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What does the saying "nephew, uncle's cattle, uncle's house, different questions" mean? Does it make sense?

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In ancient times, people paid attention to the order of elders and younger ones, filial piety, and etiquette. Although the uncle has a foreign surname, as the mother's brother, he represents the mother and has the right to teach the nephew. According to the custom in some places, when a niece gets married, her uncle is required to carry her out of the pavilion and into the sedan chair. This shows that the relationship between uncle and nephew is quite harmonious.

But what does "nephew and uncle's cattle" have to do with each other?

"Nephew" In ancient times, people emphasized that the body, hair and skin were protected by their parents, and people's bodies should not be touched or harmed at will. But my uncle is my mother’s brother, and my mother is heaven. The love of pregnancy and childbirth in October, the kindness of nurturing and teaching. These are all things that children must keep in mind. The uncle can represent the mother. Since he is a man, he also means "the eldest brother is the father". So the uncle caressing his nephew's head is a kind of care and an expression of love.

"My uncle's cattle", cattle are very important both in ancient times and now. As an important labor force in the family, cattle are a treasure of the family. To develop a high degree of tacit understanding with the cow, so that it can work for the family willingly, it must be treated sincerely.

"Nephew, uncle's cow" actually expresses the relationship between nephew and uncle. The uncle cares and loves his nephew as the most important cow in the family.

"Uncle and sister-in-law's room, different questions", men and women are not intimate with each other. In such an open modern era, everyone needs to pay attention to it, let alone the ancient feudal period. The brother-in-law is the husband's brother, and the sister-in-law is the elder when she marries into the family. Elders must be treated with humility, courtesy, and respect. Living under the same roof, if you look up and see each other, you must maintain the way men and women get along. Therefore, uncles and sisters-in-law should try to avoid being alone together, and should not discuss matters in private, where no one is around, or when no one is around. Avoid suspicion first, this is the most important etiquette. Otherwise, she will be punished by her family, and the woman will be abandoned or put into a pig cage. For example: Pan Jinlian, who was supposed to abide by women's ethics and be in love with Wu Da for the rest of her life, wanted to hook up with her brother-in-law Wu Song. Wu Song was an upright person and did not want to get involved, which is why Pan Jinlian and Ximen Qing had the absurd incident. Wu Song killed Pan Jinlian in anger. Pan Jinlian suffered this outcome because of her unruly behavior. Therefore, "uncle and sister-in-law's room, don't ask", this was very important in ancient times.

Let me tell you, as the saying goes in rural areas, the pond is too deep! It is all-encompassing and unfathomable.

"Nephew, uncle's cow" refers to the unusual family relationship between uncle and nephew. Generally speaking, after a woman gets married, her natal brothers will be her backers and backbone. It doesn't matter if you are wronged in your husband's family, it is different if your natal brothers make the decision. In real society, we often see brothers from the natal family making decisions for their sisters, and those husbands who were originally cunning have become honest!

With such a relationship, the married daughter will be her uncle's nephew when she gives birth to a child, and her natal brothers will be even more caring. The uncle will take special care of his nephew. "Touch the nephew's head, and the uncle will tremble" refers to the involuntary joy and care that the uncle feels when he sees his nephew, just like he would treat his own cattle.

The reason why the nephew is compared to the uncle's cow is because in ancient farming society, cows were the most important production and living materials for a rural family. This metaphor further shows the nephew's position in the uncle's mind.

I read a story not long ago. After the mother and father divorced, a little boy returned to his grandma's house. The responsibility of raising a little boy! The story touched many, many people.

In fact, this sentence in a broader sense also means that the uncle and his brothers and their wives should pay more attention to the distance between them.

There is also a popular saying here, "Brother-in-law is like sister-in-law, just like cutting grass." It means that younger brothers can have more freedom with their sisters-in-law, but if it is an older brother-in-law who gets along with his brother-in-law, it will be difficult to get along with him. Just be extra careful! If a man and a woman who are not related by blood get together, they might cause some trouble and even lead to some gossip.

These two proverbs together emphasize the affection and relaxation that a married woman had before getting along with her brothers from her mother's family. However, getting along with her husband's brothers requires skills and attention to methods! Even in modern society, men and women are no longer bound by these old sayings, but the basic ethics of differences between men and women should still be paid attention to. So this sentence is still very reasonable.

What do you think?

"The head of the nephew is the cow of the uncle's family" means that the nephew's head is as precious as the uncle's cow and cannot be touched at will.

The nephew here mainly refers to a child who is not fully developed. Not just nephews, all children have not grown up very long, around the age of kindergarten or below. The key parts of the body may not be fully grown, especially the skull. The child's skull will slowly heal as they grow older. Sturdy.

When children are young, their skulls are not fully grown yet, so they cannot be touched easily, for fear that someone might be too rough and cause harm to the child.

In ancient times, the status of cows was like the biological children of the family, and they were also members of the family. Cows were the most important production tools. Losing cows was like losing one's own life, so cows were as important as nephews. It is the most beloved one.

Because the uncle's family status was very high in ancient times, he had to make many decisions in the family, so the saying "nephew, uncle's cow" came into being.

This sentence is mainly said from the perspective of family ethics and human relations. In ancient times, relatives such as uncles and sisters-in-law should not be too close, as it would be easy for outsiders to gossip. Just like the relationship between sister-in-law and brother-in-law, a certain distance should still be maintained between men and women.

I think this saying is as valid as it was in the past.

There is an old saying in the countryside that can easily explain the relationship between uncle and aunt. The aunt has been close to the aunt for generations, and the bones are broken and the tendons are connected. The kinship of an aunt is also the psychological dependence of a married woman on her natal family. There is also an old saying that a son is afraid of his mother, and a mother is afraid of his uncle. In many cases, as the elder brother or younger brother of the natal family, his position in the heart of a married woman is quite high. In fact, It's not fear, but a kind of deep love. Besides worrying about her own children, a married woman worries about her natal family the most. This is also a very normal expression of family affection. In our case, married women care about their natal family. My nephew, because of his blood relationship and surname, is called his descendant, and he is also very affectionate.

Thunder God in the sky, uncle on earth, mother-in-law and uncle are old sayings. For uncles, they are also particularly kind and doting to their own nieces and nephews. They are also the staunch allies of married women. Many times I want to support my parents as my mother-in-law, and sometimes I want to vent my anger on my sister. I have seen a movie in which the two sons born to an old couple take turns taking care of each other when they grow old. Yue, before borrowing the old man, he would invite his uncle to be present. Why did he invite his uncle to be present? That is to ask his uncle to be a witness. Before taking the old man away, he weighed the old man with a scale and wrote it down in a small book. , to be rotated to the next home. This is because they are afraid of treating the elderly badly. The elderly will lose weight and lose weight, which is not allowed. This video also satirizes those children who do not treat the elderly carefully, and also illustrates the importance of uncles.

A man’s head and a woman’s waist are parts that cannot be touched. If you touch a man’s head, he will easily become anxious. Even the head of a child, as long as he is not one of your own, will be touched. It is difficult to touch casually. There are always exceptions. An uncle can touch the head of his nephew or niece. It is as simple as touching his own cow. It is also a kind of care for his nephew. When an uncle touches the head, he can touch the head of his nephew or niece. When a nephew is born, his eyes are full of love and care. This old saying also refers to this kind of closest relative relationship, a kind of pampering towards the nephew by the uncle.

Brother-in-law and sister-in-law have always been the targets of ridicule in the countryside. In our place, when the elder brother gets married, the younger brother has to carry the red dress in front of the wedding car. He sits in the car in front of the wedding car with his hands on Take a red cloth, commonly known as a red skirt. When you encounter an intersection, you have to get out of the car and shake the red skirt in your hand a few times before you can continue moving forward. When you have a wedding ceremony at night, you are also encouraged by relatives and friends to go to the wedding ceremony. My brother-in-law and sister-in-law Taboo is really not that serious in rural areas. The most famous old saying is Jin Lian. He said, "Get up and drink medicine." This old saying has been passed down even more widely. It was also because Jin Lian was rejected by her brother-in-law Wu Song. If something shouldn't happen with a high-ranking official, the brother-in-law should treat his sister-in-law with respect as a guest. This is to avoid being gossiped about in the same room. In fact, the taboos between the brother-in-law and his sister-in-law are far less taboo than that between the uncle-in-law and his sister-in-law.

Most rural proverbs reflect the relationship between family members. This sentence reflects the culture of family ethics.

1: "Nephew, uncle's cow."

Nephew refers to the uncle who loves and cares for his nephew. He would pick him up and play with him when he was a child. When they grow up, they will express their love and affection by touching their heads. It's like a father touching his head when he loves his son or daughter.

Uncles are my mother’s brothers and sisters. They are the closest people to us by our surname. Half of the blood flowing in my nephew's body is from the same source as that in my uncle's body. Therefore, it is normal for an uncle to care and love his nephew as if he were his own child.

My uncle’s cow. Oxen were used to plow fields in the past, helping families engage in farming and symbolizing wealth. Most people attach great importance to their family's wealth.

Of course, many people no longer raise cattle, but they still compare cattle to wealth. For example, we often refer to one hundred dollars as Red Bull.

When an uncle compares his nephew to the most powerful person in the family, it means that the uncle attaches great importance to the nephew and treats the nephew as a treasure of the family.

Because in the past, there was a saying that an elder brother is like a father. The elder brother is responsible for educating and supporting the children born after the younger sister gets married.

In return, when the nephew gets married, he has to consult his uncle when choosing his name. At the same time, at the wedding invitation banquet, his uncle will sit in the first place. In some places, they will kneel down and worship their uncle.

Times have changed now. The uncle can treat his nephew like a treasure, but the education and support are much downplayed. And the custom of kneeling down to worship your uncle when you get married seems to have disappeared.

2: Uncle and sister-in-law’s room, different questions.

The meaning of this sentence now mainly refers to avoiding suspicion, avoiding suspicion in ethics.

Uncles and sisters-in-law are generally not allowed to be alone in the same room. When others see it, they will gossip and think that the uncle and sister-in-law are having an affair. This is an ethical disrespect for my brother. Of course, my brother saw it. Although he knew that nothing messy happened, he still felt uncomfortable in his heart.

Uncle and sister-in-law ask different questions, which means that if the uncle has an opinion on his sister-in-law, or has a different view, or asks for help, he cannot directly accuse his sister-in-law, say what is wrong with her, or ask his sister-in-law to raise it of.

Then, at this time, I will talk to my brother and let my brother be a middleman to convey my views.

On the contrary, the sister-in-law treats the uncle the same way. If there are any problems, they are communicated to the brother-in-law through the husband.

In the past, people did this to avoid suspicion, and at the same time to give enough respect to their husbands or brothers.

Now that society is more civilized, there are not so many taboos.

In short, this talks about the relationship between uncle and nephew, and the taboos between uncle and sister-in-law.

As the saying goes: "Mother has uncle, father has uncle." Our country has been a country of etiquette since ancient times. Especially in our rural areas, we attach great importance to this relationship between relatives and seniority, regardless of age. No matter how old you are, as long as the seniority is there, you must have proper courtesy and honorifics. The sayings I talked about today are some sayings about this relative relationship. I wonder if you have heard of it?

"Nephew, uncle's cow", this is a saying in rural areas about the relationship between nephew and uncle. Uncle is mother's brother and our closest relative. Although he does not have the same surname as us, he still has the same surname as ours. We have the same blood as our mother, and the family ties that are thicker than water will never be separated. Therefore, although the uncle is a relative, his status has always been very high. We also have the saying that the mother is the eldest uncle. When a nephew gets married, the uncle must sit on the throne. Anyone at the table can be offended, but this uncle cannot afford to offend him!

When it comes to this "nephew, uncle's cattle", we have to mention the importance of cattle in ancient times. Our country has been a big agricultural country since ancient times. In ancient times, agricultural production technology was underdeveloped, and farming and sowing all relied on Cows and horses, for us farmers, the status of cows is very high, and the general meaning of this sentence is to compare the nephew's head with the uncle's cow, mainly to reflect the importance of the relationship between the uncle and the nephew. .

"Uncle and sister-in-law's room, different questions." We all know that men and women are not close to each other, especially some relatives who are relatively close. We must pay attention to the taboos, otherwise it will be particularly easy to cause problems if the relationship is not handled well. contradiction. The general meaning of this sentence is that if an uncle and a sister-in-law are in the same room, they should not talk too much, otherwise it will easily cause misunderstandings.

Similarly, "father-in-law does not enter the daughter-in-law's room, and uncles do not sit on the sister-in-law's bed." These are some famous taboos summarized by the ancients about family relationships, mainly to avoid family conflicts. Although it seems that It's a little unkind, but it makes sense after you taste it carefully.

Nephew’s head, uncle’s cow: The earliest origin is that the uncle’s cow is the head of the nephew’s family. It is a common saying describing the relationship between uncle and nephew. Generally speaking, in ancient people's thinking, a girl became an outsider after she got married, and rarely had much contact with her husband's family. So the relationship is normal, but the relationship between uncle and nephew is different.

People often use the phrase "nephew follows uncle" to express the relationship between the two, which means that the nephew will be very similar to the uncle in appearance and personality, so the uncle loves his nephew very much. The nephew would come to his uncle to help solve many problems. My uncle also loves his nephew very much. Therefore, although the uncle's cow is a treasure, the nephew can use it as he pleases or give it to the nephew. My mother is an uncle, and what my uncle said is also the most effective for my nephew. Therefore, in many rural families, uncles have to take charge of important matters such as family division and housing division.

Uncle and sister-in-law’s room, different questions: This sentence expresses the relationship between brother-in-law and sister-in-law. The correct term is uncle-sister-in-law’s room. It’s different to ask. The source is in the 25th chapter of "Jin Ping Mei": "Even if Wu Er comes back, what will happen to you? It has been said since ancient times: 'Uncles and sisters-in-law don't know what to ask', 'When you first marry, you follow your relatives, and when you marry again, you follow yourself.' How can uncle take care of it?"

The original meaning is: She said that Pan Jinlian had done something sorry for Wu Dalang. When others asked her what she would do if Wu Song came back, Pan Jinlian said that her uncle and sister-in-law were incomprehensible. That is to say, the brother-in-law cannot ask his sister-in-law all kinds of things at will. "Uncle and sister-in-law's room" means that the relationship between brother-in-law and sister-in-law cannot be too close, and the two cannot stay alone in the same room. There is also an ancient saying that "uncles and sisters-in-law do not teach in person", which means that brothers-in-law and sisters-in-law cannot pick up and deliver things hand-to-hand.

In ancient times, people paid attention to the order of elders and younger ones, filial piety, and etiquette.

Although the uncle has a foreign surname, as the mother's brother, he represents the mother and has the right to teach the nephew. According to the custom in some places, when a niece gets married, her uncle is required to carry her out of the pavilion and into the sedan chair. This shows that the relationship between uncle and nephew is quite harmonious.

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