Vernacular interpretation: Confucius said, "A gentleman is worried that his reputation will not be praised by others after his death."

Confucius said, "A gentleman is strict with himself inwardly, while a villain is outwardly Ask others."

Confucius said, "A gentleman is reserved and dignified and does not argue with others. He integrates into the group but does not form cliques with others for personal gain."

Confucius said, "A gentleman will not argue with others because of one person." No matter what a person says, you will recommend him, and you will not disobey a person just because of his slight flaws."

Personal experience: Helen Keller said that we should act like this every day. Live until the last day of your life so that your life can have meaning. Karen Keller’s meaning here is very similar to the meaning of Confucius’ first sentence. It would be a shame if we had nothing to leave to this world after we die. So! Seize every minute and every second of every day now and do something pragmatically rather than pragmatically.

The second sentence has the same meaning as the last sentence in Chapter 06 of "The Analects of Confucius·Wei Linggong". In psychology, there is a saying called attribution error. When someone else makes a mistake, we always attribute it to his personal characteristics, and when he succeeds, we always attribute it to the environment; on the contrary, when we make a mistake, we always attribute it to the environment, and when we succeed, we always attribute it to the environment. We always attribute it to individuals. A true gentleman should be able to find fault in himself (attributing it to himself) when he is wrong. When others are successful, he should see their shining points and learn from them, so that we can make progress.

The third sentence introduces us to another side of a gentleman. Is a gentleman different from others? There is a very clever approach here. Society is very complex, with all kinds of people. If we are too strict with others, then I will find that there is no place for myself. The reason why we don’t argue with others is that we believe that even if we have different views, we can “seek common ground while reserving differences, be harmonious without differences, and be beautiful and harmonious.” This is a bit similar to what I mentioned in the communication course I taught at a corporate university, "Business cannot be done without benevolence and righteousness." I will also participate in everyone's discussions, but I will not gossip, nor will I be too talkative, nor will I form a small group with three or five people, because this is tantamount to giving up the characteristics of a gentleman who is pure and self-sufficient.

The fourth sentence talks about a gentleman’s view of others. Not judging others by words means that you should not only look at what the person says, but also look at what the person does. There are many people who can speak eloquently, but few can match their actions. If this person makes a mistake, should I beat him to death with a stick and ignore him from now on? Neither! The mistakes he made may be in other aspects, but I can also listen to his words. In the end, it is up to me to filter and decide whether to adopt his opinions. This is very important for management. If a subordinate has a subjective bias because he has made some mistakes before, it will be unfair to him.

Excerpts from classical Chinese: A gentleman is cautious and does not argue - "Jin" refers to prudence; restraint: ~ hold on.