I especially like one of Lin Qingxuan’s mottos: See the world with a pure heart, live life with a happy heart, create feelings with a normal heart, and remove worries with a soft heart.

The so-called growth is nothing more than putting your heart in the right place and adjusting your mentality to the best state.

Some time ago, my friend’s company was in a recession and was preparing to lay off employees. In order not to pay liquidated damages, the company leaders tried every means to force out the old employees and looked for opportunities at every turn to find fault with the old employees.

A few people did not write a very standard weekly report, so they were asked to write a written review and self-review in front of the entire company. Several old employees became furious on the spot. After shouting curses, they patted the table and left.

Although my friend was also on the review list, he remained silent and continued to do what he should do. The retired old employees came to have dinner with him in the evening and asked him: Why are you not angry when the company bullies people so much?

My friend replied with an old saying: It is better to live up to expectations than to be angry. Everyone at the scene felt that he was just looking for a way out of his timidity.

A few days later, my friend switched jobs to a large company with a high salary. While others kept complaining about the company, he had been quietly sorting out his files and looking for his next job.

It is better to be angry than to strive for success, and it is better to change yourself than to change others. Instead of nagging and being a resentful woman, it is better to work hard.

I know a friend who I admire very much. When we first came to Shanghai, we rented together. At that time, because the school I graduated from was not very famous and I came from a small city in the 18th tier, I often encountered obstacles in interviews. However, he was very energetic every day and encouraged me with full of positive energy to dispel my bad mood.

Gradually, as I got to know him better, I discovered that he also had his own troubles. He was squeezing employees, working overtime uncontrollably, and depriving employees of their labor in various ways. If I were in his place, I would have complained a lot. But the state he is in is completely invisible from his usual state.

It wasn’t until he successfully switched jobs to a very good company as a foreign trade manager that I heard one or two comments about his former company from his mouth.

I asked him how he did it? He replied calmly: Is complaining useful? Is complaining useful? Might as well spend your time improving your self-worth.

He didn’t just say that, he did it. When most people were complaining, he remained silent and silently chose to sign up for a weekend class at Pinde German to learn German.

While most people were busy drinking to drown their sorrows, or chatting with their friends, he silently memorized words, memorized grammar, and did boring exercises.

Not in silence, die, but in silence, explode. Finally, a year later, he passed the German proficiency test, and in the interview, because of his excellent German language skills, he defeated many competitors and became the envy of others.

Use silence in the wrong place, silence is a kind of weakness, and the more silent you are, the sadder it becomes; if you use silence in the right place, silence is a kind of strength, and the more silent you are, the stronger you are.

Even if there are thousands of hardships in life, as long as you still have the strength to move forward, those things that cannot kill you will eventually make you stronger.