Freud, the most famous psychologist in Vienna in the 20th century, said: "Everything we do originates from two motivations, one is sexual impulse, and the other is becoming The desire of great men."

Professor Dewey, a famous British philosopher, believes that the desire to become an important person is the deepest impulse in human nature.

Lincoln once wrote at the beginning of a letter: Everyone likes to feel respected.

Willim James said: "Human beings are born with a deep desire to be valued."

An important difference between humans and animals is that The desire for a sense of self-esteem.

It was the desire for a sense of self that made a poor clerk in a grocery store who had not received a good education search through the large wooden barrels filled with sundries and dig out the things he had bought for five cents. I read a few law books and made up my mind to study law. Perhaps you are familiar with the name of this poor clerk, he is Lincoln.

This desire for self-esteem also inspired Dickens to write his famous novel and allowed Warren to complete his design. Moreover, because of this desire for self-esteem, Rockefeller accumulated It is the same desire to spend more money than you can spend in a lifetime that makes the rich in the city where you live build other large villas of their own.

Becoming a great philanthropist, or becoming a bandit or robber may be precisely because people have different ways of acquiring self-esteem.

People will deliberately pretend to be sick and weak in order to gain sympathy and attention from others, as well as a sense of self-esteem.

Some experts say that trying to find a sense of self-esteem in a fantasy world that is not found in the cruel and cold reality can drive a person literally crazy.

Swarber (who received an annual salary of one million US dollars) said: "I think the greatest resource I have is to inspire people's enthusiasm and potential. I use praise and encouragement to make everyone's Potential can be fully realized."

"I have had many contacts throughout my life, and among celebrities all over the world, no one has achieved great success in an environment full of criticism, no matter how high his status. , all succeeded in the praise."

His motto is to be sincere in praise and generous in praise.

Most people will pick and choose as much as possible if they don’t like something, and if they like something they won’t say a word.

Andrew Carnegie (Swarber's boss) even praised his colleagues on his tombstone: "Hidden here is a person who knows how to get along with people better than himself."

Alpharetta Lento once said when he was the protagonist in the overlapping play in Vienna: "The feeling of being respected is the soil that nourishes my success and is the most indispensable thing for me. Something."

Paul Harvey said in his TV show Behind the Story that sincere compliments can change a person's life.

Flattery is fake, just like counterfeit money. If you pass it on to others, it will eventually get you into trouble.

General O'Brien's famous saying: The enemy's attack is not terrible, but the flattery of a friend is.

British King George V has a set of six mottos hanging on the wall of Buckingham Palace's study. One of them is this: Don't flatter or accept lowly compliments.

A flattering person will only let others clearly understand what kind of person he is.

Live Walter Emerson said: "No matter what words you use, what you say is self-centered."

Without thinking about specific things, When we have problems, we usually spend 95% of the time thinking about ourselves. As long as we take a minute to look for the advantages in others instead of thinking about ourselves, what we say will no longer be false and can avoid being contrary to our intentions. of flattery.

Every one of us is an ordinary person who desires praise. This is reasonable warmth, and it is an enjoyment that everyone in the world should have.

We cannot change others by hurting them.

The old adage goes like this: I only live once, so I have to show kindness and beauty to others now. I can't slack off or procrastinate, because I only live once.

Self-thinking: Each of us is self-centered, and we cannot change others by hurting others. Through heartfelt praise instead of verbal flattery, we can gain our What you want can also give others a sense of self-esteem. This is a win-win approach.