Family rules and mottos and aphorisms

1. Be independent in your heart and take charge of yourself.

2. Exclusively enjoying a great name is the way to reduce your fortune.

3. Hard work will make your muscles and bones stronger, while pampering will make your energy weaker.

4. If the children of aristocratic families have the same food, clothing and daily life as those of poor people, they can become great people.

5. People’s temperament is difficult to change due to their innate nature, but reading can change their temperament.

6. To be self-reliant, a man must be stubborn.

7. All the mediocre people in the world, ancient and modern, are defeated by the word "lazy"; the talented people in the world, ancient and modern, are all defeated by the word "arrogant".

8. Behave dignifiedly and speak in a dignified manner.

9. Don’t abandon others’ great beauty with small evils, and don’t forget others’ great kindness with small grudges.

10. The greater your self-esteem, the more you will see your inferiority.

11. What makes a gentleman inferior to others is that he has a wise eye and knows people well.

12. In an official’s family, it is easy to go from frugality to luxury, but it is difficult to go back from luxury to frugality.

13. Young people should be “ambitious, knowledgeable and persistent” when studying.

14. Only by using thunderbolt means can you first show the heart of a Bodhisattva.

15. Be quiet first, then think about it, and do it when you are 50 or 60% sure.

16. There are three things that scholars should not fight: do not fight with gentlemen for fame, do not fight with villains for profit, and do not fight with heaven and earth for cleverness.

17. When traveling independently, you should not follow the popular customs, but you must not tolerate resentment. There is no need to avoid minor suspicions in matters of high righteousness, but we must not ignore them if they are tiring.

18. Be content with joy and hardship.

19. The literati are rich and live in the market. Wealth can lead to poetry, but speaking of belongings brings shabbiness.

20. Don’t drink too much when you are worried, and don’t write notes when you are angry.

21. Make decisions on matters.

22. It’s easy to talk about one’s strengths but only superficially.

23. With a calm mind, you can survive the dangers of life.

24. If you are too noble, you will hurt your benevolence, and if you are too gentle, you will hurt your justice. This is why you value the middle way.

25. It is better to see that the world is all good people than to see that the world is all bad people.

26. Great softness is not soft, extreme strength is not rigid.

27. Serving relatives is based on getting pleasure.

28. Filial piety leads to good fortune, diligence leads to details, but no details are given.

29. Being self-sufficient with talent and being proud of oneself will be tabooed by villains and despised by gentlemen.

30. Books, vegetables, fish and pigs bring vitality to a family; sleep less and do more, bring vitality to one person.

31. Everything is arranged secretly, and you are confident.

32. Avoid arrogance and laziness, which is the way to protect your family.

33. Only those who can eat light food can taste the strange smell, those who can cope with the noise of the city can travel to famous mountains, and those who can endure torture can achieve fame.

34. Those who enjoy their blessings too much will suffer sudden disasters. 50 words of family rules and mottos. 50 words of family rules and mottos. People who are always poor are worried about their poverty, and there will be unexpected worries.

35. When frustration comes, treat it with patience, so that you will not suffer from frustration. When things come to your mind, take them lightly so that you won't be confused by your worries.

36. If you eat a vegetarian diet, your breath will not be turbid; if you sleep alone, your spirit will not be turbid; if you sit silently, your heart will not be turbid; if you read, your mouth will not be turbid.

37. Those who are good at observing others observe themselves, and those who are good at observing themselves observe their hearts.

38. Showing respect to others is fake. To love in hiding is to be private.

39. Jueluo can honor one’s body, but not one’s heart. Articles can be written about one's own body, but cannot be written about one's actions.

40. Fame, official title, money, sound and sex are all called desires, and they can all lead to death.

41. Be sincere without regrets, forgive without resentment, be harmonious without enmity, and endure without humiliation.

42. A skillful debater will often go against the Tao, while a clumsy debater will inevitably be alienated. It is better to be alienated from the world than to go against the Tao.

43. Loose talk is contrary to the truth, and miscellaneous knowledge is confusing.

44. Contentment brings happiness, greed leads to worry.

45. Those who accumulate extensively will leave their children and grandchildren in trouble; those who are sensual and sensual will ruin their lives.

46. Improper eating and drinking is the cause of illness; improper thoughts and worries are the root of death.

47. People in ancient times cultivated themselves to avoid fame, but people today decorate themselves to gain reputation. Therefore, the ancients did not seize it when it came to a big event, but today people easily defend it when they see small gains.

48. A gentleman is loyal when he goes out, filial when he goes in, he is knowledgeable when he uses it, and he is foolish when he gives up.

49. Those with great wisdom and hard work are crazy; those with little strength and heavy responsibilities follow family rules.

50. Good people cultivate virtue and bring good fortune to heaven. Evil people sow disaster and bring disaster later.

51. It is better to give false reputation to a villain than to listen to God. The wealth left behind by the descendants is not as urgent as the Zhou people.

52. Benefit can be obtained by all but not alone, and strategy can be achieved by few but not by many. If you stand alone, you will lose; if you work together, you will be defeated.

53. If you ignore a thought, you will say the wrong thing.

54. Those who like to conquer others will never be able to conquer others. If they can conquer others, they will never be victorious.

55. A gentleman only does his best in human affairs, regardless of destiny, and destiny is in human affairs.

56. Those who are intelligent and agile should be knowledgeable.

57. There is no greater evil than the good that destroys others, and no virtue is greater than the injustice of white people.

58. Let a gentleman be humble in his ambition, but not a villain in his capacity.

59. People should save themselves from trouble and should not be afraid of it. People should be free from vulgarity, not artificial. You should not go with the times, and you should not follow the times.

60. Following two things will lead to a lifetime of mistakes. Encouraging the spirit can overcome this shortcoming.

61. If you do anything with suspicious people, it will not work out. If you do things with beneficial people, you will suffer.

62. You can’t stand poverty, you can’t stand up, you can’t stand humiliation, you can’t do anything.

63. All major tasks are done partly by manpower and partly by nature.

64. If everyone expects to win, he will be defeated. If everyone expects to be defeated, he will be defeated.

65. Since you love your talents, you should skip the details.

66. Those who do big things should choose multiple substitutes as their first priority. The satisfactory choice is not available, and the second choice is to wait for gradual education.

67. Having no friends in the countryside is the first thing I hate.

68. If you can be indifferent, you will have some true knowledge.

69. Just a small opinion can make everything impossible and lead to failure.

70. Belief in fortune telling and feng shui are all caused by delusions. Those who read and are sensible will not believe it if they take it as a righteous life.

71. Harsh words are flattering for a moment, but those who take them will be resentful for life.

72. Today’s people care about manipulating others and take great pains to manipulate others, but have they ever harmed others? It’s just that they have ruined their own minds and damaged their own vitality.

73. Never be complacent, never be petty, never be arrogant, never be a lazy person.

74. When you are in a hurry, you should be more careful. When push comes to shove, we must abide by family rules and mottos more carefully. When it comes to the end, be even more cautious.

75. If you want to support your career in the world, you must first establish your feet.

76. It is shameful to follow others, but it is hateful to be self-willed. Not being attached to anything is the middle way. It is rare to find one, but it is the most elegant thing to be able to stand in the midst of waves and trends.

77. When listening, you should listen to reason. Once you hear something, you will easily assume it, but you will often make many mistakes.

78. Those who have compassion must be ashamed and disgusted.

79. When a person is sleepless on a normal day, he is wise if he can avoid having any delusional thoughts.

80. Those who show off their intelligence will have poor morals, and those who are too eloquent will have poor fortune.

81. Those who like to decorate will gradually make mistakes. Those who listen favorably are the beginning of disputes

82. Those who are proud of others will be shallow, and those who are suspicious of others will be villains.

83. With a calm mind, you can survive the dangers of life.

84. When you realize your selfish intentions arise, you overcome them. This is great courage.

85. If you are too noble, you will hurt your benevolence, and if you are too gentle, you will hurt your justice. This is why you value the middle way.

86. When everyone is safe and divided, the world will be peaceful.