First, take the initiative to find and pursue with heart.
The pursuit of happiness has a major premise: that is to understand that happiness is hard to come by. It is neither a gift nor a right; You have to take the initiative to find it, and you have to work hard to get it. When you realize that you can't just sit there and wait for happiness, you have taken a big step on the road to happiness. How's it going? No, I'm not. I'm not happy. When you have completed the other nine steps, you can achieve a truly happy state.
Second, expand the field of life and try new things.
When you are willing to try new activities and accept new challenges, you will be surprised to find new dimensions of life.
Learning new technologies and exploring new ways can give people new satisfaction. Unfortunately, many people often ignore this point and lose the opportunity to develop their potential and get happiness for no reason.
Many people think that they should wait for an appropriate opportunity to explore their future in a stable way. This idea is quite conservative, because the right time may never come. No one's life is a well-designed error-free computer program, so you should have the courage to meet the challenge.
Third, there is not only one answer to everything in the world.
There are many ways to pursue happiness, not just the one you are determined to pursue. Most people tend to think that they can only succeed and play a role in one job in this life, and even think that if they can't get or do this, they will never be happy. This idea is too narrow. It is painful to fail to reach your goal, but it doesn't mean that you are insulated from happiness from now on, unless you think so yourself.
Take a flexible attitude towards things, don't be stubborn, and remember that there is not necessarily only one best thing. Of course, this is not to ask you to give up realistic dream goals, but to encourage you to go all out to realize your dreams.
Fourth, dare to pursue dreams and hopes.
Bernard Shaw famously said, "Why do ordinary people only see what happened?" ? I dreamed of something I never had, and asked myself why not? "Young people in particular should have dreams and hopes, because the process of struggle, like achieving goals, can make people extremely happy. You should have the courage to dream of becoming a famous doctor, star, outstanding scientist or writer. You should go all out to realize your dream.
Of course, your dream should be reasonable, concrete and feasible. Don't aim too high and dream of reaching for the stars. For example, you are born with a crow's voice, "Don't dream of becoming a thrush! Also, you should remember that even if you can't achieve this goal, it's not the end of the world. Browning once said, "Ah! If everything that mortals dream of is within reach; Then why is there heaven? ! "
Five, only compare with yourself, not compare with others.
From the beginning of being sensible, we feel the pressure of "achievement", which is getting stronger and stronger with age. Therefore, young people want to behave well everywhere, thinking that if they want to be perfect, others will accept and like themselves. Once you find that you are inferior to others everywhere, you begin to feel sad and inferior, and the result is of course no happiness.
So you should take yourself as the standard and think about where you are wrong. Is there any progress now? If you have really tried your best, I believe today will be better than yesterday and tomorrow will be better than today.
Six, care about people and things around you.
If you care about some people, things and things, your view of life will definitely change greatly. If you live only for yourself, I believe that your life will become very narrow and limited everywhere. Self-centered people may make continuous progress, but they will never be satisfied easily.
So what should you care about? Who do you care about? Open your eyes and think about it. Although we are ordinary, we can at least help school children go to and from school, help patients read books, do odd jobs in nursing homes, and even clean the surrounding environment. Only by giving a little will you be happier. Psychologist Ellison once said: "People who only care about themselves will eventually become their slaves!" However, people who care about others can not only contribute to society, but also avoid living a boring life by focusing on themselves.
Seven, don't be too confident, and you can't be without confidence.
Overoptimistic people always think that they can achieve all their goals, because they ignore the dangers along the way. People who are extremely pessimistic always think that the hope of success is slim and dare not move forward. Both kinds of people have lost many opportunities.
When choosing a goal, we should be objective in attitude and realistic in judgment, and we should not be too sure and take it lightly, let alone lack confidence and be timid.
Eight, when the pace is too urgent, we should slow down a little.
You may run around like a clock from morning till night. But when you stop to think for a while, do you feel uncomfortable and dissatisfied? Many people fill their time with trivial things because they are afraid of facing emptiness. As a result, the pace of life is too tight, but they can't get real happiness.
Make a list of all the things you have done and see what can be deleted, so that you can make some free time and relax. Leisure is also like a luxury, which can make you feel satisfied.
Nine, you can be thicker.
According to experts' investigation and study, one of the characteristics that makes people feel satisfied is that they don't care too much about other people's criticism, in other words, they are thick-skinned. Don't give in to foreign countercurrent. Don't be sad and angry because others are indifferent, thinking that you have been greatly hurt. But you should reflect calmly. If other people's criticism is correct, you should improve it. If the criticism is unfair, why not laugh it off? ! Maybe you can't master the countermeasures to deal with criticism at first, because you may be very sensitive and will inevitably have emotional reactions, but you should practice self-control, which will be useful to life.
The taste of happiness is like drinking water, which varies from person to person. What can make others happy may not make you happy. Only you know how to pursue happiness. But remember: don't wait and see! Happiness is a sly rabbit, you can only get it if you pursue it with your heart!
+,happiness is not without troubles.
Everyone has troubles, but not everyone is unhappy. Happiness does not depend on cherishing. Some people are just as happy even without money. Some people are rich, but they don't always laugh. Can a person maintain a happy life all his life?
In his new book "Happy Attitude", Dr. Schuler of America unveiled the secret of eternal happiness.
If everyone knows the following eight secrets, they will naturally have a happy life.
1. No one is perfect. You must admit your weakness and be willing to accept suggestions, help and advice from others. As long as you dare to admit that you need help, success is inevitable.
2. Learn from setbacks. The attitude towards failure or frustration should be to learn from it and continue to work hard.
Life must be honest and full of justice in order to attract good friends to help you. Badas, a famous psychologist, was once asked: "What is the most basic and deepest psychological need of human beings today?" She replied, "Humans need love." But this is not limited to the love between men and women. From the point of view of psychologists, good people are always happy.
4. Be flexible. Whether in good times or bad times, our attitude towards life should be calm. If you make a mistake, correct it immediately.
5. Be enthusiastic about helping others. If you want real happiness and respect, you should help others and get along well with others.
6. To be nice to you, be nice to others first. When you are treated unfairly, you must forgive and sympathize with others.
7. Stick to your beliefs. In everything you do, you must stick to your personal beliefs.
We must learn to be happy before we know how to be happy!
Happiness is a psychological feeling. Happiness depends on yourself.
Knowing and being good at happiness is really a kind of wisdom, tolerance and courage.
Happiness is sometimes like a kite flying in the sky.
Although sometimes I can't see it, the thread is in my hand and I can't fly far.
As long as you are willing, happiness will surround you at any time until forever.
With a happy heart, you will know that happiness is everywhere.
Some people say it hurts, hurts. In fact, pain and happiness are twin brothers.
The only difference is your choice. Just like winter and summer,
If you choose summer and think it will bring you happiness,
However, winter will come, and it will not bring you misfortune and pain.
It's just that you chose summer and rejected winter, so there is misfortune and pain.
In fact, whether it is summer or winter, it doesn't matter to you. The only difference is how you feel.
As long as you have a happy heart, don't let worldly dust blind your eyes.
Don't let too much utilitarianism put a heavy yoke on your mind.
You will find happiness scattered around us like dots, at your fingertips.
Happiness is sharing a bag of dried plums, a bag of jelly and many other things with friends.
But in n choices, happiness is a simple thing, but it can make you feel extremely happy!
happy
I'm drinking and chatting with my friends.
When I went out and shouted,
happy
It's time for you to finally understand how much your parents love you.
happy
Is when you know that you have a crush on your sweetheart for a long time.
The same is true when you have a crush on yourself.
happy
That's when I hit a wall when I was looking for a job
Listen to the person in charge of a family say to you, "You got in."
happy
I am walking on the road, thirsty and uncomfortable.
Then you see a cold drink shop.
happy
In fact, happiness is very simple (* _ *)
Adjust your mind! Life can't be happy and satisfied every day, but there are also losses, happiness and sadness. Always keep a normal heart and take a step back when you are angry. ~
The sun will rise as usual tomorrow ~! ~
A good day is also a bad day. Why can't we spend every day happily?
Many troubles are only temporary, maybe you will forget them tomorrow.
Life is beautiful, there is no need to stay in painful memories all the time ~
Listen and relax when you are in a bad mood, or chat with friends, or go to a quiet place and slowly experience the quiet beauty of nature.
Life is so smooth that it is not called life.
Life is colorful, sad today, happy tomorrow, bad today, good tomorrow.
Life is like weather = = cloudy, rainy, sunny and rainbow.
Don't worry anymore, face every day happily.
I wish you a happy day and all the best!