What does it feel like to have no sense of existence? People who don't have a sense of existence exist like air, without ebb and flow, but they are always around, so they are called "transparent people".

Tea love: you are silent, but you are excited to hope that others will think of you.

What is "living in your own world"?

They cling to their own fantasies and wishes, and have little contact and emotional needs with outsiders. They are usually accompanied by another self. They are quiet, often self-reflective, self-affirming and self-denying. They are called "people living in their own world" by outsiders.

One is to really live in your own world, and all actions stem from the most natural desire in your heart. Quit your job and travel.

The other is unwilling to go out of their comfort zone. Because of the fear of the unknown and the fear of loss, a person is unwilling to cross the border, go out, cut off contact with the outside world and immerse himself in the world of himself. But one day, when we have to face the reality, we will hit a wall everywhere, struggle and suffer.

My roommates once told me that I didn't really fit into their circle, but in fact I never let them really enter my world. Because, I refused. I said, I want to live in my own world, laugh when I am happy, and cry when I am unhappy. But I never gave them a chance to get to know me.

There may be three reasons why you are embarrassed to ask for help: shame when asking for help, debt after being helped, and fear of rejection.

Shame: I am afraid of being seen and seeing my weakness and weakness. This kind of anxiety makes us speechless and can only say "please do me a favor" But I hope others will say, "I will help you."

Feeling indebted: When we ask for help, we have to consider how to repay this kindness. You firmly believe in the saying: "No one is right to be nice to you except your parents", so when you get help, you will feel indebted. In order to repay this favor, you often choose to wronged yourself. You dare not ask for help in order not to wronged yourself in the future.

Fear of rejection: I never dare to ask for anything from others because I am afraid of rejection.

Students often say that you always live in your own world. It's not that you don't have a sense of existence in our hearts, but that we don't have a sense of existence in your heart, and you never care about us.

Although you dare not take the initiative to ask people around you for help, you are eager to imagine that they can find your needs and help you actively.

For example, you go shopping with her. You brought two big bags, and you are very tired. But you can't ask her for help, so you are full of expectations. She can find that you are tired and take the initiative to help you with your bag. The truth is, you walked glumly until you got back to your apartment, and she didn't speak. Then again, you went shopping with her and went out of the supermarket. She said, "Help me with a bag." .

The difference between you and her is that she will take the initiative to ask you for help, but you remain silent. You silently bear all the burdens.

"No sense of existence" is a relative feeling.

Example: Roommates always tell you, although we always verbally say "you are a person who has no sense of existence". The relative fact is, "We are a group of people. Although we live with you, you still live a life of your own, keeping a person lonely, independent, quiet, silent and speechless." You have never been involved in group life, and you never need our existence. "In other words, we have no sense of existence in your heart, and you have never taken us to heart.

Treat others as yourself: Maybe when I complain about "why I don't have a sense of existence", I pay attention to others' attitude towards me, but forget to analyze my attitude towards others.

A person has been walking silently for too long, and you have forgotten a lot. ....

Why do you want to keep yourself at the average level? That's because you don't have the courage to be the first, but you don't want to fall behind the last one, so you set yourself a medium-level goal, the most inconspicuous and easily overlooked angle.

It seems that in your cognition, this is the safest position, because you won't feel like falling off a cliff because your grades fall from the first position, and you won't be considered as a person who doesn't study hard or has insufficient IQ because you stay at the end. So you laughed to yourself and thought it was a smart choice to stay at the middle level.

It turns out that your efforts are only enough to keep you at 50%. You don't want to suffer a little, keep a lazy and diligent attitude. Your efforts are just enough to pass, but you don't know how dangerous it is. If you don't pay attention, or fail in the exam because you are in a bad mood, you will fail and fail in the exam. You never thought about whether you could bear the serious consequences. This has always been a fact that you dare not face.

You don't have a kind heart, so you don't fight for scholarships when you study for exams; You don't have a kind heart and don't work hard to become an excellent employee after work; I don't know if you still remember the sentence: "A soldier who doesn't want to be a general is not a good soldier". Now, do you feel differently?

You say that you don't want to pursue grandeur, but you just want to live an ordinary life, but you never know that this is a manifestation of being willing to be mediocre, not enterprising and unwilling to work hard.

Always keep yourself in an inconspicuous middle position so that others can't see you, which is why you have no sense of existence.

Because you don't know how to love yourself, you will be wronged in order to please others. You owe others kindness, but forget that what you owe most is yourself.

? Because you don't know how to love yourself, it's easy for you to embarrass yourself because of a small matter. But you forget, it's not the thing itself, but that you have made up too many stories around it, which makes you unhappy and pessimistic to the point where you can't bear it.

? I always feel hurt by others because I don't know how to love myself. But you forget that people who can hurt you actually have your acquiescence to some extent. The ownership is actually in your hands.

Because you don't love yourself, you will forget the distance you decided to reach because of one setback.

Because you don't love yourself, you forget that what is more terrible than worry is that we believe that what we do is useless and then do nothing with a clear conscience.

When you don't love yourself, you will feel wronged and form a sense of self-protection. You said: The outside world is too dangerous for me to adapt. I want to hide in a small corner and stop contacting people. You firmly believe that indifference means no harm, so you continue to live with the belief of becoming a "transparent person". That's why you have no sense of existence. It turns out that this lifestyle is your own choice.

Tea love: reminds me of her. I used to think that she was my friend, so I had to accommodate her. She went wherever she said. Because she is very kind to me. But I can't stand her control over me. She said you were not blind, and you deliberately walked the zebra crossing. She said, did you hold my umbrella with your umbrella on purpose? Finally, we parted ways, so that we could get together and part. Heart, also loose.

You like a stable job without too many ups and downs, and you just want a quiet life. You just want to do things silently, don't want to show off, and don't want to attract attention. But in the end, your heart can't be calm, but in your heart, you want everyone to care more about you. Is it possible? No, it's impossible.

You like a stable life, so it doesn't matter if you just paste and copy, as long as you have something to do. You forget that this is a job that anyone can replace you, and there is a risk of unemployment.

Personality is a word you hear from many people in your life. But do you know the true meaning of personality?

Tea love: through understanding personality, I find that my thoughts are not profound and my opinions are not unique; You find that your attitude is negative, not positive; You find that your willpower is weak and you can't persist; You find yourself lacking in self-confidence, and it is difficult to fully believe in your ability and be skeptical about yourself; You find that you lack interest and it is difficult to have enthusiasm for life; You find that you can't remember what your ideal is. After such analysis, you realize that you are a person without personality. But don't be discouraged. Next, I hope you can know more about your personality and yourself. Maybe you have many shortcomings, but it doesn't matter. Please improve.

Personality, explained psychologically, is the sum total of psychological characteristics that are different from others, appear in different environments, are relatively stable, and affect people's explicit and implicit behavior patterns.

Everyone has his own personality, which is called personality. People express their personality through words and deeds, dressing up and wearing clothes, which distinguishes everyone's differences, including vision, attitude and hobbies. And they all belong to personality.

The basic structure of personality: in terms of composition, personality is actually a system, which consists of three subsystems: personality tendency, personality psychological characteristics and self-awareness.

1, personality tendency

It refers to the positive characteristics of people's attitudes and behaviors towards the social environment, the dynamic system to promote people's activities, and the most active factor in the personality structure. It determines the choice and trend of people's understanding and attitude towards the world around them, and determines what people pursue. Including needs, motives, interests, ideals, beliefs, world outlook, etc.

2. Personality and psychological characteristics

-refers to the unique combination of various psychological characteristics of people. The so-called personality psychological characteristics are the characteristics that individuals often and stably show in their psychological activities, mainly referring to people's ability, temperament and personality. Among them, ability and ability refer to a psychological characteristic of people successfully completing certain activities. Temperament depends partly on innate factors and mostly on a person's environment and acquired education, just like different classes of people have different temperaments; Personality refers to a person's basic attitude towards others, himself and things (objective reality) and the synthesis of relatively stable and unique psychological characteristics in adaptive habitual behavior. There is no good or bad temperament, but character.

3. Self-awareness-refers to a person's understanding of all physical and mental conditions, including self-awareness, self-experience and self-regulation, such as self-esteem and self-confidence. Self-consciousness is the self-regulating structure of personality system. Some scholars also call self-consciousness a self-regulating system.

? Explain that people's psychology and behavior are different. Because the emphasis and combination of various factors that constitute personality are not suitable for everyone. For example, in cognition, emotion, will, ability, temperament, personality and so on. Everyone's unique side is reflected, and some people perceive things carefully and comprehensively and are good at analysis; Some people perceive things roughly and are good at generalizing; Some people are rich and delicate, while others are indifferent and numb. Just as it is difficult to find two identical leaves in the world, it is also difficult to find two identical people.

Tea love: I am afraid of being bored and envy others' laughter. You said you wanted to cultivate your hobbies, including painting, watching science fiction movies and reading science fiction novels. You said, I hope to chat with others. You said you didn't have any special skills, but you could cultivate them.

You have a pair of beautiful eyes. You can feel the light and find beauty. Don't let it lose value. You should pay more attention to the people and things in your life, because in a group society, you can't be alone forever, without socializing and friends. If you still don't know how to discover the advantages of others, please take yourself as the experimental object and give yourself a week to record what your advantages are. At this time, you need to forget your shortcomings for a while, and don't criticize or reflect on yourself, which will bring you negative abilities. Please try to make yourself do something full of positive energy for a week. How do you know until you try?

Changed her:

In the past, she listened to you, was docile and obedient, and had no sense of existence at home (she won't resist, won't be your trouble, and you ignore her. )。

Now, it seems that the whole person is shining, and her shadow is everywhere in the room. Every day, she will participate in our lives.

In this way, she became a human being.

1, you live in your own world.

You never ask others for help, but you are eager for others to help you.

You don't let your partner feel your existence.

4. Because you always put yourself in the most easily overlooked position-keep the average level.

You don't know how to love yourself, so you have suffered too much injustice.

6. You don't want to be the center of attention.

7. Because you have no personality.

8. Because you have never found yourself with your heart.

The lack of existence reflects the emptiness and loneliness of the spiritual world.

We often say that "the sense of existence is brushed out", that is to say, lonely people are eager to do something extraordinary or move to attract others' attention in order to get the so-called sense of existence.

The sense of existence is a kind of spiritual behavior to affirm (deny) oneself according to the difference between one's world view and others.

Behind the sense of existence is the fear of nothingness and the inferiority of the weak id.

Existence is to gain the recognition of love.

Love fights nothingness through sensibility, and identity eliminates inferiority and anxiety through group concept.

How to prove that you have been here, lived and loved.

In the sea of people, you may be able to notice someone at a glance. There must be something different about this man. This feature is the sense of existence.

You try your best to connect with the world, but you feel more and more like a silent shadow, lonely and lonely.

What does existence mean to us? It is the pride of living in the world and the happiness of being needed.

Tea love:

Maybe I don't care if there is a sense of existence, but after collecting information about the sense of existence, I found that there are various reasons behind the original sense of existence. And I hope to overcome these problems, from loving myself, cultivating hobbies and becoming different, to cultivating my own aura, not afraid of being the focus, and finally, don't just live in your own world, try to integrate into others' world and let others enter your own world.

My roommates said, I wish I could speak my mind. In the past, I was hit by others' own words because I talked with people I trusted. I didn't agree at that time. Now, I am about to graduate. I only have three months to get along with each other. I hope I can be honest with myself. Even to thank you for meeting great people in college, I will try my best to gain a sense of existence.

The wind comes gently, brings people refreshing, and then leaves silently.

Descartes: I think therefore I am.

The subject of thinking is me, because thinking exists, so I must exist.

People always have to do something to prove their existence.

Tea love: Because I don't want to think, I wake up every day feeling like a ghost wandering in this world, and an inexplicable sense of "non-existence" arises spontaneously.

Becquerel: Being is being perceived.

Being seen by another mind can prove that something exists.

The sense of existence is not the emission of one's own actions and words, but the effective response of the outside world.

The quality of the response is high or low. High-quality responses generally respect and identify with each other, while low-quality responses generally weaken each other's sense of value.

On Rommel's Personality Existence

The way of existence:

1, which exists in the surrounding world, aims at maintaining biological survival and being satisfied. The surrounding world refers to the natural or material world. The purpose is to adapt.

2, exists in the interpersonal world, the purpose is to adapt and develop. The purpose of being in the interpersonal world is to really communicate with people. In the exchange, the two sides enhance understanding and influence each other. In this way, people not only adapt to society, but also actively participate in the development of society.

3. Being in the self-world, that is, the unique self-conscious world of human beings, is the basis for truly looking at the world and grasping its significance. Lack of self-awareness will lead to superficiality and hypocrisy in the interpersonal world.

Example: When people are having dinner (all over the world), they are with others (interpersonal world) and are happy physically and mentally (self-world).

Tea love: I lost my existence in the interpersonal world. Many times, I avoid interpersonal communication because I am timid and inferior, because I don't want to attract others' attention.

Characteristics of existence:

1, self-core, refers to taking your own unique self as the core, your own uniqueness, and the standard of mental health is to accept your own uniqueness.

2. Self-affirmation refers to the courage to keep the core. Self-affirmation is a kind of courage to survive. Without it, people can't stand on their feet, let alone realize themselves.

3. Participation refers to participating in the world on the basis of maintaining self-core. Individuals must remain independent in order to maintain their core. However, people must live in this world. By sharing and communicating with others and sharing the world, people's independence and participation must make their places develop in a balanced way. The reason why modern people feel empty and bored is largely because they are too obedient, too dependent, too devoted and out of the core of themselves. On the other hand, excessive independence will bind oneself to a narrow self-world, and the lack of normal communication will inevitably damage the normal development of people.

4. Awareness refers to your direct feelings when you are in contact with the world.

5. Self-consciousness: refers to the unique consciousness phenomenon of people, which is the ability of people to jump out of self-reflection. It is precisely because of self-awareness that people can make choices among many possibilities when facing themselves, others and the world.

6. Anxiety refers to the painful emotional experience when people's existence is threatened.

People also have the ability to choose freely and need to be responsible for the results of their choices. The weakness or depression of potential can lead to anxiety.

Only those who truly understand the sense of existence have the courage to change the status quo.

Even if it is a trip, even if it is to settle down and do something you like, even if it is to carry out one of your hobbies to the end.

What is the psychological sense of existence? -Zhihu.

How do you prove that you have been to this world? -Zou Zou is right

On Rommel's Personality Existence

Why is there no sense of existence? -

Little Hebe Tien MV

It turns out that the darkest sky always has the brightest stars.

If you are in full bloom, butterflies will come. -

Zha Ai: This is my first time writing. The content of the article mostly comes from collecting information, lacking its own unique opinions and poor logic. There is still much room for improvement in organizational language. However, I have achieved my goal of writing a topic every week. Please continue to work hard. If you insist, time will tell you the answer.

-Revised-February 27th

From 3000 words to 5000 words, through the investigation of information, the understanding of personality and not loving yourself has deepened. Please read more books in the future and form the habit of reading; The world is so big that I want to go out and have a look.