If you want to realize your wish, a clear and concise goal is the best motivation. The method of setting the goal of Excellence is very simple, which only contains three principles: individual, positive and present. In other words, to set a goal, we must first take ourselves as the center, then ensure that it is a positive goal, and finally regard it as the goal that has been achieved so far.
For example, a person's initial goal is to stop being in debt. This is a typical negative goal because it focuses on debt. According to the three principles just mentioned, this goal can be changed to: I am financially free. This language is more positive and desirable.
Some people may not understand why the goal should be regarded as achieved instead of saying "I will be financially free one day" or "I will be financially free in two years". Because the goal is set in the present, the brain will automatically think about how to explain it reasonably. For example, you will think, "If I am financially free, what is my source of income?" This idea can make your action plan clearer, thus speeding up the process of achieving your goals.
Muhammad Ali has a classic saying: "I am the best." This sentence is just in line with the excellent goal of the three principles. Before becoming a world champion, he used this sentence to motivate himself, trained hard, participated in the competition with enthusiasm, defeated his opponents again and again, and finally realized his dream.
Establish a belief system
The belief system is like a table. The table is what you believe, and the foot of the table is the evidence you found. For example, if a person thinks that a movie is badly made, he will find a lot of data and facts to prove his point of view; Another person who thinks this film is very good can also give many reasons of his own.
In order to achieve our goal, we must find out those ideas that hinder our actions from the belief system and clear the obstacles on the way forward.
How to do it specifically? You can draw two concentric circles on the paper. The big one is called the "worry circle", which carries all your problems, worries and anxieties. Write down all the obstacles you can think of. The smaller one is called "circle of influence". You should fill in three positive and specific actions.
For example, someone wrote "I am not good at communicating with people" in the circle of concern. In circle of influence, you can write down the specific actions you will take, such as stipulating that you will talk to three strangers every day.
The process of writing down your worries on paper is like brainstorming. When you write, your brain will think of many ways to improve it. With continuous action, you will find that there are fewer and fewer obstacles in the circle of concern, and you will have a more solid belief system to meet future challenges.
Find the right help accurately.
If you want to be outstanding, you can't just rely on one person's strength. We often find ourselves getting better in cooperation with others. If you can find people who can help and support you and let them participate in your actions, it will definitely help you get twice the result with half the effort.
If you don't know how to ask for help, you can use some enlightening questions to open your mind, such as "how to make a plan", "what resources are needed" and "how to avoid making mistakes". In the process of seeking answers, you will gradually know who to turn to for help.
For example, if you want to change jobs, you can first find one or two career planners and ask them to give you directional advice; Next, I will learn some skills necessary for my new job. At this time, I'd better find a corresponding instructor. Then find friends in the industry to introduce some personal resources and job opportunities.
In this example, a career planner can help you make a plan, a tutor can guide your study, so that you can avoid making mistakes as much as possible, and friends in the industry can provide you with the resources you need for employment. Interpersonal relationships are like land. Building a new relationship is like sowing a seed. While seeking existing external help, we should also carefully irrigate new relationships.
Farmers will not always use the same land for farming, but have a timetable, and they will sow at different times. When a part of the land is harvested, other crops are growing, so that all farm work will not be crowded in the same time period, and the results of labor can be increased through more reasonable arrangements.
In other words, in addition to finding the right person, we must also find the right time rhythm in order to finally usher in a comprehensive harvest.