Don't think too much, people always need to experience the pain of where you will go. People are afraid of death, on the one hand, because it is not negotiable, on the other hand, because its uncertainty makes people anxious. However, my girlfriend died, at least my feelings are still there. This is a spiritual and emotional bond that I can't give up. People need to face death and the mental pain caused by death rationally. American famous MacArthur's famous saying that "veterans never die, but just wither" reveals an open-mindedness that transcends life and death. Don't forget, "children and grandchildren are endless." In order to avoid being overwhelmed by death anxiety, people will consciously or unconsciously use various methods to deal with this fear. People can't be resurrected after death. As long as there is love, everything will become eternal, and your girlfriend will become the memory of your eternal love: you once loved it deeply.

I haven't experienced the emotional Where Are You Going, but I don't know if I can help you from a bystander's point of view. thank you