If a child is a seed, parents are the land.

No matter whether the land is barren or fertile, it is a precious resource for the seed of a child!

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We can look at the newborn baby mammals. They all need the care of their parents, and we humans are the same, except that the attachment period of human babies is longer and they need the care of their parents. There will be more care.

It is precisely because children need the care and guidance of their parents that there is a saying that "it is the fault of the father if he fails to educate."

Because when children are just born, their parents will take care of them all the time. But as the children grow up, they need to learn survival skills. To survive in society, they need to abide by social rules.

So who is going to teach children this social rule?

The answer is: Parents need to teach their children how to abide by social rules.

What will happen if the child does not obey the rules of society?

Just imagine, if you don't obey the traffic rules when passing a traffic light, the result will be...

Children's healthy and happy growth cannot be separated from the care and guidance of their parents.

Similarly, we live in this society, and the environment will also have a certain impact on the growth of children.

"Xi Meng's mother chose a neighbor." Mencius's mother moved three times in order to provide Mencius with a good learning environment.

It can be seen that the surrounding environment has a certain impact on children.

"Life is upward." We must also believe that children are working hard and give them opportunities to learn and grow, even if they do not do well or are not perfect. It doesn't matter, they will continue to learn experience from failure and make themselves grow better! [Struggle][Lovely] The importance of family education to children

A child's growth is inseparable from three aspects of education: family education, school education and social education. The family is the child's first "school", and parents are the child's first "teacher." The success of family education is the key to whether the child can grow up healthily and study seriously. With the continuous progress and development of society, family education is increasingly valued by more and more people. American psychologist Howard Gardner has a wise saying: Every child is unique, and even ordinary children will become extraordinary people as long as they are educated properly. It can be seen that family education plays an important role in children's growth. It is a common mentality of parents to hope that their children will become dragons and their daughters will become phoenixes, but often due to improper education methods, children cannot become dragons or phoenixes. Seriously, go the other way. The importance of growing environment for children.

Swedish educator Ellen Kay pointed out: The environment plays a very important role in a person's growth. A good environment is the basis for children to form correct ideas and excellent personality. What's more, some people think that modern early childhood education is actually environmental education. It can be seen that the environment plays an important role in the growth of children.

Over the years, most of the children I have encountered who are ill-bred, disobedient and difficult to discipline come from single-parent families. Therefore, as parents, we must create a warm and harmonious growth environment for the healthy growth of our children. The importance of parental companionship to children's growth

1. Parenting Experts say: From zero to three years old, emotions are a bank, and the company of family members is like depositing money into a child's emotional bank.

Indeed, when parents give birth to children, they have the responsibility to accompany and raise them. Spending time with your children every day will bring you happiness, gratitude, and a sense of security in their hearts.

On the contrary, if the baby often cries alone in bed without anyone to hold him or comfort him, he will feel fearful and uneasy in his heart. This fear of insecurity will accompany the child throughout his life. In the future life, the child will have inner feelings. You will be in a state of insecurity and low self-esteem.

In fact, the family education, growing environment and parental companionship mentioned by the subject are closely related and difficult to separate. Among them, family education and parental companionship are part of the child's growth environment.

Parents cannot follow their children forever, but they can influence them throughout their lives. What follows a child throughout his life is the family education of his parents.

Some people say that in the growth process of a child, there is no education more powerful and influential than the education of parents. In order to raise outstanding children, parents must lead by example. Only by constantly improving themselves and mastering excellent educational skills can parents educate the most outstanding children!

In fact, the art of education is all within the parents’ control. If you are not careful, you will fall into educational misunderstandings. Numerous facts have also proven that parents’ use of wrong education methods can lead to children’s rebellious psychology. Parents’ improper education and requirements have affected children’s physical and mental health.

Good family education can enable children to have stable emotions; a sound and perfect personality; a noble character; good interpersonal skills and ability to deal with problems.

Similarly, poor family education can lead to children's emotional instability, such as irritability, impulsivity, anxiety, depression, etc.; they are also prone to personality defects, such as stubbornness, sensitivity and suspicion, loneliness, low self-esteem, and lack of self-control. , poor social adaptability, etc.

Just like the author writes in the book "What Children Learn from Life": "If a child lives with criticism, he will learn to blame; if a child lives with comfort, he will learn to Fighting; if a child lives with fear, he will learn to worry; if a child lives with regret, he will learn self-pity; if a child lives with ridicule, he will learn to shrink; if a child lives with suspicion, he will learn to be jealous ............”

Therefore, family education is the most important foundation for a child’s life. There is no doubt about the importance of family education.

For most people, in the initial stage of their growth, their main influence comes from the family, especially the upbringing of the family. At this stage, what is more important is the formation of a good attachment relationship, that is, the child must establish a stable, healthy, and trusting attachment relationship with a caregiver. It could be a parent, it could be a grandparent, or even someone else. We used to think that it would be disadvantageous for parents to entrust their children to grandparents. This view is worth questioning. As long as there is a relatively stable attachment object during the growth stage, all of its needs can be met, and the child's physical and mental development will usually not be harmed. Since Chinese family education is mostly experiential, and parents have not received much professional education and training in the process of raising children, there will be relatively large differences in parents' parenting concepts and behaviors, which will have an impact on their children. Also very different. The family is the first environment for children to grow up. The influence of the environment cannot be ignored, and sometimes it even plays a more critical role. But it’s not entirely complete. For example, we often say that children of poor people become masters early. This is because the environment forces children to mature and become sensible earlier. There is a common sense educational point of view called "Companionship is the best education"

This point of view generally means that no matter what, parents should accompany their children in their free time to play, study, socialize, go on outings, etc., so that Children grow up healthily with the company of their parents. There is nothing wrong with this point of view, but the problem is that not all parents can provide quality or effective companionship. Companionship itself is also knowledge, and it is not just about staying with their children. It requires parents to invest time, emotion, psychology, behavior, etc., have more interactions with their children, and need to participate in activities and spend time with their children. Rather than simply watching the children from the side.

This is meaningful from the perspective of individual development, because children can first develop a sense of security from the company of their parents, secondly they can learn to communicate and interact well with others other than themselves, and finally they can learn some behavioral rules. Therefore, quality and effective companionship is the best education. In addition to external factors, a person's own influence on growth and development cannot be ignored

Of course, good family education or environment or companionship will definitely be beneficial to the growth and development of children. However, the impact of family education, family influence, and parental companionship on a child's life varies from person to person. Everything is possible!

Some children spend their entire lives trying to make up for the psychological trauma their family of origin has brought to them; some children spend their entire lives enjoying the spiritual wealth that their family of origin has brought to them. This is where the importance lies.

People are always forgetful, so why can’t we treat our children the way we once longed to be treated? When I was very young, I thought it would be great if I could grow up all at once. I wanted to know what adults thought; but I was also afraid that I would lose the fun of being a child if I grew up. I struggled with this for a long time...

I remember when I was in elementary school, one night when my parents came home very late, I was so scared to be alone. I squatted in the corner of the door, looking forward to it. A familiar figure appears. When my parents finally showed up, I couldn't help but cry and said to them: "Why don't you come back earlier? I'm so scared to be alone at home!" My mother said in a reproachful tone: You are the youngest in the family and can’t help with anything. We are all at home with you, who will do the work! Although I felt it made sense at that moment, I still felt very aggrieved.

On the road of children's growth, many things appear in ways and angles that we cannot predict, and even push us into a corner. When we see clearly, we find that it is who we used to be. Yes, don't move, just stand at that angle and treat the child in front of you the way you longed to be treated.

Family education, growing environment, and parental companionship are all very important to children and will affect their whole lives, especially parental companionship, which is particularly important. During his campaign for president, Obama never missed a parent-teacher meeting with his children. After becoming president, he has insisted on having dinner with his children every night, patiently answering their questions, and making suggestions for their school activities.

Many parents say that they are too busy to spend time with their children. Are you as busy as the president of a country?

In many cases, being busy should not be an excuse to miss the growth of your children, nor should it be a reason to neglect family management.

Furthermore, the famous British scholar Herbert once said: "A good parent is worth a hundred principals."

More research has confirmed that in families where parents actively participate in child care, children tend to grow better and better.

So, parents, put down your cell phones and excuses, your children’s education really needs you!

So, in what aspects do children in families where parents participate in child care tend to be better?

1. Children whose parents are involved in education are smarter

A latest research result in the United States shows that children who are brought up by their parents have higher IQs and will learn more in school. Achieve better grades and be more likely to succeed in society.

Education experts also agree that fathers have a stronger purpose in educating their children and are more likely to cultivate their children's concentration.

2. Children whose fathers participate in education are more brave

In terms of character development, fathers are better able to educate their children to be independent, decisive, brave and adventurous.

3. Children whose fathers participate in education are more logical.

Mothers are mostly emotional, while fathers are mostly rational.

According to relevant research, fathers have a greater impact on the development of children's mathematical and logical abilities.

Children who get along closely with their fathers usually do better in math.

4. Children whose fathers are involved in education have more gender characteristics

The cooperation between parents in education can set off and contrast each other, and children can better understand the meaning of male and female, so as to Make children's gender roles healthier and make it easier for them to accept their own gender and express corresponding gender characteristics.

5. Children whose fathers participate in education are more creative

From the perspective of education methods, most fathers know how to encourage their children to use their hands more, use their brains more, and set examples. This has Conducive to cultivating children's ability to think for themselves.

And enough fatherly love and companionship allow children to try with a sense of security, making children super creative.

6. Children whose fathers participate in education are less likely to make detours

The role of a father often represents rules and authority. Children who are educated and raised by their fathers tend to know better about obeying rules and respecting authority, so that they take fewer detours.

7. Children whose fathers participate in education know better about persistence

Psychologist Fromm said: Fathers are the ones who educate children and point out the way to the world to them.

According to relevant surveys, at every major turning point in life, children are more likely to think of their father. Father is a spiritual force for them and will make children more perseverant.

8. Children whose fathers are involved in education are more responsible

Because the father is generally the backbone of the family and has to run for the family's livelihood, it is easier for children to have contact with their father. Develop a sense of responsibility.

9. Children whose parents are involved in education are more likely to have children

In general families, the mother does the housework. If the father takes the initiative to share the housework, the child will be more likely to get rid of worldly thinking. Free yourself from constraints and challenge new positions or tasks that ordinary people dare not challenge in your future career, thereby gaining multiple possibilities in life.

10. Children whose parents are involved in education are happier

Some surveys show that the father’s involvement in the family is directly proportional to the happiness of the family.

The father's active participation in family work and children's education will reduce the burden on the other partner, make the couple considerate of each other, and have a harmonious relationship. This provides a good educational growth environment for the children, and the entire family presents a positive In a virtuous cycle, children will feel warmer and happier more easily.

All in all, a child is extremely lucky to grow up under the protection of his father.

The famous humanist writer Montaigne once said with emotion: As a father, the greatest joy is to be able to inspire and educate his children based on the path he has traveled during his lifetime.

Here, Jiao Ma hopes that all fathers can do this and enjoy it.

What’s more important is that if you don’t stay with your child, the child will grow up!

The greatest tragedy in education is that it is only when the child becomes an adult that he suddenly realizes that he has long missed the qualification to be a qualified father.

I have to say a few words about this question.

Personally, I feel that these three points, family education, growing environment, and parental companionship, are intertwined and similar.

For a child, home is his first stop after birth. Everything in the home is his nutrition. His growth cannot be separated from everything in this environment. It has an important influence on the growth of children and cannot be omitted at all. Do you still remember the story of Meng’s mother moving three times? This is something smart parents should understand.

What is family education? The growing environment is family education, the company of parents is family education, and the words and deeds of parents are all family education. In order for children to become talented, the entire system needs to work together to achieve a good result.

Many people believe that family education, growing environment, and parental companionship are separated. This is a big mistake.

As parents, you should be yourself, spend more time with your children when you have time, do your best to create a warm and loving growth environment for your children, and learn more about the theories of educating children. These are all essential.

In general, everything at home is very important.

How important is family education, growing environment, and parental companionship to a child.

To put it seriously, it can affect the child's life; to put it lightly, it can affect the child's adulthood.

It affects a child's life because a person's personality, habits, etc. are often formed in early childhood.

In the early years of life, parents are the role models for children. Courage, responsibility, pursuit, and the ability to love are all slowly learned from their parents in the environment in which they grew up.

Such as the ability to love, if the father does not lack the company of his daughter when he was a child, the child's future interpersonal relationships will be smooth and he will be very confident.

The reason why it affects children into adulthood is that these influences in childhood can also be changed.

As long as you are willing to change and are willing to put in time and effort, you can achieve it, but it will take more time and require more psychological energy. If you can't do it yourself, you can also seek professional help to achieve it.

Therefore, if we can provide children with good family education, a healthy growth environment, and high-quality companionship in the early stages of their lives, we can try to satisfy the children so that their physiological needs, safety needs, and If the need for love is satisfied, the child will have a stronger ability to cope with setbacks in the future and will live a more positive and optimistic life. Best wishes!

Speaking of the three prepositions "family education, growing environment, and parental companionship", in fact, there is a very objective relationship between them, and we really need to clarify it.

My personal opinion is that "teaching" in the family will not directly produce results.

Generally speaking, for a child, no matter how big or old the child is, as long as there are senior parents, the entire family is a cradle of "education". It's just that as the age of the person being nurtured increases, the "nurturing" component becomes smaller and smaller or changes. This is the objective reality of the family environment in which children grow up.

It can be seen that in the two-way activity of "education and education", "education" is the important component that affects children in the family. Therefore, parents should not try to "teach" their children, because you are not the material to "teach" them.

You have to focus on "nurturing" your children or juniors. Of course, this is a very important factor in children's lives.

Then the question arises, what is "education"?

First of all, when children are in the family, parents should create a good growth environment by accompanying their children. However, many people only understand companionship as being in the same space with their children at all times and playing with them. Of course, this is not wrong to a certain extent. But in fact, companionship also has another deeper meaning, which is whether you can do it, whether you are in the same space with your child or not, but still make your child feel that he is always in your heart.

You are like a guiding light for your children's psychology, so that they will not be confused because you are not around.

Secondly, if you want to "teach" more children, do not try to teach them hard knowledge directly by occupying the children's time for compulsory education and normal play, as well as the rest and sleep time that must be guaranteed for physical and mental growth.

In that case, this is stupid behavior.

You should take these steps first: Observe - observe how interested your child is in what you subjectively want your child to learn, and how talented he is; test the waters - through secret recommendations , have a plan to expose children to the target area; ***enjoy - if the first two steps are successful, boldly let the child experience the target area, but do not use a pointer to complete the task, but share the interest with the child , develop a stronger interest.

Of these three steps, no step should be missing. This is actually the method of creating a good nurturing environment, not "teaching".

It is important to use "education" at the best time during the child's growth stage and in a more appropriate way.

Generally speaking, children who lack active "nurturing" from guardians and elders will automatically make up for the lessons when they grow up. This is the law of nature. Later, I was busy with self-education and felt lack of energy, fatigue and weakness, and gradually I was pulled away from a certain distance by society.

At present, this kind of example is still relatively common.