As soon as the train started, everyone became tearful and stood on the platform, waiting until all the lengthy trains left the station before turning around. On the tricycle home, everyone couldn't stop crying. Min (brother of Fu Cong) has been sniffling. We didn't sleep well last night and woke up all the time. Today, after taking a nap, I just closed my eyes dimly and woke up with fright. I haven't tasted the taste on the platform last night for many years. My chest ached and my stomach was sad. I only had this experience when I was lovelorn before. It seems that after a serious illness today, I have no energy at all. Mother wants to cry anytime and anywhere-her eyes are swollen and painful, but she still can't help crying. All she said was, "smiling faces are piled up all day long", and she sobbed again. Really, son, you are really smiling all the time this time! Teach people how to give up! I always think about the first month of 1953. (In the first month of 1953, Fu Cong had a heated debate with his father about which one of Beethoven's violin sonatas was the most important. According to his own musical feelings, Fu Cong disagreed with his father's view that the ninth "Kreutzer" Sonata was the most important, and thought that the tenth violin Sonata was the most important. The two sides are at loggerheads. Father thinks Fu Cong is too arrogant. "How many books have you read?" At that time, foreign music circles generally agreed that the ninth song was the most important. So my father insisted on his own opinion, and there was a serious conflict between the two sides. When his father flew into a rage, the stubborn Fu Cong resolutely ran away from home and lived in the home of Chen Bogeng, a friend of his father's good friend Mao Chuen, for nearly a month. After the death of Fu Lei's uncle, I felt how short life was, and why father and son were so serious and deeply touched. So I asked Fu Cong's younger brother Fu Min to take Fu Cong home, and the two sides made peace. ) I can't get rid of my conscience. Son, I abused you, and I will always be sorry for you. I will never be able to atone for this sin! These thoughts haven't left my mind all day, but I'm afraid to tell my mother. If you do something wrong in life, your conscience will never be at peace! Really, Balzac said it well: some sins can only be redeemed, but not washed away!
this is the first letter from home. Fu Lei is very strict with his children. He is extremely serious, even rigid and inhuman. His wife, Ms. Zhu Meifu, was Fu Lei's childhood sweetheart. They were deeply affectionate and respected each other. Even she said that sometimes being with Fu Lei was "mentally tortured". Fu Lei is stubborn, pursuing art first and truth first all his life. Fu Cong, however, was young and energetic, and he was a person who "I love my teacher, but I love the truth more", so his father and son turned against each other later, and Fu Cong ran away from home. Actually, it's still personality. But this incident dealt a great blow to Fu Lei. In this letter, Fu Lei expressed his sincere guilt as a father. Since I had Yuanyuan, I have been both a teacher and a father, and I have a deeper understanding of this feeling for Fu Lei. I understand now and come to a conclusion that some people may not agree, that is, a person who has never been a father (mother) will never be a good teacher. In my opinion, being a parent and being a teacher are interlinked in many aspects. They are all facing children, the objects to be educated and minors. Parents or teachers have a kind of power, which seems to be innate, and it is natural for you to have it. Therefore, sometimes we can't help abusing this precious power and doing something that people regret. This is actually the case with Fu Lei. He may think that as a father, it is a matter of course to discipline his son, and the father has unquestionable absolute authority. He does not allow his son to challenge this authority. In fact, why not be a teacher? Think about it, after being a teacher for so many years, have you done less harm to students? Has it caused them less physical and mental pain? It's really unbearable to look back. I dare not look back. Therefore, reading this passage is particularly touching, and I can fully understand the pain and guilt in Fu Lei's heart. The past is gone. "If you realize the past, don't remonstrate, but if you know what's coming, you can pursue it." Later generations should take a deep warning, and what's more important is to do the following things well.
Look at this one again:
Dear child, the day after you left, you wanted to write a letter, for fear that you would get bored. But not a day goes by without thinking about you. I wake up at six or seven every morning, and I can't sleep over and over again, and I can't tell why. Like Christophe's mother staying at home alone, thinking of the images of her children's childhood scenes, your mother and I always think about your little story between the ages of 23 and 67. We don't know how much we can tell you about this kind of words, but we dare not say that at your age, everything is going forward and you don't want to look back; We shake out the past of your diaper era when you had a snot and a tear, which will cause you trouble. Son, I know all this very well, and so does my mother. It's just that all your life will be printed in our minds, floating up anytime and anywhere, like a sketch picture, which makes us happy and disappointed.
where is this written by a famous translator and artist? This is clearly an ordinary neighbor's old man's muttering to his children. But it is in these unpretentious words that parents' love and expectation for their children are contained. When I read these words, I always unconsciously think of my parents and all the parents in the world. "Poor inherit the wind!"! By the same token, children can only truly understand the feelings of being parents after they have become parents themselves.
The marriage of children has always been the most concerned and worrying thing for parents. Fu Cong is handsome, slender, talented, gentle, and an artist's temperament and talent. Many girls express their love for him. In addition, a person has been overseas for many years, and there is no relative around him. Loneliness and loneliness can be imagined. Parents know this well. However, for the sake of their children's career, they earnestly and persuasively. Letters from home are like warm kindling, which not only comforts the lonely heart of a wanderer in a foreign land, but also illuminates the road ahead of him:
Secondly, I have to remind you: try to control your feelings and move them into art. There are too many beautiful angels around you, and I'm afraid you won't be able to hold it again. Don't forget, you vowed to be a Puritan for several years, and to live a monk's life and an abstinence life in the love between men and women for several years! You must remind yourself of this! Always guard yourself! Everything should be awakened early, and the tent should be closed early; Don't let your enthusiasm rise before you suppress it. At that time, it will be more painful and less effective. Dear child, in any case, you should follow my advice in this regard! These are the things that mom and dad are most worried about.
Look at what the mother wrote to her son:
Lucky boy, you are the most favored son in China. A person's opportunity and enjoyment are bought at the cost of thousands of people in Qian Qian. How precious it is. You have to seize the time and be vigilant. If you don't practice hard, you won't be able to serve your country and your compatriots. To value oneself is to value the country. Don't forget that millions of compatriots in the motherland are working hard in their posts and working hard for the happiness of mankind. In particular, we should think of the threats and sacrifices made by domestic creatures at present. Give up your personal annoyance and little emotional distress together. This is what your father often tells me. I think of my father's previous letter asking you to live a life equal to that of a monk in these years. Now I think this sentence is more important. You are thousands of miles away, so comfortable, follow the teacher who others can't keep up with; Learn what others can't learn; Feel the atmosphere that others can't; Enjoy the beauty of landscape and art that others can't enjoy; Therefore, in large and small places, we can't be sorry for our country and our compatriots. Otherwise, the artist's compassion and fraternity will be empty talk.
this is true love, broad and selfless love! This is abandoning the narrow ego and fulfilling the love of the noble ego. In front of the most private and frank letters from home, Mr. and Mrs. Fu Lei set an example for their children and showed the morality and conscience of an upright intellectual. This noble character is an excellent culture accumulated by the Chinese nation for thousands of years and a precious spiritual wealth of our nation. Unfortunately, in the present era, we are gradually leaving it. Mr. and Mrs. Fu Lei are models for all parents in the world to learn. Letter from Fu Lei: Good Words and Sentences
1. If you do something wrong in life, your conscience will never be at peace! Really, Balzac said it well: some sins can only be redeemed, but not washed away! (p1)
2. Life is endless, and when it is almost over, it will leave the world again. (p2)
sooner or later, the flowers and fruits irrigated by the gardener with blood and tears have to be sent to the world for others to enjoy. (p2)
3 ... Everything depends on your firm will and stand ... Everything depends on your personal perseverance, belief and will-the will to practice. (p9)
4. I don't approve of blaming myself without acting. This is the basic style of being a man. It's not just about someone or something. I used to tell you that only facts can prove your mind and only actions can show your heart. You can't be so careless with your friends. People who are not fickle by nature are the most wronged and unworthy to act like fickle. Just as a person who is not naughty plays naughty and ends up suffering, it is a truth. (p12)
You know all the principles of being a man, but you lose by not showing the facts. I hope you will remember this from now on and all your life. You have to explain everything to others! (p12)
5. People who do not experience acute pain will not have profound and broad sympathy. (p13)
A person's venting is to ask for mental health, not to make himself more and more depressed. (p14)
6. Regarding emotional problems ... We should exercise restraint in any case, focusing on the future and health. (p15)
7 ... Use more reason and less emotion. Of course, it depends on your strong confidence to control all troubles. It is not an easy thing, but it must be overcome.
8. When a person is lonely and concentrated, all his feelings are true feelings. (p19)
9. Don't let what you feel float on the surface of your feelings, but carefully analyze how what you feel is different from your original ideas, emotions and expressions. This requires calm and strong intelligence to analyze clearly. (p23)
Young people are most likely to give people the impression of "ingratitude". In fact, he is staring at the front, hungry to absorb new things, not necessarily "ungrateful"; But few people understand this psychology ... (P23)
1. As long as it is the truth and a true lesson, whether it comes from parents or friends or strangers, you must accept it. (p29)
You have to get rid of some of your easygoing temper ... you will lack the opportunity to reflect if you are always in a crowd. Thoughts, feelings and feelings can't be sorted out and summarized properly.
11. Patience and depression will happen to everyone from time to time, but it will soon pass. (p3)
Try to put aside the gains and losses, try your best, and be worthy of your heart. (p31)
12. People are floating in high tide-low tide all their lives, but only mediocre people can live like stagnant water; Or you must have a high level of self-cultivation in order to be fruitless and truly free. As long as the climax does not make you nervous, and the low tide does not make you decadent, it will be fine. If the sun is too strong, it will scorch the grains; Too much rain will drown crops. We only want a psychological balance, so as not to get hurt ... gradually you will develop another kind of mood to deal with the past; It is to be able to think without being thrilling, to analyze the cause and effect from an objective standpoint, and to make reference for the future, so as to avoid repeating the same mistakes. Only when one dares to face up to reality, face up to mistakes, analyze with reason, and thoroughly comprehend, will he not be eroded by memories ... If one looks at these things as ashes of the soul, he will certainly feel deeply, but don't hurt himself deeply, but he should cherish his heart as if he were facing an ancient battlefield. (p32~33)
13. Although the competition is a heavy burden, we should make some mental preparations anyway. As long as you try your best to ignore the gains and losses, you will be calm and completely relaxed mentally and physically. Only in this way can you hope to have good grades ... If you can often think of the famous sentence "An article will learn from the past, and you will be much more relaxed mentally." Only in this way can we avoid the feeling of excessive fatigue and fatigue. The most tormenting thing is not mental and physical labor, but worry! (p38)
Work hard to make yourself mentally loose, and keep it so that you can get good grades. Nervousness does harm to everything. ..... With the concept of "I do my best", I immediately call myself lenient when I am nervous, and I should always pay attention to relaxation when dealing with your spirit like dealing with your hands and fingers. (p39)
You can't be too busy on weekdays. When people drag you out, you have to make up your homework, which is harmful to your energy. Let's say no more times on the grounds of practicing the piano. If you are not nervous, you should not be too busy; I'd rather be free and think quietly ... Don't be sentimental, I'm sorry. It's a habit not to go out with people during working hours, and it won't offend people. Life's energy is limited ... (P39)
14 ... Art is your lifelong career, and art itself is already exciting. You must never be too nervous when practicing the piano. Life is limited, and energy is limited. We should take a long view and run a marathon. You are an impulsive person, so you should restrain yourself. (p42)
15 ... Restrain feelings more, pay more attention to skills, and use more reason. I believe it will definitely reduce fatigue. (p42)[ This is what Mr. Fu Lei should pay attention to when instructing Fu Cong to practice the piano, and how to reduce the fatigue of practicing the piano]
Kung Fu is not used enough; Never get good grades without suffering enough! (p43)
16. Anyone who plays tricks all the time is an artist, not an artist. A person can't jump out of this level, and he can't dream of art all his life! Art is the purpose, and skill is the means; Those who always pay attention to the means will inevitably forget its purpose. (p47)
17 ... Don't force yourself when you are already tired. Keeping more vitality will still take advantage in the long run. (p54)
18. The size and level of achievements are beyond our control. We rely on manpower and talent, but as long as we are strong, we are not afraid of failure, setbacks and blows-whether in personnel, life, technology or learning. From now on, you can fight alone. (p56)
19. The greatness of motherhood lies not in reason, but in that intuitive feeling ... (P6)