The first point: a kind woman.
Some men like a woman and will never judge her by her appearance. Because the beauty of appearance is only the superficial form of temptation of a woman, if he needs this woman to be his wife, what he will consider most is the kindness of this woman's character. Because when you marry a beautiful woman as your wife, there will always be a time when your beauty will age. What’s more, if the couple spends time together day and night, the beauty in the image will inevitably fade a lot, just like putting a bouquet of the most beautiful flowers in a vase. You may still be interested in admiring it for one or two days. When this bouquet of flowers really withers, will you still be in the mood to appreciate it? Therefore, what a man really needs is a woman who can give him warmth, consideration and caress.
Kindness, as an excellent quality of women, is an expression of their conduct in the world, a side of their personality that embodies their charm, and it is their unique temperament that truly attracts men. In the eyes of men, women should be kind. As the saying goes, "People are inherently good by nature." Even if a kind woman is not beautiful or eye-catching in appearance, her every move shows the richness and depth of her heart. If a woman has a kind heart, she will be very considerate and become very emotional. She can be frugal but unchanging, and she can be aggrieved without losing her self-esteem. A kind-hearted woman will not blame others or be full of complaints. Even if she gets old one day, her kind heart will never be barren.
The second point: a confident woman.
Of course, for men, women need to be confident in addition to being kind.
Men hope that they will be energetic because of their connotation and sexy and beautiful because of their confidence. In this competitive society, women who feel sorry for themselves, are weak and helpless are increasingly losing their market. Men are no longer the masters of women, and women are no longer men’s vassals. The famous saying "The ultimate pursuit of men is success, and the ultimate pursuit of women is happiness" is increasingly eclipsed. It is always most important for a woman to learn self-rescue and self-improvement, and a confident woman can fight setbacks tenaciously. In the face of setbacks, she can quickly adjust herself to restore herself to her best condition, which is a modern way of survival. A confident woman may not necessarily look like a fairy on the outside, but the calm look she reveals in her heart and the faint smile hanging on the corner of her mouth are enough to make her beautiful and radiant! Only when a woman has confidence can she appreciate herself, and only when she has confidence can she become elegant and noble.
Of course, in real life, some women put themselves in a position of begging for affection from the beginning. In fact, the root of the tragedy is often here: you are not confident in yourself, how can others Value you? Men are often like this: if you value him too much, it means that he can easily dominate your feelings and happiness! At this point you lose first. Because relationships are the most important thing about respect and equality...
The third point: a woman who is independent and independent.
In the eyes of men, women should be independent in doing things. Psychologists analyze that women often have emotions that trump reason, and the same applies to friendships, careers, and marriages. This is a fatal weakness that hinders women's development.
A girl working in Shenzhen, while other working men and working girls have lost themselves in the impetuousness and prosperity of modern cities, she still maintains her pure character of a farm girl. In her dormitory, almost all the other girls have made boyfriends, but she is the only one who is still a "single noble". She told a friend in her hometown: "I won't like men in Shenzhen, because my roots are not there. I just want to earn some money, some to send to my family, and some to keep for myself to buy a dowry. Of course I will find someone in the future." Boyfriend, but I will go home and find a decent man. Some of my sisters are not willing to work as blue-collar workers on the assembly line and rack their brains to become a sugar daddy. Can I just want to be happy on my own? Work hard to make money, and then go home and live a peaceful life. "This kind of independent woman who can clearly examine herself based on reality is also a lovely woman in the eyes of men.
In the eyes of men, women should be independent. Of course, this kind of independence is not the kind of woman who holds high the red flag and resolutely fights against men. Independence is a very high state, which requires a high-quality mentality and new values. For women who live in the spiritual world, if they lack a sense of independence, the whole person will become very gray. Men will not have a long-term good impression of such women and will betray them sooner or later.
Point 4: A well-intentioned and understanding woman.
In the eyes of men, women should be kind and understanding. The kindness mentioned here refers to nothing more than a woman's gentleness, but it is better to change gentleness to kindness here. Men like women's tenderness, because women's tenderness can warm their hearts. However, tenderness sometimes seems to be a kind of unprincipled love. A woman's love for a man who is not worthy of her tenderness is, to a certain extent, fulfilling the man's sin. Love should be moderate and be kind. Therefore, a good woman only needs to be kind to men. If a woman loves too much, a man will not know how to cherish her. In this era, men are no longer accustomed to being fixed in a small room, so women should learn to adjust themselves and not be trapped by love blindly, so that feelings replace all of life. Smart and optimistic women can often try to make their hearts understandable and let love move towards solidity and eternity in a kind of plainness.
An intellectual woman, she loves her husband deeply, but when she loves her husband, she also does not forget to cherish herself. Her husband does business abroad all year round, but their relationship is very harmonious and there has never been a slight crack. Someone asked: Aren't you worried that he is looking for flowers and willows outside? The lady replied: My love with him has always been equal. From the day I accepted his love, I gave him trust. I loved him but was not demanding of him. I wanted him to be successful and perfect, but I never mortgaged everything on him. What am I worried about? In fact, sometimes, feelings are like this. If you look at it openly, it is the best way to grasp it.
It can be said that men will naturally feel cute about a woman who is insightful and thoughtful. Because when a man falls in love with a woman, he does not want to lose his own world under the constraints of love. Men care about the tacit understanding, tolerance and understanding of love. Because this kind of love does not prevent men from venturing into life with physical and mental release - after all, in the eyes of men, love does not represent the whole of life.
Point 5: A wise and knowledgeable woman.
In the eyes of men, women should be full of wisdom (of course, they still have to know how to act stupid when getting along with men). Smart women know which matters of principle are important and which are trivial family matters, treat everyone around them with confidence and tolerance, exude the unique charm of women in the ordinary, and will never care about things. Everything keeps a man in line with himself.
Many women always like to draw the conclusion from the sentence "It is a virtue for a woman to have no talent" that as a woman, you should not be too smart or capable, otherwise you will not be welcomed by men. In fact, this is a wrong concept. The wife is smart and capable, and can bring infinite glory to her husband, and it can also satisfy a man's vanity. Why is he unhappy? Just imagine, how many beautiful women in history have become even more charming because of their rare talents? Lin Huiyin, a talented woman in the history of modern literature, is an example. At that time, the famous poet Xu Zhimo pursued her desperately because of her talent, and this talent made her exude an irresistible temptation of beauty. However, he failed in the end, which made Xu Zhimo depressed.