What is a friend? Some people understand, some don't.
A friend is someone who can tolerate each other. No matter how big a joke the other party made on him, or what offensive language they said to him, he would always smile back at him, or at most, just respond with humorous words.
A friend is someone who can help each other. If the other party has any shortcomings, he will point them out and help the other party correct them.
A friend is someone who can accept the other person’s advice. No matter what shortcomings or even criticisms the other party may bring to him, he will happily accept them and conscientiously correct them to perfect himself.
A friend is someone who cherishes friendship. He will respect each other and never force others. When the other person is happy, he will also be very happy; when the other person is sad, he will comfort the other person and never add insult to injury or take pleasure in others' misfortunes.
A friend is an upright person. In the face of evil, he will never cower or hide, but will uphold justice and overwhelm evil.
A friend is someone who is not afraid of difficulties. In the face of difficulties, he will never be afraid or escape, but will bravely overcome difficulties.
A friend is someone who protects the other person. No matter what happens, he will step forward regardless of his own health and sacrifice everything for the other party, even his life.
Some people think that as long as they are willing to eat, drink and have fun with them, they are friends. Actually wrong.
"True love emerges in dangerous moments." Dear reader, please think carefully, who is your friend?
As the saying goes, "A fence has three stakes, and a hero has three gangs." Whether in life or online, everyone has friends. What are friends? Friends are people who have friendship with each other and are good friends with each other. Friendship is the purest, noblest, simplest and most ordinary emotion. It is also the most romantic, touching, solid and eternal emotion. No one can live without friendship. Life is inseparable from friends, and their friendship and support are indispensable. However, in the vast world, there is a mixture of good and bad, and friends suffer losses and losses. The ancients warned us like this: "A gentleman chooses to meet before making friends, and a villain chooses after meeting. Therefore, a gentleman is rare and a villain has many complaints." It can be seen that how to know and choose friends is a very important life issue.
Be careful when making friends. No matter what type of person you make as your friend, be careful. "Those who are close to vermillion are red, and those who are close to ink are black." This long-standing famous saying vividly illustrates the importance of "making friends carefully". It is the experience of the ancients, and it is indeed true. What a person's friends are like often plays a big role in his or her own development. This is an invisible, subtle, nurturing and contagious force.
Who are the best friends to make? The ancients said: "Three friends benefit, and three friends harm you. Friends who are straightforward, understanding, and knowledgeable are beneficial; friends who are secluded, gentle, and sycophants are detrimental." That is to say, making friends with honest, trustworthy, and knowledgeable people will bring great benefits; making friends with those who are flattering, evil-minded, and flashy will bring harm. This still has implications for how we choose and make friends today. Generally speaking, in real life, we should make the following types of friends.
Best friend. It refers to a true friend who is sincere, sincere, and lives by feelings and principles.
To be afraid of friends means to be able to "equalize each other with morality and justice, and respect each other's faults." That is to say, it refers to people who dare to express opinions and advice among friends, speak out about others' faults, and actively carry out criticism and self-criticism. Fear of friends can be like a mirror, reflecting the dust and stains on the other person's face, allowing you to discover and correct them in time.
Close friends. It is to be able to "take care of your priorities, your life and death can be depended on". It refers to a friend who is close, has deep feelings, and can share the joys and sorrows with oneself.
Xueyou. That is to say, a friend who is diligent in learning or knowledgeable. Making friends can increase knowledge, broaden horizons, cooperate with each other, learn from each other's strengths, promote each other, and spur each other.
Be careful not to make bad friends. Middle school students are very imitative. If you make friends with someone who carries a dagger and has a cigarette in his mouth, you may end up having a similar temperament. Middle school students are at an age when they are full of emotions and are impulsive. They must not do things they shouldn't do on impulse, out of affection, or out of "loyalty." You must be careful about what kind of friends you make.
How to treat friends? After we have found our friends through careful selection, how to ensure the harmonious and healthy development of the relationship is very particular and knowledgeable.
Treat each other with sincerity. It comes from sincerity and sincerity. The most fearful thing about friends is hypocrisy, hypocrisy and manipulation. Friends are allowed to have their own privacy, but there is no doubt that whether "nothing is hidden" and how much "hiding" is a sign of friendship.
Keep your promises and trust each other. "Faith" was regarded by the ancients as one of the constant virtues in life. Confucius said: "When making friends, keep your word." Trust, first of all, is credibility, do what you say, keep your promises, and keep your word; secondly, trust, trust your friends and not have unreasonable suspicions. A person who is distrustful cannot make friends, and a person who is always suspicious of others will rarely make friends with you.
"The friendship between gentlemen is as light as water." "Zhuangzi Mountain Trees" says: "The friendship between gentlemen is as light as water, and the friendship between villains is as sweet as sweet wine." True friendship relies on sincere sympathy, not sweet words or heavy gifts.
As for material exchange, disgusting flattery, mutual use, and even intrigues among villains, we should throw it into the garbage heap. The "friendship between gentlemen" should stand the test of time and the test of the external environment.
First of all, you must make more friends with your heart. To make friends with others, you have to use your "heart" to exchange for the trust of others, so that the other person knows that you are his good friend, true friend, and caring person. Only then can he dedicate his "heart" to you without any scruples, thus achieving the goal of "making friends with others." Heart for heart" and become close friends. If you are hypocritical, duplicitous, do one thing to your face and another behind your back, or even talk the talk but don't mean it, then this kind of person will not make friends, let alone make more friends. Just like a salesman coming to sell products, he should sell himself first, and then the product. Because customers will spend money to buy his products only after they accept him as a person. The principle of making friends is actually the same.
Secondly, seek common ground while reserving differences and make more friends. No one in the world is exactly the same, no one has exactly the same personality, temperament, and ideological views. As Goethe said: It is difficult to find two leaves with exactly the same shape on a tree. Therefore, we must "seek common ground while reserving minor differences" and adopt the policy of "keeping the principles right and being careless in trivial matters". When dealing with differences of opinion between friends, you must be magnanimous even if you are wronged. The exchange of opinions can be used to clarify right and wrong and achieve reconciliation.
Furthermore, change your temperament and make more friends. If a person has a stubborn temperament, has too "personalized" living habits, or is silent, introverted, taciturn, etc., it will be difficult to make many friends. We should work hard to become cheerful, go to social groups to exercise more, talk to others, and gradually improve our communication skills. Only in this way can you deal with anyone, and only in this way can you understand different personalities, learn how to behave, and adapt to this society.