A sense of boundaries and the dignity adults should have

A sense of boundaries

Have you ever had the following experiences:

Don’t know how to say no, just Will be embarrassed to accept silently, unable to insist on oneself, define oneself through the evaluation of others, have strong control, impose one's wishes on others, want to be the savior of others, and subconsciously take responsibility for others.

This is the lack of a sense of boundaries.

The sense of boundary refers to the judgment or importance of boundaries. It also defines the psychological boundaries between ourselves and others.

Sense of boundaries

When the sense of boundaries is blurred, two situations will occur:

Oneself has unlimited responsibility for others, and does everything one should and should not do. , take care of what should be taken care of and what should not be taken care of...

Require others to have unlimited responsibility for you. Your parents must support you for a lifetime, and your partner must love you for a lifetime... .

In this state, you will slowly lose control of your life, lose yourself and find it difficult to be independent. Conflicts, contradictions, pain and lack of freedom with others will follow one after another. In severe cases, it may affect your health. mental health.

A sense of boundaries

How to establish a sense of boundaries?

1. Know your own bottom line

Clear your physical and emotional boundaries , What is the psychological and spiritual tolerance limit, and understand where the bottom line is.

2. Perceive the signal that the boundary has been violated

If you have two feelings, it means that someone else has broken your boundary. The two signal lights are feelings: discomfort and resentment.

3. Express clearly

If you meet people who are completely different from your life philosophy, behavior style and living environment, you need to clearly and directly express where your boundaries are. It makes it easier for both parties to get along with each other.

4. Continuously strengthen self-awareness

The sense of boundaries is very subjective and is mainly based on your own feelings. Everyone has his own set of evaluation standards and is determined to change. Motivation, strengthen self-awareness to combat previous bad habits. Over time, you will become a person with a sense of boundaries.

5. Put yourself first

Recognize your own importance and value, respect and be loyal to your own feelings. You must proudly tell yourself that my time and energy are not for others to squander at will, and my dignity cannot be trampled on by others.

Finally, in the process of establishing boundaries, you may offend some people because you have no experience in expressing and handling it poorly, so it is very important to start practicing with small things and start step by step.

The sense of boundaries is so important. Guarding your boundaries means guarding your life.