this way? Do I have to continue? I'm so tired that I can't hold on any longer. What should I do?

After the confusion period, it was a short cheer. During cheerleading, I feel that I can resist all the blows and difficulties in the world, but the time limit is often very short. After that, I continued to fall into confusion and felt that I had no spirit to do anything, thus falling into a vicious circle.

The most terrible thing is that after discovering this vicious circle, people tend to hate themselves: people like me really can't do anything well. I am so bad that I have to give up myself.

At this time, why not stop and ask yourself: "What do I want?"

People are strange creatures. They always say things they don't know. In order to get rid of their immediate troubles, they will find various reasons to comfort themselves.

Those who can't get a place in officialdom say they are indifferent to fame and fortune, those who can't get recognition from others say they don't need recognition from others, and those who don't fit in insist that they like to be independent. ...

Even in storybooks, foxes comfort themselves that grapes they can't eat are sour.

In fact, on the surface, most people who want to actively realize their self-worth and study hard just want to have a good future and live a comfortable life in the future, and these people are often the last losers, because the truly successful people really want to realize their self-worth.

You didn't realize your dream, mainly because you didn't think enough.

What is "enough thinking"? Psychologist Wu Zhihong once said that only paranoia can survive.

This sentence means that people must initiate their own will according to their own will and persevere. In this way, our wishes can be realized continuously, and we can build a world of our own according to our own will.

My understanding is that the first sentence "people should follow their own will" is particularly important. Your dream must come from your own will, which is what you really want in your heart. Only by deeply exploring such feelings and desires will we have the strength to persist in fulfilling our dreams.

the third part

When my college entrance examination results came out and I began to fill in my volunteers, my family unanimously asked me to fill in the economic major on the grounds that "girls can come out to find a job after studying the economic major."

At that time, I didn't have a clear understanding of employment, so I listened to my family's persuasion and chose the finance major. After going in, I found that this is a difficult course to learn.

But I have been reluctant to admit defeat. The more difficult it is, the more I want to try to finish it. I force myself to listen carefully in every class, but I get distracted in the middle of every class. After half a class, I don't know where to start. And the more you push yourself, the more you won't listen, and the more you doubt life.

The final exam of each semester is my most painful moment. I brush my questions and recite them day and night. Although I can pass it every time, it seems that there is an automatic delete button in my head. Every time I finish the exam, all the knowledge will be forgotten and I won't remember it in the future.

Feeling that this kind of life made me particularly miserable, I went to talk to my good friend D, who is a very persistent person. What I admire most is that he has written 300 to 500-word essays almost every night since junior high school. There are many types, daily writing, casual writing, and even writing some inexplicable words. ...

This habit has been adhered to from junior high school to college graduation and now working. I really think he is the most persistent person I have ever met.

I asked d, what kept you going for so many years? Don't you feel miserable?

D answered me easily, "I won't feel miserable, because I never think writing is a task." This is what I really want to do. I think this will make me feel beautiful. "

I had an epiphany. In fact, I have never really loved my major. I just think I should learn well, not want to learn well.

There is a saying that "there is nothing that needs you to bite the bullet and stick to it."

You need to grit your teeth and stick to it. You can only say that this is not what you really want to do.

Really heartfelt desire, there is no need to stick to it. As D said, when you do this, you will feel beautiful from the heart. "Beauty" is a unique feeling that will make you willing to do something, because it comes from the heart, so it won't make you feel burdened.

The reason why we suffer in the so-called dream and persist in it is nothing more than because it is not what we really want. Wu Zhihong once said that contact only happens when you put your heart and soul into it.

Only by truly understanding what you want can you devote yourself wholeheartedly and achieve real success. Many people just don't understand this, so they have been trapped in their own infinite loop.

You can always get what you want along the way. Why don't you stop and see what you really want? Writing an article in the last sentence is really useful. Share it!