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Some senior three students feel that they have studied hard for decades, but they don't expect to feel satisfied with anything when they reach senior three. They always feel that their study and thinking are in a "desperate situation". Under the guidance of this "desperate situation", they lose the motivation to make progress, and they are tired of learning day after day ... Senior three should learn to correctly understand "desperate situation" and get out of their own "desperate situation"!
The so-called desperate situation is "a dilemma with no obvious way out;" In a dilemma "Despair should be divided into despair and opportunity. Throughout the ages, a group of people have fallen into despair, stimulated their potential and made great achievements in the historical process. There are also many people who are desperate and have nothing to do all their lives! The same is true of senior three. When we enter senior three, we will face all kinds of problems, realistic and psychological ... we are not learning machines. What we have gained is the spiritual training of senior three: seeing many desperate situations that we have never seen before, and then facing them positively and defeating them!
Despair is not despair.
As the saying goes: there are unexpected events in the sky, and people are doomed to misfortune. People don't know what kind of despair they will face all their lives. The key is what kind of mentality people should have. For students in the so-called "desperate situation" in senior three, don't blindly exaggerate the power of "desperate situation". "There is no obvious way out", that is, despair. "There is no obvious way out" is very clear, that is, there is no way out, but it is not obvious! As long as you explore hard, you can always find a way out. Therefore, the key to despair is how to think and how to do it!
In fact, senior three students in previous years will face their own "desperate situation" to varying degrees, but every year in the past, how many senior three students have been defeated because of desperate situation! No, all we see is them fighting in despair! What we see is the bright smiling face of youth after tempering!
Several elements of desperate situation
Have a correct understanding of your situation. Might as well use those fearful time to seriously consider what kind of desperate situation you are in. A classmate fell into such a situation, always worried that he didn't study hard and was sorry for his parents. Once time is wasted, he will have a deep remorse, and then he can't control it. This feeling of self-blame will affect his devotion to study ... in fact, stop and think about it. No one can waste 100% of the time. The reward for his parents is to study hard today. Self-reproach can't make time to go back lose more!
A correct understanding of your situation is equivalent to a clearer understanding of yourself.
Be hard on yourself. Some students are well aware, but they are "tolerant" to themselves. They know that some difficulties can be done well as long as they mind their own business, but when things come, they choose to escape and think of some funny reasons. Be hard on yourself, and the pain of despair will not come again!
A classmate lost sleep, became impatient, and his mood plummeted. He thought he was hopeless and was in a desperate situation. Suggestions after the exchange: be hard on yourself and hit yourself! If you can't sleep at night, you won't sleep. Turn on the flashlight to see some knowledge, and don't have to sleep at noon ... A week later, he did it, not only his eyes were no longer red, but also he was quite energetic. My suggestion is that, on the one hand, it is more important that he can insist on doing it himself and be hard on himself!
Sunshine mentality, look at the future. The biggest gain that senior three brings us is not only what kind of university to enter, but more importantly, it can cultivate our tough and sunny mentality. Every year after the college entrance examination, I will meet those students who used to be senior three, and they all shine with a rational brilliance, which is actually the role of the sunshine mentality achieved in the process of senior three. We are not good at a certain subject, and even seriously "biased". When we are doing such a topic, we are miserable, then we get bored and escape, and then we won't ... In the long run, why not bring ourselves a positive side with a sunny attitude? Consider this subject the worst, and it can only get better in the future! Well, at least from now on, this course can only get better and better! Slowly, you will fall in love with this course that once put you in a "desperate situation" and even discover the potential to surprise you!
Give action. When we go through a "desperate situation" and look back, we will also feel sorry for the time we wasted. In fact, one of the best ways to get out of the predicament is to take action, because to take action, we must put most of our energy here. In this way, I won't worry unnecessarily, and I won't blindly enlarge my "desperate situation". A classmate, who has a hard life but is not qualified to be a poor student, is caught in an imaginary dilemma: he can't finish his studies and can't go to college ... this life is over! If he goes on like this, it's really hopeless. Later, he adjusted his mentality and let himself overcome difficulties through his own strength! But learning can never be delayed. He proved his ambition by working harder. Sure enough, things were not so bad, and soon the school came down with the second batch of subsidies, including him. Imagine if he was just worried and didn't study here, even if he got a subsidy later, how long would it take to make up for the delayed study?
Senior three, get out of your corner! Hold your head high and the sun is shining!
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Sang Yu is her screen name, and we met in a qq group called Wudaokou Accommodation Group.
Wudaokou is another name of the former Institute of Finance of the People's Bank of China, and now it is Wudaokou College in Tsinghua University, once known as the peak of financial postgraduate entrance examination. After the results of the postgraduate entrance examination came out, I don't know who built this group, but when we chatted enthusiastically in the group, we temporarily forgot the pain of failing the list.
Later we went to another school for a second interview, and I met her in reality. She is a typical southern girl with a delicate appearance and a light voice, but I always remember her stubborn eyes and hit the nail on the head talk. I still remember when I asked her why she wanted to take the Wudaokou exam, she only answered eight words: "Crime is extremely difficult, but it is far away."
At that time, many people were admitted to Wudaokou in World War II or even World War III. It's my first test, but she's in the second year, and we're all four points short of the retest line. Presumably, like me, most of the remarks she heard were: "Oh, almost, I will definitely be admitted next year!"
But even if "almost", I don't have the courage to take the exam for another year. She is also a little tangled, because one more year will bring the Third World War. No one can guarantee that you can pass the exam next year, and no one can help you share the loneliness of looking for hope with your eyes wide open in the dark and the great pressure of putting all your eggs in one basket. What's more, girls' youth is fleeting A school that has been gambling for three years, the worries of family members, the discouragement of friends, and my own doubts are like an insurmountable glacier, which is difficult and insurmountable step by step.
But I only heard her talk lightly about how she rented a house off campus and studied alone during World War II. I admire her very much. If nothing else, the intensity of reviewing 14 or 5 hours every day has exceeded that of many graduate students. In the winter when there is no heating in the south, she is alone in the rented room, holding a thermos bottle and reading a book. In such a desolate and barren environment, her heart is full of warm hope.
After the second interview, I was admitted. After many twists and turns, I gave up the idea of World War II for Wudaokou, but she resolutely went back to prepare for World War III.
We haven't contacted each other since then. I started my graduate life, and she opened those math review books, English word little red books, and professional course notes that I read many times. For a whole year, her qq signature has been Allen? De Botton's words: "When we dig holes in the dark, we must try our best to turn tears into knowledge."
A year has passed without leaving a trace, just like every year in the past. The following spring, my friend sent me a link, which was the final admission list of Wudaokou. I saw her name at a glance, and the wind in early spring floated in through the window, which made people unable to restrain the tears in their eyes. For the journey I gave up, she trudged to the end, and no amount of bright flowers and loud applause was enough to repay her. I imagined her wading through the icy glacier alone, savoring loneliness again, nourishing herself with strong inner strength when no one gave her encouragement, and finally coming to a spring with flowers and birds.
Three years of youth for a dream, how many people ask if it is worth it, and even many people say that people who insist on taking the postgraduate entrance examination for several years are "postgraduate patients." However, there is never too much right or wrong and truth in the cry and wandering of youth. The word "value" can be light or heavy, and the measurement lies in people's hearts. I knew early in the morning that the weak woman would eventually shine, like the sun shining on the vast Yuan Ye, like a meteor shining on the boundless sky.
During this time, I sorted out the manuscript of the new book, and those embarrassing past events came back with fresh water. I almost forgot that I wrote so many words for them. I feel that even after I have gone a long way, it is difficult for me to write more honest and tearful handwriting than them. Because the frank, sincere and tearful years they represent are saying goodbye to me step by step, when I am reluctant to spend time dropping out of college.
Back to a year ago, when I wrote them silently, there were only 100 concerns in Douban, and not many people saw them. However, there are hundreds of clients in the internship unit waiting for me to visit one by one, and they all have to endure my tireless hunger and thirst marketing under the pressure of the task. I don't remember their faces, the embarrassment before I spoke, or their indifferent response. I only remember the hot bus seat in midsummer, the nap in the hot restaurant at noon, and the product sheets wrinkled because of the wet sweat on my hands.
So at the end of the internship, I can finally change my pants into watermelon red hot pants and walk on the road with my friends laughing. I only see the sky is clear and high because of the early arrival of autumn, and the soft clouds make people want to jump loudly, sayhi. We are all tanned and tired, but the pace towards the future is forceful.
Later, I started looking for jobs and often took them out to have a look. At the rush hour of late autumn night in Beijing, when the recruitment notices are rearranged one by one in the bustling subway station, when it is difficult to resist the sudden cooling and strong wind in Tianjin in early winter, when waiting in the waiting hall of Shanghai Railway Station to see the company profile to be interviewed the next day. Those handwriting warmed themselves countless times before they warmed countless strangers later. When I don't know where to go, they remind me of the brave and fearless past, the figure running all the way and the red sun finally ushered in. Those handwriting, one by one, are jumping hot hearts, which can be permanently sealed between the lines.
Time went back to two years ago, which was also the summer vacation. The first time I saw the theory of 10 thousand hours of genius was in Alien. I wrote many wishes on my wish list, one of which is to publish a book. Later, it was a non-stop internship. Because of research, I always stayed up late in the study room at night. Tired and confused day and night, I repeatedly asked questions and thought, expecting fate to give me a chance to choose calmly. In November, I was writing alone in the dormitory, pushing open the window, and the white and fresh snow seemed to wake up from a big dream, which made people move. The past is like falling snow. Only when I think of the way I have been running and growing up can I feel that the cold wind is not terrible. Only I can awaken the gentle spring with warm rain and mountains and rivers.
Back to four years ago, thousands of people were listening to graduate math classes in hot classrooms. I turned to look back from the first row, and their expressions were unexpectedly similar. Later, I saw the kind of crowded corporate presentations, the crowded recruitment site, the mobilization meeting of new company induction training, and the crowds holding hands and having a warm conversation on campus. I just know that that look belongs to countless young people, you and me, the most sincere desire for the future in the barren years, and the fearless youth that shines before being defeated by reality.
At one time, a post called "Why Work hard" was widely circulated on the Internet. Someone asked me, why should I work hard? I think it's because there are too many things in life that you can't control even if you try hard. For example, the heart of the person you admire, the old face of your parents, and the irreversible passage of time like quicksand. Therefore, for those things that can be firmly held in the palm of your hand as long as you work hard, why not cherish them and why not fight for them?
After all, when you were young, all of you chased me and rushed to the front, just for a hearty and regretless time. Let countless seemingly mediocre souls, in fact, rich and stirring, show a gentle smile when they fall into memories.
You must know as well as I do that there is no other way to lead us to a gentle and beautiful spring except to wrap your collar tightly in the cold wind.
And I also know that before you are captured by secular reality, before you are embraced by trivial life, you will eventually shine, like the sun shining on the vast Yuan Ye, like a meteor shining on the boundless sky.
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June is said to be a rainy season, and the melancholy atmosphere pervades the city, bidding farewell to the gentle spring breeze and welcoming the hot summer. Finally graduated, with the expectation of work and imagination of future life, I embarked on the journey of chasing my dreams.
I have never regretted my original choice. In Kaiying, I learned the power of persistence, hard work, self-confidence and belief. I know many brothers and friends here. Looking at the smiling faces and * * * on their faces every day, I feel surge of emotion surge. I planted the seeds of hope here, and tomorrow I will reap the fruits of my dreams.
From entering Kaiying to today, I am very grateful to one person. Chen Qin, the general manager of the third department of World War II Marketing Department, performed well in ordinary posts and expressed persistence in ordinary life.
Mr. Chen has a strong sense of responsibility for his work, and his personality is very gentle. He is never afraid of hardship or fatigue. Come to the company in advance every morning to arrange work tasks. Every night, the last person to leave the company is always her thin figure. Everyone who knows her knows that she always wears two panda eyes, just because she gives all her rest time to work, so that the employees below can get more salary returns and compete for the team honor of standing on the podium. At work, I always demand myself with "three firsts", and the company's rules and regulations must be observed first; Learn what others can do first; Where the following employees can't, help others learn first. We personally led the partners in the third part of World War II to fight all the way through the most difficult years, and won the performance championship of the whole group in February 20 16. Every month after that, our partners in the third part of World War II achieved the best results with the belief of family, a dream, fighting together and winning together.
Whenever, after work or on holidays, as long as our department partners have any problems, she will help them solve them in time. In the most difficult time of the department, the following employees left one by one, and she was under pressure alone, leading the few remaining old employees to complete all the work and performance goals with the greatest efforts; When the employee was unwell, she took the initiative to come forward and say hello. Everyone who knows her knows that her thin body contains endless explosive power and blood like a wolf, which makes employees respectable and opponents can shoot.
After 80, Mr. Chen has not yet got married. She gave all her youth to work, and in her life, there is only the spirit of struggle. There is a saying that if people have no ambition, why go far away? Chen Zonghuai came to Hefei from Jiangxi with a dream of thousands of miles. When she first came here, she had no relatives and friends, and she was ill. When she was alone, she listened to music quietly and was under pressure alone. Everyday life is busy and simple. Even so, Mr. Chen didn't take a day off and stuck to his post. Walking for the night is her insistence on her work. She has a harmonious relationship with her colleagues. Anyone in trouble will enthusiastically lend a helping hand. When it comes to Chen Qin, the general manager of World War II III, the leaders and employees of Kaiying will not hesitate to give a thumbs up.
From graduation to entering the society, at night, I always like to look up at the starry sky outside the window and daydream: how to go on in the future? where am I going? Where is the target? What do you pursue? Aware of what? When I came to Kaiying, I seemed to clear the fog of life and see the direction of progress. Teacher Chen was the one who walked on the muddy road on rainy days and saw the starlight on the bumpy water under his feet. Although the journey is very difficult, we will be very happy.
In the era of struggle, don't choose to be comfortable, bravely pay your youth, have no regrets, and protect our World War III area with your responsibility and love. She won the praise of leaders and the respect of employees. She wrote her wonderful life in ordinary words.