Most teachers can feel when students have problems. But for teachers, it is not enough to just "see" the problem, but to effectively solve the problem. Teachers often fail to solve problems because they do not know how to respond effectively. Conflicts and misunderstandings result from inappropriate language and wrong approach. Below is a collection of information about communication barriers between teachers and students that I have collected for you. Welcome to refer to it.
1. Excessive advice or suggestions
If a teacher gives advice or suggestions over and over again, it is tantamount to telling the students that the teacher does not believe you. ability. This kind of communication sometimes makes students become dependent on teachers and stop thinking on their own; at every critical moment, students turn to outside authorities for help. Therefore, excessive advice or suggestions will continue to weaken students' independent judgment and creativity, develop a mentality of "following what others say", and create communication barriers, making it impossible for teachers to understand students' thoughts.
2. Use language that will hurt students
When teachers are angry or impulsive, they often say: "You think you are smart!", "Don't think you know everything" Understand!?,?You still don’t understand after telling it so many times, you are as stupid as a pig. ?These words will slander students and cause communication barriers between teachers and students. The consequence is that students feel that their self-esteem has been hurt, and then they develop a counterattack mentality and refuse any education from the teacher, including the courses taught by the teacher. Communication between teachers and students failed, old problems were not solved, but a new conflict emerged, which was counterproductive.
3. Give general words
When we make a positive or negative judgment about another person, if the evaluation is superficial, such as, "Are you a person?" Good boy?, "You disappoint me?", "You are too rude to your classmates", "You need to correct your shortcomings", etc. Such general and general comments are unhelpful to the growth of students. When we want to comfort a person in pain, general words also have the effect of scratching the surface, such as: "Don't be sad!" "Don't be anxious", etc., which are all meaningless comforts.
4. Frequent preaching?
If the teacher preaches frequently, students will feel the status inequality between them and the teacher, and think that the teacher is using his authority. This causes students to become defensive and disgusted with teachers, causing communication barriers. This communication pattern is expressed as: ?you will,?you must,?you should,?if you listen to me, you will wait. Denying students in this way is tantamount to telling students that the teacher does not trust you and that you should accept the teacher's opinion. This type of "should" and "must" is more likely to arouse resistance among students with higher grades, and it is easier for them to strongly defend their position and refuse the teacher's education.
5. Admonition, preaching, saying "should" and "must"
The expression of this kind of information sets up a position in advance, making students feel the status inequity between them and the teacher. Equality and feeling that the teacher is exercising authority makes students prone to become defensive towards the teacher. When teachers use these communication patterns, they often use the phrases, ? You will, you should, and if you follow my advice, you will, you must wait. The message of this type of admonishment expresses to students that the teacher does not trust the other person's judgment and believes that the other person should best accept what others think is right. For students with higher grades, the information about "should" and "must" is more likely to arouse resistance and more easily inspire them to strongly defend their position.
6. Use the language of commands
The use of command language in communication between teachers and students will cause students to misunderstand. From the teacher's perspective, my problem is not important. , the teacher does not care about our feelings, we must comply with the teacher's feelings and needs. Students have a rejection mentality towards teachers, causing communication barriers and refusing to accept teachers' education. For example, the student wanted to explain what he was saying in class, but the teacher said, "Shut up."
?Give orders without leaving any room, without taking into account the students' personal feelings, and just send out a unilateral message. When students are not respected, they may develop resentment, anger and other hostile emotions toward teachers, contradict and resist, or even lose their temper and get out of hand.
7. Imposing one’s opinions on others
During the communication between teachers and students, the teacher thinks that the students’ ideas are unreasonable and ineffective, and thinks that his own point of view is more reasonable, so he puts his own opinions opinions are imposed on students. This is a more subtle command, one that can be more subtly concealed in a seemingly polite, logical statement. Teachers must make students accept their own opinions. Under the influence of this mentality, teachers will not give students the opportunity to express their opinions, making the conversation very concise. For example, did you do your homework according to my method last night? ?My method is more reasonable than yours, so do it my way. ?The consequence of this kind of communication is that students become defensive and resistant to teachers, which creates communication barriers and also weakens students' respect for teachers.
8. Teachers are unwilling to listen to students’ opinions
This method of communication means that regardless of students’ true inner feelings, teachers focus mainly on Persuading students, instead of listening to what students say above, just conveying information to students in a single item, such as, "I came to you today to discuss with you the mistakes you made in this exam." Your problem is carelessness, remember, pay attention next time you take the exam!? Wait. In fact, students sometimes make mistakes in exams not necessarily because of carelessness, but because of lack of sleep leading to inattention when studying, emotional reasons, or not paying enough attention to exams, etc. The teacher asked the student to talk to him in order to help him find the cause of the mistake. However, the teacher only expressed his own opinions and did not listen to the students' ideas, which made the conversation ineffective.
9. Criticizing students at will
Criticizing students at will is a communication mistake that teachers often make. Many teachers believe that criticizing students is to help students, but too much casual criticism will lead to the opposite result. Students' evaluations of themselves are mostly formed by the evaluations of their parents, teachers, and influential people in their lives. Teachers' easy accusations and criticisms make students feel inferior, uneasy and stupid more than other information. Students' response is often, "You're not much better!" The teachers who most often don't get respect from students in schools are those who often make negative comments to their students. When faced with such information, students will protect their own image out of self-esteem. This kind of criticism will also cause students to hide their feelings in front of the teacher in the future and be unwilling to open their inner world to the teacher.
10. Use warning language
There is a student who is often late. The teacher has talked to him many times, but with little effect. Seeing that he was late again today, the teacher said angrily, "If you are late again tomorrow, you will stand in the office." ?When students see teachers like this, they may feel fear and submission, but they are not necessarily convinced. Another example is when the teacher said, "If you don't change your behavior, I will call your parents and ask them to come see me." ?And so on. In this way, students who have been warned and threatened may become hostile to the teacher and reject the teacher's education. Sometimes they even react in a way that the teacher doesn't want to see. "Okay, you can ask the parents, that's all I will do." ?When the teacher's attitude is not accepted, the student's attitude is also completely negative, and even creates a rebellious mentality. This creates communication barriers.
Among the above misunderstandings, teachers use language that is not accepted by students. This kind of language makes the teacher appear overbearing, commanding, or threatening, giving unnecessary advice. It will make students feel that the teacher is not interested in his questions at all, but is only expressing the teacher's personal opinions unilaterally. Such language does not help teachers and students communicate, but has a negative effect. The teacher originally wanted to remind students to pay attention to the negative impact of their behavior through communication, guide students to learn better learning methods, and encourage students to set a higher goal.
Due to errors in teachers' working methods, communication barriers are caused, so that students cannot understand teachers and teachers cannot understand students' thinking. To achieve effective communication, teachers must use language that students can accept, so that students like you from the bottom of their hearts and are willing to open their hearts to you, so that students feel that the teacher understands them and that the teacher's behavior is for themselves. In this way, students will accept the teacher's reminder, encouragement and guidance; even if they are criticized or even punished by the teacher, they will still feel comfortable and willing to accept the teacher's education. So what are the skills for effective communication?
1. Try to leave smiles to students
Primary school English teachers have a high workload and it is difficult to face students with smiles often. Sometimes they even Will be in a bad mood due to various factors, which will hinder effective communication between teachers and students. In fact, maintain a good attitude towards your students, try to constantly explore their shining points, and try to leave a smile to the students every day , I believe that pleasant communication starts from here. Smile every time you talk, and try to communicate with students on an equal footing with a smile in every class. This will make students get closer to you. As the saying goes, be close to the teacher and believe in the teaching!
2. Share learning experience and close the relationship between teachers and students
In normal times, in addition to focusing on imparting English knowledge , also focuses on teaching students how to learn English and sharing their own and other people’s learning experiences and insights. Now, my students have gradually become accustomed to listening and looking for key words and key sentences to help them understand the meaning of the questions (they must be able to tell why), improve the efficiency of problem solving, and understand that to learn English well, they need to read more, memorize skillfully, and be able to find Rules, special notes, etc. Students can see hope for future success from teachers' experience sharing, which helps reduce students' frustration and provides students with opportunities for growth. The teacher-student relationship is the most basic interpersonal relationship in school. A good teacher-student relationship is the key to the effectiveness of education and teaching, and the establishment of a good teacher-student relationship depends on effective communication between teachers and students. American educator Gilot said, "A teacher's job is not only to impart knowledge, but more importantly, to handle complex interpersonal relationships." As a teacher, you must pay attention to the relationship with students and win the heart of each student. ?Communication between teachers and students is the core of teaching management. Whether the communication is effective or not largely affects the effectiveness of teaching management.
3. Appreciation plus trust, living in harmony
Appreciation can help students understand themselves more clearly, thereby building students' self-confidence and stimulating the desire to continuously pursue progress. Lu Qin, a famous contemporary educator in my country, once pointed out, "All children are good children, and they have many shining points, but some have not been discovered. If they can be discovered, their performance will be no worse than anyone else." ?I strongly agree with her statement. The great French writer Hugo once said, "The broadest thing in the world is the ocean, wider than the ocean is the sky, and wider than the sky is the human soul." ?Each of our teachers has a broad mind and the ability to tutor all kinds of children. After getting along harmoniously with the students for half a semester, the students were very happy to write down their own thoughts in their homework books and share them with me after completing their homework (of course I always reply to my questions, and sometimes I write some targeted comments appropriately. ), in this way, the homework book becomes another bridge of communication between teachers and students. For most students, doing homework becomes an expectation and homework is no longer a burden. This kind of communication can more effectively enhance It improves the relationship between teachers and students and is more conducive to mutual learning in teaching. Indeed, in the process of classroom teaching, teachers should focus on teaching students knowledge. In fact, they should discover the shining points of students, appreciate them and trust their abilities, and use their shining points to illuminate their way forward. Therefore, the proper use of appreciation and trust can help communicate and cultivate good emotions between teachers and students, smoothly implement teaching plans, and achieve good teaching results.
4. Teachers’ love must be treated equally
Teachers must love students in order to educate them well and achieve effective communication. For students, teachers' love is simply a wonderful and noble power. It can give students confidence and motivation, and is a bridge between teachers and students.
When teachers give students sincere love, students will feel kindness and admiration for the teacher. Only then can teachers open their hearts to teachers, and teachers can prescribe the right medicine to educate students well and achieve the desired results. As teachers, we are usually able to generously give a lot of love, support and encouragement to students with outstanding performance; while we give dissatisfaction and criticism to students with poor performance and performance; for students with mediocre performance, we put them at ease and An area that requires little care. In fact, being loved and cared for is the most basic need for everyone. For every student, they hope to get the love and care of teachers. Students who perform well are students who perform well, students who perform averagely, and students who perform poorly. Even more so students. Therefore, we must treat everyone equally and equally. Communicate with students in multiple directions and angles, especially students with poor performance. We must understand them with reason and emotion, influence them with love, smile more, praise more, and care more, so that they can experience the sincerity of the teacher. love, so that you can learn consciously, work hard, and realize your potential.
Emotionally, teachers and students can accept each other, empathize with each other, and do not misunderstand each other. Teachers love students and sincerely help students with enthusiasm. Students understand the teacher’s hard work and are willing to accept the teacher’s teachings. This is a new type of teacher-student relationship of mutual understanding, which embodies effective communication between teachers and students. Therefore, effective communication between teachers and students is the key for teachers to open the window of students' minds and is one of the secrets of successful education.
5. Give priority to praise and pay attention to the art of speaking
Teacher’s motivation is a catalyst and an accelerator of students’ progress. Its outstanding performance lies in how to use language to continuously Encourage students to become interested in knowledge, thereby consciously acquiring knowledge and constantly pursuing and exploring. An educator once said, "The art of teaching lies not in imparting skills, but in motivating, awakening and inspiring." ?So, in the process of education and teaching, teachers scientifically use the art of speaking to motivate students. In the minds of students, teachers’ praise and encouragement have extremely high prestige. A knowing smile and a nod of approval, An ordinary compliment or a positive gesture, they can get great satisfaction from it, thus arousing upward power and spurring them to continue to work hard. It can encourage students to actively participate in teaching activities with a good attitude, thereby improving teaching. Efficiently and successfully complete teaching tasks.
Teachers’ timely, conscientious and appropriate praise is a huge motivation and encouragement force. It will spur the advanced, encourage the backward, affirm correctness and deny mistakes, and will play a positive role in promoting. Praising underachievers is an art. Confucius, the great thinker and educator in ancient times, said, "It is better to reward students for their mistakes than to reward them for their mistakes." This reflects the teacher's art of speaking to a certain extent. I feel particularly deeply about this point. Take early reading as an example (the school requires all students to read English as soon as they return to school). Firstly, students do not pay enough attention to it. Secondly, they are not very motivated to read when the teacher is away. In the beginning, although I went to school early every morning to check the early reading of the classes I taught, the results were not satisfactory. Sometimes I would criticize a few words, but the results were even worse. Later, I looked for opportunities to praise them every day. Today, when I went up the stairs, I could hear your hearty reading, which made me run up excitedly. ?I'm so happy. As soon as I arrived at the door of the office, the teacher on duty praised you for your seriousness in studying! ?So-and-so classmate read so seriously and happily today. Miss Deng couldn't help but look at it with admiration and felt extremely gratified (with an exaggeration that made them laughing expression). ?Great! I just like the sound of your reading. Now, reading English early has become a pleasure for me and my students.
If praise is to cultivate the soil and water the saplings, then criticism is to prune the saplings and eliminate insects. However, criticism is not as easy to be accepted by students as praise. If not done well, it will arouse students' resistance. The art of teachers' speaking is both a knowledge and a teaching art.
Therefore, as a teacher, you should learn the art of speaking and turn criticism into a form of praise, so that students can recognize their own mistakes and protect their self-esteem, encourage students to deny mistakes in a timely manner, and accept the teacher's praise. Education eliminates students' resistance and achieves twice the result with half the effort, thus achieving the purpose of education.