1. Please use poems to describe social harmony and harmonious interpersonal relationships, thank you ~

"Jiangcun" by Du Fu

A song on the Qingjiang River hugs the village, and it flows. Everything in Xiajiang Village is quiet.

The swallows in the hall come and go, and the gulls in the water are close to each other.

The old wife draws paper to make a chess game, while the young child knocks needles to make fishing hooks.

But if there are old friends offering Lumi, what else can a tiny body ask for?

"Visiting Shanxi Village" Lu You

Mo Xiao's farmhouse is full of wax and wine, and in good years there are enough chickens and dolphins for visitors.

There is no way out in the mountains and rivers, and there is another village with dark flowers and bright flowers.

The flutes and drums follow the spring society, and the clothes and clothes are simple and ancient.

From now on, if you can take advantage of the moonlight leisurely, you can knock on the door all the time and night with your stick.

"She Day" Wang Jia

At the foot of Ehu Mountain, the rice and beams are fat, and the pig cages and chickens are perched with their doors half-covered.

The shadows of mulberry trees are scattered in the spring society, and every family supports people to return intoxicated.

"The Fifteenth Night of the First Month" by Su Weiwei

The trees and silver flowers bloom together, and the iron locks of the star bridge open.

The dark dust follows the horse, and the bright moon follows the person.

All the prostitutes on the road are weeding plums, and all the plum blossoms are falling when they sing.

Jinwu can’t help but stay at night, and jade leaks don’t urge each other.

"Visiting an Old Friend's Village" by Meng Haoran

An old friend brought chicken and millet and invited me to Tian's house.

Green trees border the village, and Qingshanguo slopes outside.

Open a dining room and chat over wine.

On the Double Ninth Festival, I will still come to see chrysanthemums.

"Chasing He with Liu Yun" Li He

There is white apple grass in Tingzhou, Liu Yun returns on horseback.

The hawthorn trees at the head of the river are fragrant, and butterflies are flying on the shore.

The wine glass is full of dew, and the jade is full of tung trees.

The Zhulou is connected to the water, and the sand is warm with a pair of fish. 2. Poems describing interpersonal relationships

1. There is a kind of person who always hopes that others will be strong when they are farming, but will get sick and die when they are harvesting.

2. Interpersonal relationships are communication between people. It expresses in a modern way the golden rule in the Bible: "If you want others to do unto you, do unto others first."

3. Friends are a kind of interpersonal relationship outside of the five ethics. Friends must have a life-and-death mentality because people have not clearly defined the meaning of this term.

4. No one can avoid collision with others in life. He had to fight his way through the crowd in various ways, offending others and enduring their offences.

5. There is no perfect thing and no perfect person. The key is to know what you want. To get what you want, you will definitely lose another part. If you want everything, you will get nothing.

6. Happiness is the most important. Who, what, and what makes you happy, you should be with them. If something makes you unhappy, leave him. If there are no conditions, you will leave him even if you create conditions.

7. I would rather eat chaff with good people than eat a feast with bad people.

8. Be cautious when choosing friends, and even more cautious when changing friends.

9. If you are driving a car, do not stop to say hello to a colleague riding a bicycle. People will think you are showing off.

10. Self-criticism always makes people believe, but self-praise does not.

11. Friends who admonish you in secret must be friends who praise you in public.

12. Friendship is two hearts treating each other sincerely, rather than one heart beating another heart.

13. If you want to gain the friendship of others, you must first be friendly to others.

14. Playing with other people’s emotions actually hurts your own emotions.

15. The first time you dare to laugh at yourself, you have matured.

16. While compromising, you must also adhere to your most basic principles.

17. Don’t overestimate your power in the group, because when you choose to leave, you will find that the sun will still rise even without you

18. When you are young A person who only cares about himself will become a very stingy person and become a hopeless miser in old age.

19. If we want to make friends, we must first do something for others—things that require time, energy, thoughtfulness, and dedication.

20. Although a person can choose many paths, he cannot take two paths at the same time.

21. Look at yesterday clearly, grasp today in a down-to-earth manner, and look forward to tomorrow happily. Ask for experience from yesterday, ask for results from today, and ask for motivation from tomorrow.

22. When talking with friends, you need to be careful with your language. Adults should also take care of each other step by step and avoid spreading bad words, so as to promote the friendship between the two parties. Reducing right and wrong is an important part of promoting interpersonal relationships. Spread more good words and never spread a single bad word.

23. If a person abandons his loyal friends, it is equivalent to abandoning his most precious life.

24. If you are happy, just smile and let everyone know. Sad, just pretend nothing happened.

25. Don’t be a hedgehog. If you don’t make enemies with others, you won’t make enemies with others. You won’t follow anyone for the rest of your life. There is no need to keep these things in mind.

26. See through but don’t tell. For many things, as long as you know them in your heart, there is no need to say them out loud.

27. As long as it does not violate your principles, you must be tolerant of others and help when you can. Never push people to death or leave a way out for them

28 , Insist on saying good things about others behind their backs, and don’t worry that the good words won’t reach the ears of the person involved.

29. As long as you are willing to praise others, you will be the biggest winner.

30. Respect people who don’t like you.

31. Don’t have money dealings with friends, and don’t lend money to friends. If you lend money to others, just like Mr. Hu Shi, if I borrow it, I won’t ask for repayment. There is no money exchange between people, which makes our interpersonal relationships more successful.

32. Although broken friendships can be restored, they can never reach the level of intimacy.

33. Human relations are to establish reasonable interpersonal relationships from an ethical point of view.

34. Never get involved with anyone, including those who are least friendly to you. You deal with your interpersonal disputes, while I'm busy with my business work.

35. If you don’t like someone, you can respond with a silent smile; if you like someone, just do whatever you want, because your love will be revealed unstoppably.

36. Giving up is a kind of wisdom, and defects are a kind of grace.

37. Be a person first and do things later. Only when you are a person well can you succeed in doing things.

38. If you sincerely accept yourself, you will be more able to sincerely accept others. 3. Write poems about interpersonal relationships

The interpersonal relationships in real society are: follow when there is power, and go when there is no power. When the benefits are abundant, they gather; when the benefits are exhausted, they disperse.

If you have time, read more of "The Eight Secret Volumes of Secrets of the World Without a Plan". It reveals society and human nature too profoundly.

"The Eight Books of the Secret of No Strategy in the World (Set of ***8 volumes)" selected eight of the ancient books involving power and strategy in ancient times with the most guiding and strategic value, and conducted a comprehensive The thorough organization, systematic annotations, and quotations from scriptures make it enlightening to read. History is always surprisingly similar. From these books, readers can not only review history well, but also learn from history to guide themselves to better solve problems in life, work, business, and interpersonal relationships.

"Luo Zhi Jing (The Most Strange Classic)": "Luo Zhi Jing" written by Lai Junchen and Wan Guojun, the cruel officials of the Tang Dynasty, is a book dedicated to Luo Zhi's crimes and battles of wits. In China's thousands of years of history, it is a unique "landscape", an inevitable misfortune, and has an unusual meaning. First, it is the first classic to create an unjust prison since the beginning of mankind. Secondly, it is the first book in the politics of cruel officials written by a cruel official, a naked confession of evildoers. Thirdly, it is the first complete book of tricks in the history of civilization that contains the culmination of evil wisdom. Fourth, it reveals for the first time the secret of why treacherous ministers live better than loyal ministers - the secret of conspiracy.

"The Little Man's Philosophy": "The Little Man's Classic" is the earliest monograph in Chinese history that comments on the "wisdom" of the villain. Author Feng Daoke Author Feng Daoke can be called a truly unique miracle in officialdom. Due to the author's special experience and villain's perspective, this book has some weight. In Zeng Guofan's words: "The Little Man's Classic tells the secret skills of the villain and the prosperity and failure of life. It puts the villain to shame and the gentleman." Horrifying..." "The Classic of Little People" only provides people with a unique perspective on looking at villains. As for how to define villains, how to guard against villains, and ultimately defeat villains, readers can have different opinions and wisdom.

"Machiavellianship (The Secret Skill of Life)": Machiavellianism is some strategies and methods used in interpersonal relationships. If used well, Machiavellian tactics are wisdom and can even become an art, which is pleasing to the eye. , appreciate it. Whether in politics, diplomacy, military affairs, or even in the most ordinary interpersonal interactions, Machiavellian tactics are actually everywhere. Machiavellianism is only an applied technology in our country, and few people have systematically studied and summarized it theoretically. As one of the few works on political strategy in ancient China, the reference value of this book is beyond doubt. Modern author Shi Banshan annotated this book, attached corresponding historical allusions, character profiles, and elaborated it, which not only enriched the content but also enhanced the readability.

"The Study of Weakness (The Sutra of Victory in Life)": There are strong and weak people in the world. There are strong people, but most of them are weak. Will the weak always be weak, and the strong always strong? Why do people sometimes feel strong and sometimes weak in their lives? How are strengths and weaknesses transformed? Mr. Ma Shuquan, a well-known ancient book compilation expert, compiled this very practical value "The Study of Weakness" based on the scattered discussions of Du Yu, a famous official in the Western Jin Dynasty, about the "power" of strength and weakness. It is rich in content, profound in meaning, and has the characteristics of knowledge, interest, plot, vividness, and readability.

"Tao Hui Shu (The Most Effective Knowledge)": Tao Hui Shu is the pillow box secret book of wise men in China's past dynasties, and it is their magic weapon for survival and prosperity.

Although people are sincerely convinced of it, study it carefully, and continue to use it in political battles, officialdom competitions and daily life, no one has put it into writing and written a monograph, which has the meaning of "a gentleman is far away from the kitchen". This is because the emphasis in feudal history was on "making speeches on behalf of the saints", so Tao Hui Shu was suspected of being a "conspiracy". In view of this, it is not difficult to understand why Yang Shen did not include this important work that condensed his efforts in his collected works during his lifetime.

"Zhi Xue (Book of Victory, Defeat, Honor and Disgrace)": Never underestimate the word "Zhi", it is related to everyone's victory, defeat, honor and disgrace: For big people, a "Zhi" determines their success. Ordinary and great; for an ordinary person, it determines his success or failure; for a gambler, it determines losing or winning... The secret of "stop" lies in one mind.

"Jie Jie Jian (Book of Seeking Advantages and Avoiding Disadvantages)": When encountering misfortune, getting into trouble is the normal state of life. Complaining and escaping have no way out. A person's life cannot be smooth sailing. The important thing is to get rid of adversities, turn disadvantages into advantages, and turn disasters into good fortune. This book by Yan Shu, Prime Minister of the Northern Song Dynasty, is not only based on "relieving disaster", it also pays attention to the root causes of people's disaster. In the book, Yan Shu deeply and concretely analyzed the various weaknesses of human nature, and proposed the idea of ??understanding the root causes of Erdang. This is the brilliance of Yan Shu and the special feature of this book. It can be said that this is the only monograph in ancient history that systematically discusses and analyzes "the weakness of human nature". It can be said to be profound and penetrating.

"Shi Jing (Official Studies)": In ancient Chinese society, except for major social turbulences such as wars and dynasty changes, things were calm on the surface, but in fact things were turbulent and changing. Count the officialdom. On the one hand, officials must work hard to realize their political ambitions, which is the so-called achievement of meritorious service and to worship generals and become prime ministers. On the other hand, they must try their best to preserve themselves in order to secure honor and favor. There are many knowledge and strategies involved in this. 4. Looking for poems that describe social harmony and harmonious interpersonal relationships,

"Jiangcun" Du Fu's Qingjiang River embraces the village, and everything in the Changxia River Village is quiet.

The swallows in the hall come and go, and the gulls in the water are close to each other. The old wife draws paper to make a chess game, while the child knocks needles to make a fishing hook.

But if you have an old friend to offer you Lumi, what more can you ask for in addition to your tiny body? "Visiting Shanxi Village" Lu You Moxiao's farmhouse is full of wax and wine, and in good years there are enough chickens and dolphins for visitors. The mountains and rivers are full of doubts and there is no way, and the willows and flowers are dark and the flowers are bright in another village.

The flutes and drums follow the spring society, and the clothes and clothes are simple and ancient. From now on, if I am allowed to take advantage of the moonlight, I will knock on the door all the time and night with my stick.

"She Day" Wang Jia's Ehu Mountain. The rice and beams are fat, and the pig cages and chickens are perching with their doors half-opened. The shadows of mulberry trees are scattered in the spring community, and every family supports people to return intoxicated.

"On the 15th night of the first lunar month" in Suzhou, the trees and flowers are blooming, and the iron locks of the star bridge are opened. The dark dust follows the horse, and the bright moon follows the person.

All the prostitutes on the prostitutes are wearing plums, and all the plum blossoms are falling when they sing. Jinwu can't help but stay at night, and the jade leaks don't urge each other.

"Passing an Old Friend's Village" Meng Haoran's old friend invited me to Tian's house with chicken and millet. The green trees border the village, and the green mountains and hills slope outside.

Open a dining room and chat over wine. When the Double Ninth Festival comes, there will be chrysanthemums.

"Chasing and Liu Yun" Li He Tingzhou white apple grass, Liu Yun returned on horseback. The hawthorn trees at the head of the river are fragrant, and butterflies are flying on the shore.

The wine glass is full of dew, and the jade is full of tung trees. The Zhulou is connected to the water, and the sand is warm with a pair of fish. 5. Quotes about interpersonal relationships

1. Interaction is an inevitable companion of human beings. ——Marx, "Selected Works of Marx and Engels"

2. A conversation with someone once can often enlighten the mind more than years of working behind closed doors. Thoughts must be generated in interactions with others and processed and expressed in solitude. ——Leo Tolstoy

3. A heart-to-heart conversation is a display of the soul. ——Wan Caverin

4. Everyone needs someone to talk to him openly and honestly. Although a man can be very heroic, he can also be very lonely. ——Hemingway

5. Be a good listener and encourage others to talk about themselves. ——Dale Carnegie

6. Everyone knows that listening is important to communication. …but few organizations take care to listen to their employees and their customers. ——William Nichols

7. The reason why some people have communication difficulties in real life is because they have forgotten an important principle: making others feel important. ——Dale Carnegie

8. The most unbearable loneliness is the lack of true friendship. ——Bacon

9. Understanding is definitely the soil that nurtures all the fruits of friendship. ——Wilson

10. The most beautiful thing in life is his friendship with others. ——Lincoln

11. Oh, my friend, this is what I mean. Because of you, the blue sky is vast; because of you, the roses are red and gorgeous. ——Emerson

12. Friendship is as valuable to the human heart as alchemy often says that their gems are to the human body. ——Bacon

13. If you are not a true friend, no matter how heavy the gift is, it will not open your heart. ——F. Bacon

14. It is better to have someone who can’t read a word than to have someone who has read tens of thousands of books.

——Jin Ying

15. The best way to maintain friendship is not to betray your friends. ——Miznier

16. You will usually find that you talk more when you are with someone who has nothing to say. ——Pafisa

17. Friendship is a free and happy wish for oneself, which always harmonizes the natural sympathy behavior, beyond lust, interest, competition and accident. ——Alan 6. Ancient poems about interpersonal relationships

1. "Writing Love"

Tang Dynasty: Li Yi

The water pattern on the precious silk is long and thoughtful, The good times of a thousand miles rest in one night.

From now on, I have no intention of loving the good night and let him go down to the west tower under the bright moon.

2. "Four-Character Order: Deep Love and True Meaning"

Song Dynasty: Liu Guo

Deep love and true meaning. The eyebrows are long and the temples are green. The bright moon in the small building tunes the zither. Write several sounds of spring breeze.

I miss you and remember you. Haunted by dreams. The fragrance of green pins warms the cloud screen. Even more sober.

3. "Journey to the South of the Yangtze River"

Tang Dynasty: Ancestor Yong

The Chu Mountains are not extreme, but the way back is bleak.

Watch the rain when the sea is clear, and listen to the tide at night when the river sounds.

The sword stays close to you in the south, and the book is sent to the north wind far away.

In order to repay empty pond oranges, I sent them to Luoqiao without a matchmaker.

4. "The Bridge of Ending of Love"

Tang Dynasty: Yong Tao

Love has always been the only thing that is hard to end, so why is it called the Bridge of Ending of Love?

From then on, he changed his name to Zheliu and let him leave his heart.

5. "Autumn Love"

Song Dynasty: Wu Wenying

A cloud carries rain and a gull crosses the river. The water color is Dantingzhou. The little lotus jade is red and resentful, and the green quilt has experienced autumn again.

Cool, go to the south building. Small curtain hook. Half of the window is dimmed with light, a few banana leaves, and the guests dream of the bedside. 7. Ancient poems about interpersonal relationships

Quotes about interpersonal relationships 1. The most beautiful thing in life is his friendship with others.

——Lincoln 2. I would rather eat chaff with good people than eat a banquet with bad people. —— Thomas Fuller 3. The true measure of a friend is behavior rather than words; those who seem to say all the nice things are actually far from this standard.

——Washington 4. Not all relatives are friends, but only those who have the same interests are friends. 5. Friendship established on the basis of business is better than business established on the basis of friendship.

——Rockefeller 6. Oh, my friend, this is what I mean. Because of you, the blue sky is vast; because of you, the roses are red and gorgeous.

——Emerson 7. People who do not get friendship will be miserable lonely people for life. A society without friendship is just a prosperous desert.

- Bacon 8. Deceptive friendship is a painful wound, and false sympathy is a sharp poisonous arrow. ——Lenin 9. When people like to be strong, I use softness to overcome them; when people use skills, I feel them with sincerity; when people use anger, I use reason to bend them.

10. When you are in good times, those who come only upon invitation are your true friends. But when you are in bad times, those who come without invitation are your true friends. ——Ciofrasta 11. If you are not a true friend, no matter how heavy the gift is, it will not open your heart.

——F. Bacon 12. When I am with someone who is too strong, I will not feel my existence. Making friends is not about choosing the perfect ones with our eyes, but about attracting like-minded ones with our hearts.

——Roland 13. Friendship is the most precious thing in the world, and deep friendship is the greatest comfort in life. ——Zou Taofen 14. The road to success must be dotted with broken friendships.

——Wells 15. In the past life, friendship was like a bright light that illuminated my soul and gave my life a little brilliance. ——Ba Jin 16. If we want to make friends, we must first do something for others - things that require time, physical strength, thoughtfulness and dedication to do.

——Carnegie 17. Although broken friendships can be restored, they will never reach the level of intimacy. - Thomas Fuller 18. Don't be afraid to reject others if your reasons are legitimate.

19. A person who never appreciates others is a person who will never be appreciated by others. 20. Building relationships is a process of digging a well. What you pay is a little bit of sweat, but what you get is a steady stream of wealth.

——Harvey McKay 21. The thing that is more precious and makes people happier than honor, wine, love and wisdom is my friendship. ——Hesse 22. True friendship should be the same whether viewed from the front or the back. It cannot be a rose from the front and a thorn from the back.

——Lucert 23. Old trees are the best to burn, old horses are best to ride, old books are the best to read, old wine is the best to drink, and old friends are the most trustworthy. ——Wright 24. Sales is constantly looking for more people, and selling to the people you find.

——Tom Hopkins 25. Friendship can only be produced and maintained in practice.

——Goethe 26. You will usually find that you talk more when you are with someone who has nothing to say.

——Pafisa 27. Friendship is a free and happy wish for oneself, which always harmonizes the natural sympathy and behavior, beyond the competition of sexual interests and accidents. ——Alan 28. The scary thing is not loneliness and loneliness, but that you have to deal with people you don’t want to associate with.

29. Friendship! How many people in the world, when they say this word, mean pleasant conversations over tea and drinks and tolerance of each other's weaknesses! But what does this have to do with friendship? ——Fadeyev 30. Friendship is an infinite world, how broad it is! ——Lo Browning 31. Friendship can enhance happiness and reduce pain; because it can multiply our joy and share our worries. ——Edison 32. One of the main functions of friendship is to vent and relax the anger and depression in people's hearts. These extraordinary emotions can be caused by various emotions.

- Bacon 33. Love makes people strong, but it also makes people weak. Friendship only makes people strong.

——Bernard 34. For a patient, kindness and brotherly sympathy are sometimes even more effective than medicine. ——Dostoyevsky 35. The greatest wealth in life is personal connections, because it can open up every door of the abilities you need, allowing you to continue to grow and contribute to society.

——Anthony Robin 36. When the god of poverty comes in quietly, the false friendship rushes out of the window and escapes. ——Mill 37. Success comes from 85% personal connections and 15% professional knowledge.

——Carnegie 38. The best thing in the world is to have a few serious friends with upright minds and hearts. ——Einstein 39. One of the concepts that has achieved the highest performance in the field of sales is the "money tree" concept.

Network sales is a process of branching out and bearing fruit. ——Born Tracy 40. Friendship! You are the mysterious glue of the soul; you are the sweetener of life and the social connector! ——Lord Blair 41. Friendship is as valuable to the human heart as alchemy often says that their gems are to the human body.

- Bacon 42. The most unbearable loneliness is the lack of true friendship. ——Bacon 43. Friends gained through wine and food will become passers-by in the blink of an eye when the wine bottles are empty.

——Shakespeare 44. The love caused by marriage creates children; the love caused by friendship creates a person. ——Bacon 45. Beautiful things are often because they are sincere.

46. Sincere friendship is like health. You only know how valuable it is when you lose it. ——Golden 47. When dealing with brave people, read without words.

——Zhou Enlai 48. Treat people who share the same ideals as friends, not those who share the same interests. ——Roland 49. Friends on the trading floor are better than money in the cabinet.

- Thomas Fuller 50. A large number of friendships make life strong. Loving and being loved is the greatest happiness in life.

——Sidney Smith 51. A father is a source of wealth, a brother is a comfort, and a friend is both a source of wealth and comfort. ——Franklin 52. If you want to gain the friendship of others, you must first be friendly to others.

——Emerson 53. We think about how to maintain health, how to accumulate wealth, how to strengthen the roof, and how to prepare clothes; but smart people think about how to choose the most precious thing-friends . ——Emerson 54. Understand. 8. Who can tell me an ancient article or poem about interpersonal relationships?

Chapter 16 of Ji Shi

16·1 Ji Shi will attack Zhuan Yu (1). Ran You and Ji Lu met Confucius and said, "The Ji family will have something to do (2) in Zhuan Yu." Confucius said: "Please! Isn't this the fault of you? Zhuan Yu, in the past, the previous king thought that the Lord of Dongmeng (3), and In the city-state, he is a minister of the state. Why should he attack? " Ran You said: "Master wants it, but neither of my two ministers want it." Confucius said: "Please!" Zhou Ren (4) said. :'Chen Li just lists (5), and if you can't, stop it. 'If you don't support it when you are in danger, how can you use that phase (6)? (8), the turtle jade was destroyed in the coffin (9), whose fault was it?" Ran You said: "If I don't take it now, my descendants will worry about it. "Confucius said: "Please! The gentleman who wants to give up will do what he wants. Qiu also heard that those who have a country and a family do not worry about being few but worry about inequality, and do not worry about poverty but worry about insecurity (11). , There are no widows, and there is no danger. If the people from afar are not convinced, then they will come to you. Now that you have come, you will be safe. If the people from afar are not convinced and cannot come, the country will fall apart. I cannot defend it; I am planning to start a war within the country. I am afraid that Ji Sun's worries are not within Zhuan Yu, but within Xiao Qiang (12)."

16·2 Confucius said: "There is a way in the world. , then the rituals and music will be conquered from the emperor; if the world is unruly, then the rituals and music will be conquered from the princes. From the princes, hope will not be lost in ten generations; Hope is not lost. If there is a way in the world, the government will not be governed by the officials. If there is a way in the world, the common people will not discuss it.

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16·3 Confucius said: “Lu Zhi went to the public office for the fifth generation (1), and Zheng arrested (2) for the fourth generation (3) of the official, and the descendants of his old husband Sanhuan (4) Very small. "

16·4 Confucius said: "Three friends will benefit you, and three friends will harm you. , friends are straightforward, friends are understanding (1), friends who are well-informed are beneficial. If you are friends, you will be open (2), if you are friendly and gentle (3), if you are friends, you will be embarrassed (4), which is a loss. ”

16·5 Confucius said: “Three pleasures are gained, and three pleasures are harmed.” It is beneficial to enjoy festivals, rituals and music (1), to enjoy the kindness of Taoists and to enjoy many virtuous friends. Le Jiao Le (2), Le Yi (3) You, Le Yan Le (4), it’s a loss. ”

16.6 Confucius said: “There are three mistakes in serving a gentleman (1): speaking of something without mentioning it is called impatience; speaking of something without speaking is called concealment; speaking of not seeing the color is called Blind (2). "

16·7 Confucius said: "A gentleman has three warnings: when he is young, his blood is not stable, and the warning is in appearance; when he is strong, his blood is strong, and he should be careful in fighting; when he is old, his blood is strong. Since it is declining, it is time to get rid of it. "

16·8 Confucius said: "A gentleman has three fears: fear of destiny, fear of great men, and fear of the words of sages. A villain who doesn't know the destiny and is not afraid of it will insult an adult and insult the words of a saint. ”

16.9 Confucius said: “Those who are born knowing are the best; those who know by learning are the second; those who are tired and learn are the second; those who are tired and do not learn, the people are at the bottom.” . ”

16·10 Confucius said: “A gentleman has nine thoughts: looking for wisdom, listening for intelligence, looking for warmth, looking for respect, speaking for loyalty, acting with respect, thinking for doubts, thinking for anger and difficulty. , see the meaning. ”

16·11 Confucius said: “Seeing good is like falling short, and seeing bad is like exploring the soup. I have seen him, I have heard his words. Live in seclusion to pursue your ambitions, and practice righteousness to achieve your goals. I heard his words, but I didn't see him. ”

16·12 Qi Jinggong had thousands of horses. On the day of his death, the people had no virtue and were called Yan. Boyi Shuqi died of starvation under Shou Yang, and the people still call him Yan. This is called Yan. ?

16·13 Chen Kang (1) asked Yu Boyu: "Is there any strange news (2)? He said to him, "Weiye." Taste independence, carps tend to cross the court. He said: ‘Are you studying poetry? ’ He replied: ‘Weiye’. ‘If you don’t learn poetry, you won’t be able to express it. ’ The carp retreated and studied poetry. One day he will be independent again, and the carps will flock to the court. He said: ‘Do you want to learn etiquette? ’ He replied: ‘Weiye’. 'If you don't learn etiquette, you can't stand up. ’ The carp retreated and learned etiquette. Wensi both. Chen Kang retreated and said happily: "Ask one and get three." Hearing poems, hearing etiquette, and hearing how far a gentleman is (3) his son. ”

16·14 The wife of the king of the country is called madam by the king, and the wife calls herself little boy. The people of the country call her the lady of the king, and the foreigners call her the widowed prince. The foreigners also call her the wife of the king.