It was not until I grew up that I gradually realized that this might not be the case. Although people's bodies are all in the same world, even if everyone sees the same day and night, books and scenery, in fact, everyone only perceives the world from their own dimensions, so that they eventually live in their own version of the world.
The most obvious example of this view is conjoined babies. A pair of conjoined babies are destined to experience the same growing environment and meet the same people, things and things from birth. However, even in conjoined life, the same "day and night, books and scenery" are processed by two different brains. In fact, the last two conjoined babies feel completely different from the outside world, so that they are conjoined.
Be reasonable, there is only one reason:
The so-called party refers to everyone's inner cage!
The essence of life is to think about a world-its complete logical chain can be explained as follows:
Believe me, no matter who you are, stand in the square and see the outside world. In the end, the world you see is just yourself!
The bigger problem is that once this situation lasts for a long time, you will mistakenly think that your box is the whole world, and it will be easy to think that the world you feel must be true and correct, and even think that it should be someone else's world! There will always be conflicts between people, which is why everyone thinks that what they feel is the true and correct world.
In my previous article on education and self-education, I mentioned that the reason of our psychological cage is the inevitable result of our education since childhood, but I didn't make it clear what our psychological cage is and another more terrible fact-there are more than one psychological cage, and there are countless ones!
The first cage: the cage of the senses
The difference between people, first of all, is the difference of sensory system;
Humans are born with various sensory organs, such as eyes, ears, nose, mouth, tongue and body, which are called sensory channels of the human body. It can be said that the sensory system is our window to observe and contact the first world-when we need to interact with people, things and things outside, the brain will mobilize the sensory channels in our body through vision, hearing, touch, taste, smell and inner feelings.
But for different people, everyone's sensory system ability varies according to their life experiences from small to large. Some people may be more adaptable to vision, while others may be more adaptable to hearing (or touch or taste or smell or inner feelings), for example; When I see someone smiling at me, I know he thanks me. After someone said it, I knew he thanked me. When someone touches me, I know he thanks me.
Therefore, when we come into contact with the same people, things and things outside, in fact, everyone's experience of the same "things" is different, because their sensory preferences and abilities are different (for example, blind people and people with normal vision must have different experiences). Looking further, everyone has been receiving their own experiences according to their preferred sensory organs since childhood, and in the end, they can undoubtedly only develop their own inner map or model.
The second cage: cognitive cage
The external "information" enters our brain, and the sensory system is only the first layer of processing, followed by cognition.
First of all, we need to understand that the working mode of our brain is "objective fact-receiving-processing-explanation-output reaction", that is, the first is the most primitive objective fact, and then the reception of the sensory channel mentioned above. The intermediate process is that the complex neural network in our brain processes information and finally the output reaction and evaluation. In real life, most people just experience the final output reaction directly.
Is there a "processing interpretation layer" in the brain? How is the cognitive cage formed?
The above is the formation process of our cognitive cage: at ordinary times, we often think that we see the real and correct world, but in fact, many times, especially when it comes to people, what we perceive is actually the world explained by our cognitive schema.
Let's think back together. When people, things, things and relationships we meet in our life experience say a word, our reaction will almost immediately occur, even before we have reacted to what we said, and then our subsequent thinking and behavior will almost certainly be the repetition of the old "routine". This series of processes are unconscious, which is the framework of cognitive schema definition, no matter who it is.
Another way to prove that we have a cognitive cage is: if you can't see or jump out of the cognitive cage, and the world is so big, you can find someone different from you and let you know where your cage is.
The third cage: the cage of thinking
To prove the limitations of thinking, the most classic example is this:
A black spot?
Unless you have played this test, the answer of 99% people will definitely be this black spot! Right? Of course, there is a problem-you can turn a blind eye to a larger part of the white around the black spot as if it doesn't exist!
Why is it difficult for us to see white? From an early age, we were trained to focus all our attention on the black spots (text patterns) on the white paper and completely ignore the blank parts-only in this way can you learn the text patterns from the white paper-on the contrary, if you focus on the white paper (you can try to do this now), you will not be able to "see" the text patterns, thus losing your ability to learn.
In a strange circle, you have to limit your thinking to some "squares" before you have the opportunity to shape your lowest thinking by relying on the elements in the squares, but you have to find ways to jump out of this square at the right time, otherwise you will always fall into the lowest thinking you have created, affecting your behavior rules and then affecting what you have.
If you look at your own life experience, you may understand this strange circle: a person is shaped by the information in the grid where he grew up from birth, and everyone must confine his thinking to the inherent "grids" such as "school", "family", "society", "unit", "classmates", "friends" and "relatives" in the early stage, and can only use them.
Fortunately, most people can live a good life even if they don't realize these squares at all. In a sense, it seems unnecessary to break them.
Unless you want to live a better life and get out of this box, then you must find a way to get out of this cage of thinking.
This process is bound to be difficult-just as you already know that you can see more blanks, can you control yourself to see both black and blank?
The fourth cage: the emotional cage
Everyone must have experienced such a thing in life: two people "play" together. Maybe one minute we had a good chat, and the next minute we fell out because something was not said well, and the emotions caused by it filled the whole brain instantly. Then, from many memories of the past, I can instantly grasp each other's shortcomings. The more dissatisfied we are with our memories, the more disgusted we are with other people's suggestions, and finally we may lose our minds completely.
In retrospect, something strange happened. Often after we sleep, the plot may be reversed. Not only did we forget yesterday's strong quarrel and inner ups and downs, but we couldn't even stop to recall each other's beauty (especially the other side was very important, so we left us), so we couldn't believe that the other side could do so well.
Don't think it's not over yet. The strangest thing is that the above plot may often appear repeatedly, unless everyone is "really tired" in such repetition and has to choose to leave or continue.
Let's think back together, whether everyone has this kind of emotional experience, two people, a family, a country and a nation. In fact, no matter who it is, it is essentially impossible to get rid of the emotional cage.
Be reasonable,
People, 100% emotional animals, always keep the most primitive emotional brain of animals, which deeply affects our thinking and life. Many times, the deepest motivation of our behavior comes from the emotional brain. If joy, anger, sadness, joy, love, evil, fear and so on are all emotional, we will easily be kidnapped by emotions and lose our rational minds in our actions. Such experiences abound in our lives, such as knowing the correct way to do one thing, but under the control of emotions, we will go in another direction involuntarily, or you hate a person and often oppose all his positions and behaviors.
In a sense, the emotional cage is just like a black hole, which often makes us involuntarily make three judgments about people, things and things outside-like and accept-it doesn't matter-dislike and reject, and then, to a great extent, influence and control our follow-up behavior.
Why is the emotional cage the most powerful?
Because the emotional brain has a black box module, many times we can only feel its emotional output experience, but we don't know why there are emotions of one kind or another.
Its strength lies in that even if you realize it, you may not be able to get rid of it. Emotions are usually hidden in the subconscious, and we seldom feel them on the conscious level. When it appears at the level of consciousness, if it is only a little emotion, we will automatically ignore it, because the process of getting rid of it will inevitably bring negative emotions, and our nature will tend to ignore negative emotions. However, if emotions come from all directions, we are more likely to fall into emotions, unable to recognize them and unable to deal with them-the most fatal problem is that we often spend our time and energy on emotions instead of solving the things themselves, so that the things themselves cannot be solved, which leads to a vicious circle of emotions, and all our thoughts are consumed by emotions.
03. At the end of the article:
Writing here, I found that the article was too long and had to be divided into two parts. Today, I focused on the spiritual cage that people are most likely to encounter in their lives. In fact, there are many invisible cages in our hearts-the cages of desire, demand, perception, habit, experience, personality and so on. In addition, in the real world outside our hearts, there are complex and hidden external cages-social system, culture, language ... all cages make up everyone's brain forest and heart maze, really like a square. Although invisible, it can actually trap us in our own land in Fiona Fang.
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Although growing up is so difficult, the only choice to find a better self is to break the cage of the soul and jump out of your own box!
There is a way!
In the next article, I intend to explain it in detail-escape from your cage!
So much for today's article. Finally, I quote the opening line of Shawshank prison again: the high wall is really interesting. When you first went to prison, you hated the high walls around you; Slowly, you get used to living in it; Eventually you will find that you have to rely on it to survive.
Hello, I'm Fan Xin. From 20 16 10 to 2 1, I began to write a series of articles with the theme "How do young people grow up?" -"Come by yourself and build the next self." This is the fifth article. Other contents are as follows:
The first article: preface; Brain forest
Chapter 2: Concept chapter: See the next self.
Chapter Three: Two Different Growth Paths
Chapter four: Education and self-education.
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