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Bacon said: "Man is the center of all things and the axis of the world."
Everyone has a concept of "I" in his heart, just like an island in this world. As long as he falls asleep, the world seems to cease to exist for us.
Sometimes this self-awareness will make us misjudge some things, such as underestimating others and overestimating ourselves.
If a person takes himself too seriously, he will overestimate his ability and self-righteous challenge others' bottom line.
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Laozi said, "He who knows others is wise, and he who knows himself is wise."
Being able to understand and know others is the wisdom of being a man, and being able to know and know yourself is the real wisdom.
To really know yourself is not simply to know yourself, but to know your role orientation and your upper limit. The most important thing is not to overestimate your ability and influence.
The music conductor Walter Damrosch once told such a story in a speech.
By the time he was in his twenties, he was already a famous American conductor and won numerous honors and praises. He thinks his talent is unparalleled in the world and his position is unshakable.
One day in rehearsal, he forgot to bring his baton and was about to send someone home to get it. The secretary said, "No, just borrow one from the rest of the band?"
He thinks the secretary is really confused. Why do people carry batons besides me?
But before his voice fell, the cellist, the violinist and the pianist each took out a baton.
At that moment, he suddenly realized that he was not an indispensable figure, and many people had been working hard in secret, ready to replace him at any time.
No one in this world is unique. No matter who you leave, the sun still rises normally. The most important thing for a person is to recognize his true level and ability.
As the saying goes, one mountain is high and one mountain is low.
Always keep a clear head and don't be blinded by the light from the platform where you are temporarily standing. After all, your light depends on the stairs under the platform and the support of the audience, so that you can stand firm and be stable. Don't forget that you still have a long way to go.
I have heard such a cold joke.
One day, a headmaster went to inspect each class. When he went to a function room, he found a boy sweeping the floor and tapping a small drum with a broom stick.
So he went over to stop it and wanted to educate it. He casually asked his boy, Do you know who I am? Why don't you stop when you see me? ……
The boy blurted out, "I know you are a mouse!" " (In Cantonese, it probably means why I want to know you, which means neither rarity nor contempt), and then I went on to say ...
As a principal, in his subconscious, all the teachers and students in the school should know and be in awe. That's why he asked.
As this boy, his words and deeds are extremely undesirable, but he really doesn't know who the other person is, and he is young and ignorant, so he takes off his order and responds to the other person.
However, this situation is not uncommon. In life, we all come into contact with all kinds of people. Everyone's personality is different, and they also have their own characteristics in dealing with people. In fact, many people don't care who you are at all, but only care about their own affairs.
Therefore, in study or life, don't overestimate your strength and influence, don't take yourself too seriously, and don't take others seriously. This is the law of human existence.
As the saying goes, "You know what you eat." Only you know how much you have eaten. If you eat less, you will be hungry. Eating too much will make you full and uncomfortable.
Do things the same, don't overestimate your ability, learn to do what you can. Instead of obsessing about doing one thing, it is better to do things well within your ability and finish everything in an orderly way, which will be more efficient.
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There is an old saying: "If the water is too clear, there will be no fish, and people will have no friends."
Different people have different ideas. You have your bottom line, I have my principles, heart and heart are never synchronized, and their personalities are different. You have your dignity, and I have my yardstick. Once others touch their bottom line, even the best people will be dissatisfied and angry. Once they cross the line, everyone will make a fatal knife.
There are all kinds of vendetta disputes in the world every day, and vendetta disputes are often the origin. So, don't think that others are kind, you can be a soft persimmon; Don't treat people as fools just because they are soft-hearted. Don't insist on different views, let alone ridicule them. If the situation is different, don't despise it, let alone despise it. Everyone has a bottom line, and no one is more stupid than others. If you don't make him, you will be safe; If you attack him, you will collapse.
Never overestimate each other's humanity and underestimate your own danger at any time. If you fight the dragon for too long, you will become a dragon yourself. If you stare at the abyss for too long, the abyss will stare back at you. Remember!
In normal work or life, there are always people who like to challenge others' bottom line.
When chatting, I know that the other person doesn't like to mention certain people or things the most. Some people always like to mention them in front of each other intentionally or unintentionally.
When arranging work, use the tone and posture of the command to arrange and insist on the absolute obedience of the other party. Once the other party has a little complaint, challenge the other party's bottom line with words. ...
This kind of person who always tries to test the bottom line of others, often doesn't know how to empathize and completely ignores others' feelings is not worthy of respect and obedience.
Li Lu, a poet, famously said, "If you treat yourself as dirt and always treat yourself as a pearl, there will always be the pain of being buried."
Only those who let go of themselves, keep the bottom line and save the face of others will gain the respect and trust of others.
Bob Hoover is a typical example. He is the most famous fighter test pilot in the US Air Force, and everyone respects him so much, not only because of his skills, but also because of his broad mind and noble character.
On one occasion, Hoover was ordered by his superiors to attend an air show and then returned to Los Angeles by a spiral plane. Suddenly, the plane broke down inexplicably halfway, and both engines failed at the same time. Fortunately, he was fearless in the face of danger, took decisive and calm measures and miraculously landed at the nearest airport.
After being completely safe, he was puzzled and immediately inspected the plane with relevant personnel. It turned out that the cause of the accident was the wrong oil, and the original helicoid was accidentally added with jet oil.
When the mechanic in charge of refueling heard about this incident, he turned pale with fear and cried bitterly, because he knew that his carelessness would certainly lead to serious consequences if Hoover, who was extremely experienced, did not go into battle himself. After crying, the young man sat on the steps, waiting for Hoover to come back. He thought that the other party would treat him angrily.
Who knew that things were completely out of his expectation? Hoover was not only not angry with him, but also hugged him and comforted him softly: "It's okay, it's okay. Look, isn't it good for me to come back?" In order to prove that you are still good, I want you to help me with aircraft maintenance from tomorrow. "
Hearing this, the mechanic was full of surprise and excitement and quickly began to work hard.
Since then, the mechanic has been following Hoover and is responsible for the maintenance of his plane. Since then, Hoover's aircraft maintenance has never gone wrong.
Keeping one's bottom line and saving others' face are often more conducive to solving problems than being harsh. Simply belittling others will not show their greatness, while those who tolerate mistakes will show their noble personality.
Being a man, you can be confident and low-key, but don't take yourself too seriously and don't try to test others.
Being yourself is a great thing in itself.