You must first judge yourself correctly before you can judge others. Are you deceiving others, or yourself? Think clearly before answering. First of all, you must learn to think independently before you can do things independently. ---- Harvard Inspirational Quotes

Each of us is like a tree. From the moment it sprouts in the land, it is destined to experience a lot of wind and rain, including its own transformation and others. Interference from the external environment and unexpected encounters. Whether you go to school or work, be alone or with a family, there are always difficulties, there are always helplessness, there are always nights of anxiety and insomnia, there are always moments of crying, but life does not take into account anyone's emotions.

You cannot avoid what is coming, and you must bear what is coming. The longer you go forward, you will realize that there is no rescue from others in this world. The most reliable, most effective, and most fundamental way to help you get out of trouble is self-rescue.

Romain Rolland said: "There is a kind of heroism in the world, which is to still love life after seeing the truth of life."

Sometimes living is a need in itself Something to grit your teeth and persevere. Life is never just beautiful, there is also sadness and helplessness, pain and tears. You have worked very hard, but the best relief is never to give up, but to be tired and happy. You ask me why I insist?

Because if you hold on, everything will come next.

Just like Jack Ma once said: "Today is cruel, tomorrow will be even crueler, and the day after tomorrow will be beautiful, but most people will die tomorrow night."

Kennedy was the 35th President of the United States. During World War II, Kennedy joined the U.S. Navy and participated in the war against Japan. After the war, he served as a member of the House of Representatives and then as a senator. In 1960, Kennedy narrowly defeated his opponent in the general election and became the second youngest president in the history of the United States. At that time, the Cold War between the United States and the Soviet Union occurred. During his tenure, the Bay of Pigs incident and the Cuban Missile Crisis occurred, and he continued to promote the Vietnam War. In addition, he vigorously promoted the United States' space program to compete with the Soviet Union. Kennedy was extremely charismatic. He was young, handsome, funny and energetic. Even in the turbulent years, he brought great hope and courage to the American people. Unfortunately, Kennedy was assassinated in Dallas on November 22, 1963. .

John F. Kennedy is the youngest president in the history of the United States and the only president in the history of the United States to win the Pulitzer Prize. He is not only the pride of Americans, but also the pride of Harvard people, because he graduated from Harvard University. In order to commemorate this great president, Harvard University also specially established the Kennedy School of Politics. There, people often hear stories about this great president.

When Kennedy was very young, his father paid great attention to cultivating his independent character. Once, when his father took him out to play, little Kennedy accidentally fell down. Little Kennedy sat on the ground, waiting for his father to help him, but his father ignored him and started smoking by himself.

Little Kennedy lay on the ground and shouted: "Dad, come and pull me up." But his father was smoking a cigarette and asked nonchalantly: "Is it really hurt from the fall?"

"Yes, Dad, I feel like I can't stand up anymore." Little Kennedy cried.

"Then you must insist on standing up." The father said seriously.

Little Kennedy had to get up with difficulty. At this time, his father asked little Kennedy: "Do you know why I did this?" Little Kennedy shook his head.

"Because life is like this. If you fall, get up and run; if you fall again, get up again and run again.

You can only save yourself at any time."

Kennedy Jr. looked at his father's firm eyes and seemed to understand his father's words. From then on, he relied on himself in everything, and through his own hard work, he finally became the President of the United States.

Kennedy’s wit and humor in facing life reminded Americans and people around the world that youth, vigor and idealism will never go out of style.

Life has to go through three growths. The first time is when you discover that you are not the center of the world. The second time is when you discover that no matter how hard you try, there are still some things that you can’t do anything about. The third time is when you know that there are some things that you can’t do about. There is nothing you can do, but you will still try your best.

We have to get used to the fact that even if we put one hundred and twenty percent effort into something, we may not succeed. There is no need to take the results too seriously. Experience is precious.

But if you don’t do some things, you will never know whether you have the ability to complete them. Just put all your energy into anything.

It is necessary for a person to try to do everything by himself, and gradually he will have the consciousness of self-reliance and self-improvement. On the contrary, if a person is always accustomed to relying on others and first thinks of asking for help from others when encountering difficulties, then it will be difficult to survive independently once he loses the help of others.

In real life, everyone will inevitably encounter various difficulties. When many people encounter difficulties, they often think of asking others for help, but forget about themselves. They feel that others must be better than themselves, more capable than themselves, and have more experience than themselves, and can successfully help them solve problems and overcome difficulties as soon as they take action. Therefore, they do not seek anything from themselves, but seek others, hoping to get the care and love of others. Support and bestow.

Although it is human nature to rely on the help of others, it is not a long-term solution after all - others can help you temporarily, but they cannot help you forever. If you turn to your parents or friends for help when you encounter difficulties, you are giving up the opportunity to develop your own abilities. If you don't think of a way to solve the problem yourself, wait for help from others, and place your hope on fate, the final result is often very tragic.

So in real life, we can see that too many people have dependence habits. It's good to have someone to help you, but it's not always possible for others to help you, so you must learn to solve problems on your own. As the saying goes, "It is better to rely on yourself than to rely on heaven and earth." Only you can decide your own future and destiny.

Therefore, when we encounter problems, we should not ask for help easily and do not underestimate our abilities. If you underestimate yourself, your potential will be buried with negative thoughts, and your motivation and confidence to move forward will be lost.

As the famous British critic Hayslett said: "Those who underestimate themselves will be underestimated by others." It is better to seek others than to seek yourself, and you can save yourself. Only your own efforts can determine the ups and downs of your destiny. Only by learning to save yourself can the boat of life not sink. Believe that there is nothing you can't do. Only by changing reality with great enthusiasm and strong will can you control your own destiny.

A person who dares to save himself, is not afraid of difficulties, does not hesitate in the face of obstacles, and has enough confidence in his ability to do things is a person who can achieve great things. When you encounter difficulties, turn to yourself and ask yourself how much you can solve by yourself, and solve as many as you can. Because you are your own "noble person". Therefore, some experts suggest:

1. Learn to be responsible for yourself

In this world, everyone is busy with their own things, and everyone has their own troubles. There is no reason or obligation for others to help you. Society is not family, society is not mother, society not only has love, but also competition. When you are in trouble, only if you have sufficient abilities and learn to be responsible for yourself can you get more help and care from others.

Carnegie said: "There are two types of people who are destined to accomplish nothing. One is a person who will never take the initiative to do something unless others ask him to do it; the other is a person who even if others ask him to do it, he will do it. People who can't do things well. Those who take the initiative to do what they should do without being urged by others and don't give up halfway will definitely succeed. Such people know how to ask themselves to work harder and pay more than others expect. "

Success is an accumulation of hard work. Those who become famous overnight have actually been working hard for a long time before they achieved success. Anyone who wants to achieve success must go through a long period of hard work and struggle.

To achieve the greatest success, you must always maintain a proactive spirit, no matter how uninteresting you are. Only by doing this can you achieve your highest achievements.

2. Learn to motivate yourself

Psychologists have discovered that people can become their ideal characters by relying on their own continuous imagination. When you imagine that you are a very positive, very enthusiastic, and very capable person, you will really become that person, and you will not think about looking for help everywhere when you encounter something.

In our learning process, there is a common mentality, hoping that there is a shortcut learning method that will enable us to improve our grades quickly and catch up from behind. Once they encounter setbacks, they lose their enthusiasm for learning and their enterprising spirit is greatly reduced until they give up on themselves. This is a negative mentality that is eager for success and quick success. ?The influence of mentality on a student's learning effect is crucial.

If you face every learning task with a positive and optimistic attitude, your interest in learning will increase and your learning results will also improve. In fact, the spiritual power behind his success is his positive attitude, or his inner hope for a good result. This is "positive self-psychological suggestion". In life, we need to be encouraged by others, and at the same time, we must learn to encourage ourselves, that is, perform self-psychological suggestions and gradually cultivate our own positive attitude.

3. Try it yourself first

If you want to get rid of dependence on others, you must not be afraid of setbacks or making mistakes, and do whatever you encounter according to your own ideas. , learn from mistakes and grow from mistakes. Repeat this several times and you will be able to do things according to your own ideas. Every time you want help from others, tell yourself: "I can do it, I will do it myself."

You know, instead of blindly pinning your hopes on others, it is better to try it yourself first , take active actions and create conditions to change your own destiny, so that you can get rid of dependence over time.

4. Travel alone

You can handle things alone with unfamiliar people or go on short-term trips. The purpose of this is to exercise your ability to do things independently. Doing something by yourself without relying on others is a kind of exercise, whether it succeeds or fails. When traveling with unfamiliar people, because you are not familiar with each other, you will not rely on others and have to plan everything by yourself. This invisibly suppresses the psychology of dependence, promotes self-reliance, and is conducive to cultivating independent character.

Written at the end,

1 1=2,

That was when I was a student. It was a linear relationship, directly proportional.

Now that we have entered society, we find that the world is full of non-linear relationships. It does not mean that if I keep working hard, the rewards will always increase in proportion. The typical feature of non-linear relationships is that effort and effort are not necessarily proportional. It has randomness and unpredictability.

We have learned too much about how to climb to the top of life, but we should also learn more about how to deal with the lows of life, because life is like a wave, and ups and downs are the norm.

I hope you learn to save yourself and face the ups and downs of life.