The blessings given to us by others are not long-lasting and unreliable. Everyone's biggest backer is actually himself. Believe that fate is in your own hands. We must be self-affirming, self-enterprising and self-seeking. If a person can't rely on himself, it is easy to be knocked down by others.
Then, in life, what qualities must you have in order to be stable and far-reaching, and to be a person who will not be easily defeated?
First, the backbone should be hard.
What do you mean, have backbone? Mencius in the Warring States period had a few very good words: "Wealth cannot be lewd, poverty cannot be moved, and powerful people cannot be bent. This is called a gentleman. " It means that high officials and rich people can't be bought, poverty and hardship can't be tortured, and violent force can't be threatened. This is the so-called gentleman. What the gentleman said here did is called backbone today.
A man of backbone will never bow to any difficulties, be indomitable and indomitable, stand any fright, overcome any difficulties and forge ahead.
People with backbone are respected, trusted and valued. A man of backbone will not be knocked down by others.
Second, the endurance is strong.
People need strength so that they won't be knocked down by others. The most important thing is the power of patience. People with strong endurance will not be influenced by one person's words at a time, and of course they will not be easily knocked down.
There is a saying in Su Shi's On Chao Cuo: "Those who made great achievements in ancient times; Not only talented people; Also have perseverance. " Since ancient times, people who have achieved great things have not only outstanding talents, but also perseverance.
Xunzi's exhortation to learn also emphasizes: "Perseverance; Rotten wood cannot be carved; Perseverance; Jinshi can be embarrassed. " If you stop carving a few times, then the rotten wood will continue to carve. If you insist on carving, then this stone can be carved successfully.
Marathon runners must rely on endurance to reach the finish line. In any competition, besides winning by skill and equipment, endurance is your main strength to beat your opponent.
Third, have courage.
People who have no courage and are weak by nature are just "frightened birds." For them, any trouble in their career and life may be a catastrophe and a disaster, which is enough to make them feel uneasy all day long.
Those who are brave enough to meet challenges can turn miracles into reality and the impossible into possibilities.
A person, as long as he has courage, has the power to break through all difficulties and obstacles; You can fight against fate fearlessly; You can collect the torrent of soil and rush into the sea.
Pine, bamboo and plum have to pass the test of frost, rain and snow. Why should a person bow to difficulties? Why should we be willing to be defeated by suffering?
To be a man, you must have courage and fight against difficulties. Courage is the first bridge to success. Only those who go forward bravely will be invincible.
Fourth, look far.
How far a person can go is not by his eyes, but by his eyes. Some people can make a steady and far-reaching impact and will not be knocked down in the middle, just because they have courage and foresight.
A person with a long-term vision has a sense of pattern, looks high and far, and does not care about temporary gains and losses. They can not only take the initiative to attack and seize the opportunity, but also advance and retreat moderately, with or without it. Even if I encounter setbacks and blows, I still firmly believe that the rain and snow will always stop and the spring breeze will definitely come.
Such a person can not only weigh the immediate interests well, but also be good at planning the future and have far-sighted thinking about the future. Then, in the journey of fighting life, how can we easily lose the battle?
Fifth, the pace should be steady.
A walker went up the mountain to study, staring at the distant mountain, thinking that he must arrive before sunset.
So I stepped up, but I accidentally tripped over the stone under my feet and broke my head. Finally, I had to limp and couldn't arrive on time.
The pace is unstable, haste makes waste. Sometimes, it is possible to make a mistake again and again and become a lifelong regret.
Rushing is the rhythm of this era, full of anxiety, and it is the living state of people in the torrent of the times. A true master has long since got rid of anxiety and impetuousness. They all know the importance of "stability". But in this mixed society, there are still many people who are defeated by emotional instability, unstable ability and unstable position.
To be a man, you must stand on your own feet so that you won't stumble. Some powerful people, corrupt and corrupt, finally caught the news crashing, not so much others as themselves.
Sixth, be confident.
The power of confidence lies in that even in adversity, it can help you raise the sail of progress; The greatness of self-confidence lies in that you can summon up the courage to live even if you encounter misfortune.
Confidence is an eternal flame hidden in the heart, and it is the internal driving force to ensure the success of pursuing goals throughout life. Self-confidence is power and self-confidence is wealth. A person should have confidence in his words and deeds, his actions and his career.
If you lack confidence in yourself, you are afraid of wolves before and tigers after, and you are afraid that leaves will fall and break your head, then you don't need others to knock you down, and you will automatically fall down. This kind of life can always get out of the wonderful scenery?
Summary: It's really not easy to be steady and steady in the world without being defeated by fate or others. Because after birth, people will gradually feel many problems in the world, such as birth and death, wealth, troubles, gains and losses and so on. Behind these problems, there are traps and traps everywhere. A slight carelessness may cost a man the battle.
"As long as the bow sits firmly, you are not afraid of waves coming and going." As long as a person has six characteristics, such as hard back, strong endurance, courage, far-sightedness, steady steps and firm confidence, it is easier for him to avoid being framed, and it is easier to cross obstacles and waves to reach the other side of success.