The ancients once had a famous saying, "Be close to the teacher and believe in the way." It profoundly and incisively explains the important role of a harmonious and harmonious teacher-student relationship in teaching activities. Soviet educator Khomlinsky once wrote, "There is a harmonious relationship between teachers and students that favors and respects each other, which will be conducive to the completion of teaching tasks." Today, in building a harmonious society, establishing a harmonious teacher-child relationship in kindergarten education and teaching is of great significance to the growth and development of children. Therefore, to achieve success in early childhood education, it is necessary to create a relaxed and harmonious educational environment based on equality and respect. As a new generation of novice preschool teachers, they must possess a series of conditions such as higher teacher professional quality and teacher accomplishment. The only disadvantage of novice teachers is that they have no experience, so they don’t know how to deal with many things. When facing a group of cute children, do you want to be friendly like friends, or do you want to act like a teacher and prevent the children from bullying you? This becomes the most difficult problem for novice teachers. By reading books, I got some solutions, but they were not fully applicable. So, I asked experienced teachers and investigated through various channels, and I have summarized some solutions to this problem.
1. Question raised:
Love is the soul of education, and trust is the foundation of education. Without a good teacher-child relationship, there will be no successful education. The concept of building a harmonious teacher-child relationship should be: teachers have a sense of respect and cooperation, guide children to actively participate in educational activities, so that children can acquire knowledge, develop abilities and shape their personality in the activities. Specifically, the core of a harmonious teacher-child relationship is: "Teachers can truly communicate with children on the same plane." There is an equal relationship between teachers and children, and there is no distinction between high and low. In the activities organized by teachers, children develop themselves comprehensively through cooperation with others, so that every child can feel his or her own value. The joy of spiritual growth.
Most teachers who first come to kindergarten choose their own instructors as their basic reference for activities and teaching behaviors that they identify with. The purpose is to hope that I can adapt to the education and teaching work in kindergarten as soon as possible. For those of us who have just entered the kindergarten as an intern, we are a novice teacher, full of passion and energy, hopes and dreams. But I don’t have any experience to talk about. Sometimes I play with the children like children and make friends with them; sometimes I educate them like a teacher and give them some criticism. In this way, how can novice teachers do it correctly? Dealing with the issue of relationships with young children.
2. The existence of the problem and the answer in the book
We often encounter various illegal behaviors of children in the class, and we are often troubled by these behaviors. But worry is not the solution to the problem. I found the chapter "Handling Behavioral Problems in Young Children" in the book. I couldn't wait to open this page. The book taught me that we must face this situation rationally. Behavioral problems in young children.
First of all, the teacher must have the ability to clarify the ownership of the problem. When the teacher clarifies the problem and determines that it is a personal problem for the child, it can be dealt with privately. If multiple children have the same problem, the whole class can discuss it together. Older children always want to be encouraged and praised by the teacher in front of all children. If they criticize individual children in front of everyone, it will have an impact on their mood in the kindergarten.
Secondly, we need to understand the reasons why young children develop this problematic behavior. Children may have this behavior due to many reasons. Teachers should deal with the real cause of the problem to avoid falling into the trap of superficial phenomena.
When dealing with problems, we must follow the general principles of handling behavioral problems: 1. When a problem first occurs, correct it in a timely manner or make immediate corrections as appropriate to avoid the spread of the problem. 2. Deal with children’s behavioral problems with the purpose of solving the problem. In practice, we should deal with "things" rather than "people". Teachers should avoid using words that threaten, tease or abuse young children. 3. Teachers are role models for children. If teachers behave inappropriately, they should apologize. 4. Use more encouragement and less punishment. For example, encourage children to accomplish something by themselves when they grow up, praise children for helping their friends, etc. This not only serves as a positive example, but also reduces the chance of negative behaviors.
5. After the teacher understands the cause of the problem, if the teacher finds that the problem is due to immaturity of the child, slow learning pace, family problems, or a desire for attention, etc., the teacher should keep in touch with the parents and choose the appropriate child based on the real cause of the problem. Strategies to be coached. 6. Teachers should record, evaluate, summarize and improve various processing processes from time to time.
3. Establish a harmonious teacher-child relationship
(1) Generally speaking
1. Integrate love, patience and carefulness
As a kindergarten teacher, you must be loving, patient, and careful. Young teachers have just stepped out of their student days, and they are still like a child who is still childish. It is inevitable that they will be thoughtful at work, but for young children, they must try to be more thoughtful in everything, and they must not be careless in the slightest. Therefore, in our work, we must: first of all, humbly ask experienced teachers for advice and clarify the guidance points in each link of daily life. Before entering the class, go through each link in your mind, what should be done, and how to do it, so as to avoid being confused and overwhelmed during the class leading process. Secondly, you must take the time to fully understand the children in your class, learn to observe, and pay attention to childcare work. Gradually achieve a thorough understanding of every child in the class, such as: appetite size, attachments, and special living habits; you must also gradually understand the children's movements or expressions, and understand the meaning expressed by their body language. …While understanding the child’s health status and psychological needs, we help the child successfully adapt to the collective life of the kindergarten, making parents feel at ease, satisfied and at ease. We must also work hard to do a good job in class management. To be a careful teacher, you must also manage the kindergarten items and children's clothing and supplies, and cooperate with the class teacher to establish the rules of daily life in the class with the children, such as where to put the toys? What kind of environment can be created so that children can organize their own clothes and take care of their own small school bags? ...In short, in addition to creating a relaxed and warm family-like atmosphere for children, we also need to help children gradually develop a sense of rules and standardized behaviors, so that kindergarten life becomes happy and orderly.
At the same time, we must also work as partners with parents to communicate in a timely manner about their children's situation. If you are a caring person in your daily life, you will clearly understand the situation of your children and communicate with parents in a timely manner. You need to make parents feel that you have their children in your eyes, that you are clear about their children's development and understand their children, so that they will respect you and recognize your work. Sincerity is very important for new teachers. Even if there are some minor problems or oversights at work, they must communicate with parents in a timely manner to gain understanding and knowledge. Gradually, we must learn to guide parents to raise children scientifically, bring parents' love for their children and teachers' love for their children into the same healthy track, and jointly cultivate strong young seedlings with harmonious physical and mental development.
2. Be a teacher that children like and respect
The age gap between new teachers and children is small. It is easy to get along with the children and like to chat with them in their free time. Talk about their costumes and play with their toys; so the kids enjoy it. But if you like them, you should know what to do at what time, and what things should only be talked about during free time, morning kindergarten time, or after school. Never joke with them during normal educational activities. We must make the children feel that the teacher loves them, but the teacher has requirements for them. If they do bad things, the teacher will be angry... We must also have every child in our eyes. Young teachers often favor the individuals they like. Children, you should keep your likes in your heart and never show them in the group. Don't think that children are young and ignorant. In fact, their little minds are extremely sensitive. Favoritism is not only harmful to the children, but also to the children who are favored. It will also affect your daily work. Only by making them feel that the teacher loves each of them can you become a good teacher that children respect.
(2) Starting from the concrete situation
1. Emancipating the mind and changing concepts are prerequisites for establishing a harmonious teacher-child relationship
Due to historical reasons, Many people call preschool teachers "aunties" and "senior nannies", which one-sidedly emphasizes the responsibility of preschool teachers to care for children, thereby neglecting the role of preschool teachers in educating children. I think the root cause of this situation lies in our educational ideas. deviations and improper educational behavior. Therefore, the prerequisite for a harmonious teacher-child relationship is a change in concepts.
(1) Establish an educational concept suitable for the growth of children in the new era
After entering kindergarten, children's "independence" increases and they are at another stage of budding self-awareness. Although they are still very young, they also yearn for equality, friendship, and understanding. They believe “I can do it.” Adults often ignore the existence of their independent consciousness, which is harmful to their self-esteem. Therefore, it often causes children to contradict their parents, ignore teachers, be dissatisfied with their friends, and sometimes even cry endlessly. Therefore, teachers as educators should be good at guiding, exploiting strengths and avoiding weaknesses, and cater to their interests. Let them learn to restrain themselves and blend into the environment. Of course, this kind of education method is conditional. Only with a harmonious environment can this effect be achieved. Today’s young children are well-informed and often ask questions beyond their imagination. Gone are the days of early childhood education where you “watched” your children. As a teacher, you should adjust your mentality in a timely manner and be sure to reflect on your educational behavior in a timely manner to avoid negative impacts caused by improper educational methods. We should proactively adjust our behavior towards children so that the teacher-child relationship interacts and forms a new teacher-child relationship that is equal, positive, and conducive to the development of the teacher-child relationship.
(2) Establish a new concept of children that is compatible with children's psychology
When children enter the first day of kindergarten, their lives enter a new stage. For young children, this is the preparation stage before they enter formal schooling. Based on this, we educators should put ourselves in the shoes of children to experience and understand what children are doing. They hope to get the attention, attention, care and encouragement of teachers. We should also see that young children are independent individuals. They have strong self-confidence and self-esteem, and show strong personality and uniqueness. Regardless of whether children are smart or mentally retarded, obedient or naughty, they must be treated with sincerity, love and care.
2. The basis for establishing a harmonious teacher-child relationship is first to create a good teacher image
Teachers must establish a good image among children to make themselves admired and admired by children. Children feel that their teachers are great and have a good impression of them. Only then are they willing to get close to their teachers. Only then can a harmonious teacher-child relationship be established. (1) Teachers must strictly demand themselves and form a highly responsible work style (2) Create a good external image that is consistent with the speech and behavior of preschool teachers (3) Master skills and techniques must be comprehensive and can be flexibly used in different fields (4 ) should strengthen learning, improve their cultural quality, and adapt to the requirements of the new era.
3. Equal communication between teachers and children is an important way to establish a harmonious teacher-child relationship
A harmonious teacher-child relationship is formed on the basis of full communication between teachers and children. As children grow older, they have preliminary analytical skills and the ability to judge right and wrong, and they have their own immature views on the teacher's words and deeds, so their requirements and acceptance of teachers are also different. In response to these situations, I think that to establish a harmonious teacher-child relationship, we must: (1) Give every child the opportunity to express his or her own opinions. (2) Understand the psychological characteristics of children of different ages, talk with children in a kind manner, and be easy for children to accept. (3) When children make mistakes, they should provide help and care instead of blaming them, and give them a chance to explain and make corrections. (4) Get along well with parents of young children
4. Integrate harmony in education and harmony in the environment
The educational activities in kindergartens are two-way activities between teachers and children. Teachers and children carry out psychological communication on emotions, interests and abilities through activities. Teacher love is the bridge that establishes a harmonious teacher-child relationship. Only when the teacher-child relationship is in a harmonious atmosphere of care and equality can children easily face teachers, boldly engage in activities, and experience the fun brought by educational activities. , feel the joy of activities. Different children should have multiple ways to express love: Be good at using multiple forms of praise during activities, such as small stickers, a smile, etc.
(2) Teachers’ care and love for them should be reflected at all times in their daily lives.
(3) Reasonable use of body language.
The book "Teacher Etiquette" mentioned that body language has the effect of "moistening things silently" in establishing a harmonious teacher-child relationship.
A. Eyes are the windows to the soul. The use of eyes can enable teachers and children to achieve a state of "understanding and understanding" in silent communication. It is a bridge and bridge to establish and maintain a harmonious teacher-child relationship. link.
B. Gestures can both convey thoughts and express feelings, and can increase the persuasiveness and appeal of teachers’ vocal language.
C. Facial expressions express the teacher's emotions and intentions. Only when teachers are full of emotions and amiable can they give children a natural and bright feeling, which helps to form children's positive and happy mood.
3. Several issues that should be paid attention to in establishing a harmonious teacher-child relationship
1. Pay attention to the combination of strictness and love
The key to a harmonious teacher-child relationship , it depends on the teacher correctly handling the dialectical relationship between "love" and "strictness". I believe that teacher love does not mean maternal love, and strictness does not mean being powerful. In strict requirements and passionate love, we must be strict when we are strict, and love in the subtleties. Only in this way can we win the respect of young children (although they are very young, today's children are very insightful and sensitive) and win the trust and support of parents. Teachers cannot favor children with good performance, nor can they dislike children with poor performance. For young children, the teacher's strictness and love must be fair and equal.
2. Think more about empathy
As a preschool teacher, we are required to have strong observation skills. We must put ourselves in the shoes of children to experience their thoughts and feelings, and often put ourselves in the position of children to think and experience. According to the psychological characteristics of young children, we constantly adjust our educational content and methods.
3. Continuously improve one's own quality
Because children are young, sometimes situations occur that teachers cannot predict. Therefore, we are required to teach kindergarten teachers to try our best to avoid problems when they arise. Panic, calm and calm. In normal times, we must pay attention to continuously strengthening our self-cultivation and equip ourselves with good qualities, so that we can remain calm in the face of battle and deal with surprises. This mentality is a prerequisite for dealing with unexpected events.
Respect leads to equality, and harmony leads to relaxation. Harmony is the greatest characteristic of all beautiful things. Harmony is the best state of things. "Harmony" and "harmony" are the best combination and are people's pursuit. The construction of a harmonious teacher-child relationship in the new era has a wide scope of extension, a very detailed connotation, and many ways and methods. However, as long as we start from the "heart", we have a love, a childlike innocence, a sincerity, and a With a tolerant heart, we will have a harmonious teacher-child relationship, our children will have a happy childhood, and harmony will always be by our side.
Love is the soul of education, and trust is the foundation of education. Without a good teacher-child relationship, there will be no successful education. The concept of building a harmonious teacher-child relationship should be: teachers have a sense of respect and cooperation, guide children to actively participate in educational activities, so that children can acquire knowledge, develop abilities and shape their personality in the activities. Specifically, the core of a harmonious teacher-child relationship is: "Teachers can truly communicate with children on the same plane." There is an equal relationship between teachers and children, and there is no distinction between high and low. In the activities organized by teachers, children develop themselves comprehensively through cooperation with others, so that every child can feel his or her own value. The joy of spiritual growth.