As a teacher and parent, I increasingly feel the difficulty of educating children. I remember when we were in school, our inner world was mostly pure and beautiful, without so many "fancy thoughts" and so-called "problem students"; now, even students with good academic performance are inevitably not "problem students". After calming down and thinking about it, maybe it was because I was not a teacher at the time, but a student, and an obedient student. In fact, no matter what time, the job of being a human being is the most difficult, and the job of a child in adolescence is even more difficult. Otherwise, how could we be engaged in "the most glorious career under the sun".

I have a nephew who is talented and smart. Although he is not very diligent, he was admitted to Tsinghua University. I explain this from his maternal lineage, as one of his uncles. , I am extremely smart. This kid likes rock music. He takes classes during the day and plays guitar and sings at night. He also gathers a few friends and claims to be "rehearsing", which makes the neighbors feel sad and angry. This is mainly because his guitar has a noise generator. The device can make the sound of smashing iron pots. Speaking of homework at Tsinghua University, it is no joke. Whenever the exam period approaches, he has to stay up late to prepare for homework; in this way, he cannot find time to sleep. After a few semesters, I saw that I had a sharp mouth and monkey cheeks, black eyes, and was so thin that I could float. He also wants to make a living in rock music after graduation. Not to mention that his parents felt that disaster was imminent, even I felt that playing rock music would be difficult to establish as a viable lifestyle-unless he learned the ability to drink Fengqi cigarettes.

As a rock and roll youth, my nephew might be able to find an opportunity to play and sing in a bar on weekends, but he wouldn’t make much money; You might be asked to go to the police station - I've heard of this happening. Such young people often squat in a row under the wall of the police station, as if they were in a public toilet, and make light-hearted teasing with their police comrades. Of course, parents have to take them out in the end. The child's parents, my sister and brother-in-law, are deeply worried about this prospect. They are decent people and cannot afford to lose face like this. So the elders often wanted to say something to him, but he refused to listen. The most unfortunate thing is that I am one of his role models. I have never been to the police station, I am just a freelance writer, but for some reason, he felt that my profession was similar to that of a rock youth, and he kept saying: Uncle can understand me!

For this reason, whether I like it or not, I have to take responsibility and persuade my nephew not to be a rock musician and to become an electrical engineer according to his major. Although within the family, this matter is also considered ideological work. Normally, we should start talking about ideals and morals, but since we are between nephews and uncles, we can skip it and go straight to the topic: "Boy, it's not easy for your parents and your mother to raise you. Finish your studies and find a serious job. Don't let them worry about it." The answer, of course, is: He wants to, but he can't. He loves his music. I said: It’s good to have hobbies. You should earn some money to support yourself first, and then you can start hobbies. I don't know much about rock music, I just heard "Nothing". The song is quite nice, but considering the topic, it doesn't seem like a happy life. My nephew immediately followed up and said: Uncle, why do you need to be happy? Pain is the source of inspiration. Didn’t the predecessors say: If there is no pain, what kind of poet is he? ——I remember this is a poem by Lermontov. Even he knew this, and things seemed a little bad...

Pain is the source of art, which seems irrefutable: on the stage, people sang "Loess High Slope", " "Nothing." On the screen, what I saw were "Old Well", "Ju Dou", and "Qiu Ju's Lawsuit". This is true not only in China, but also in foreign countries. Let’s talk about music. Tchaikovsky’s “Andante Cantabile” is an eternal masterpiece. It is said that the material is the Russian folk song “Little Ivan”, which is also the painful voice of the people. American female singer Mary Carey sang in the style of black spiritual songs, which were songs sung by black slaves in those days... From this point of view, my nephew was determined to choose a painful lifestyle in order to purify his soul and achieve The pinnacle of art, it's time to get it right. But I said he was wrong, because he is my nephew, and I always have to explain to my sister. So I say: Yes, pain is the source of art; but it doesn’t have to be your pain... Tchaikovsky himself was no little Ivan; Mary Carey didn’t harvest cotton on a southern plantation; Those who sang Loess Gaopo were all dressed up with jewels; the one who played Qiu Ju was not miserable at all after taking off her makeup. She had a lot of money... I heard that she wanted to marry a rich man.

All these facts illustrate a truth: the pain of others is the source of your art; and if you suffer, you will only become the source of art for others. Because my nephew is a smart kid, he immediately thought that although he had dug out the source of art, it was not his own, which was not cost-effective. Although I didn't really think so, I convinced my nephew. He agreed to study hard and not engage in rock music after graduation, but to join a company to make a lot of money.

After achieving this success, I have been feeling elated these days and feel that I have a skill. Anyone with a disobedient child can ask me to persuade them, and I am also prepared to charge a fee. In addition to writing, I can open up a second career - a professional ideological worker. But the purpose of this article is not to brag about my ability to advertise myself. Rather, I want to explain that there are various ways of doing ideological work. What this article shows is one of them: combining positive persuasion and black humor, it immediately opens up a new world...