As a father, how should I persuade my son to fall in love prematurely? In fact, the father can try to write a letter to his son and tell him the disadvantages of early love. Below I have compiled a letter from a father to his son who fell in love early. You are welcome to read it.

Sample Letter from a Father to His Puppy Love Son

Son:

I am sixteen years old and still two years away from becoming an adult. Now we are still your legal partner. As your guardian, if you make a mistake (assuming) we will be jointly and severally responsible. Of course, this is not important. Even if you are an adult and you have any difficulties and need help, your parents are and only your parents can be reliable for you. Backup, I say this because I hope you understand why your parents want to regulate your behavior.

You are very smart and excellent. Your teachers and classmates have appreciated you from elementary school to now. But sometimes your advantages are the inducement of your shortcomings. You are getting older and more handsome. , the pursuit of girls is indispensable. Parents are not against you falling in love, but they are against you falling in love now. If you fall in love in college, we are very happy and support it. Why do you do it so secretly now? And let the adults on both sides Worried and strongly opposed. Son, this is not the time to fall in love, just as crops are not the season for sowing. They should be sown in spring. If you sow earlier or later, there will be no harvest. If you sow seeds in winter, they will not grow. Even if the weather is nice and warm for a few days, the seedlings will eventually be frozen to death. If you sow seeds in summer, they will be killed by the sun. Of course, autumn is just a harvest. It’s the season and it’s too late to sow. Spring flowers and autumn fruits, spring sowing and autumn harvest are the laws of nature. If you violate them, there will be no harvest and you will be punished by the laws. At least, your work will be in vain. Your falling in love now is like sowing seeds in winter, there is no harvest. You are both mentally immature now, everything is not stable, and there are many variable factors. Just like you watch TV, are you still interested in Teletubbies and Ultraman that you watched when you were a child? Your perspectives will definitely change as you grow older, gain more knowledge, and change your environment. Yes, why waste energy and youth? In real life, puppy love? There are many people who ruin their lives.

There are vulgar and elegant pursuits in falling in love. The vulgar thing is that both parties say some disgusting words, fearing that the other party will get along with someone else, and want to tie the other party together and never leave. Elegantly pursue the joy of each other's success, encourage each other, overcome difficulties in life and study, be happy for each other's success, and jointly seek happiness in the future. As long as the other person is happy and has no regrets even if they are not together, that is elegance.

Son, every stage of life has a different theme of happiness. In childhood, you enjoy the care of your parents, in your teenage years, you experience the enrichment of studying, in your youth, you indulge in the romance of love, and in your middle age, you embrace the glory of your career. , enjoy family happiness in old age. The mismatch of themes between different age groups is often a tragedy. The high school entrance examination is around the corner, and this precious time should be used to struggle. If you fall in love at this time and cannot extricate yourself, you will be the victim. I think you don’t want to ruin your future on this early love, right?

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Son:

When you see this topic, you will be very surprised, and you may also blame your father: Why did you bring up this topic with me? Did I fall in love prematurely? ? My child, don’t be too worried. You are not in puppy love. Dad believes in you!

The reason why dad brought up this topic with you is because one of my students was in junior high school. The top 5 students in my class and the top 10 students in the school went to District No. 1 Middle School for free because of their excellent performance in the high school entrance examination. But after entering high school, his grades plummeted due to puppy love. Last year, he scored only 496 points in the college entrance examination. Now, he has to go back to high school for tutoring. He regretted it very much, and I felt sorry for him, but everything was a foregone conclusion, so what's the use of regretting it? Seeing him depressed and depressed, my father couldn't help but think of you in the future. Now you are also in the golden years of middle school. Times, dad really doesn’t want you to make the same mistakes as him in the future, plus you defended your puppy love with your mom last week.

Therefore, I feel it is necessary to talk to you about this topic. I hope you can learn from his lessons and grasp the direction of your own life. My child, can you understand your father’s mood?

Besides? Puppy love? This topic is nothing to avoid. It is just a normal physiological and psychological reflection in adolescence. It is influenced by television, the Internet, Due to the influence of books and periodicals, any sane person at this age will develop a liking for the opposite sex. As Goethe said: What girl does not have a child, and what boy does not fall in love? Many celebrities in history also fell in love early. In "A Dream of Red Mansions", Jia Baoyu, Lin Daiyu, and Xue Baochai were only fourteen or fifteen years old when they had a love triangle; Nie Er fell in love in middle school; Goethe was only fourteen or fifteen years old when he was infatuated by the opposite sex. Therefore, "puppy love" must not be equated with bad character or moral corruption, let alone be regarded as a Something evil.

However, this does not mean that you are encouraged to have puppy love. Children, do you know? Puppy love is beautiful, but it is just like green olives, so bitter that it is difficult to swallow. Moreover, once this kind of immature feelings breaks out, it will cause great harm to you who are just in love, as shown in the following aspects.

First of all, "puppy love" affects learning. My father is a teacher. During the teaching process, he often encounters students who are obsessed with the fantasy of love and having sex with each other all day long due to premature love, which makes them unable to devote themselves to study, resulting in academic failure, poor performance, and even tired of studying. For example, the classmate my father mentioned at the beginning is one of them. In fact, in the field of "puppy love", there are many, many people whose endings are more tragic than his. I remember I once saw a piece of news about a top student who excelled in mathematics. In his sophomore year of high school, he won second place in the national mathematics competition. As a result, he became so famous that he received 5 letters at once. The courtship letters from female classmates, one of whom was an entertainment backbone that he had been obsessed with for a long time, were like a stone breaking the sky in the water, making his heart turbulent. After spending several sleepless nights, he finally could not refuse the pure love of a girl. So, they secretly exchanged greetings, and the two boys and girls fell in love. His attention was distracted during class, and he sometimes couldn't complete his homework. In particular, the conflicts and worries in love were entangled in him, which made his normal study more difficult. interference. Inseparable, they often find time to chat and even skip class to go out together, go out to restaurants, and surf the Internet. Amid this emotional turmoil, the study of this top mathematician was like a small boat being tossed around, and his grades went from bad to worse. Seeing that the college entrance examination was coming, he wanted to restrain himself and rush forward, but it was too late. Even though he tried his best, he could not calm down. In the end, he failed the college entrance examination. Seeing his classmates happily receiving the admission notice from the university, he regretted it and was filled with complaints about the girl. As a result, he broke up sadly. Just imagine, if this top mathematician could have grasped himself, he might have been sitting in the university classroom and become an enviable top student. It can be seen that puppy love is unrealistic. The result of puppy love is like a green fruit, which will not have a sweet taste. If you spend energy on falling in love at this time, it is meaningless, and you will definitely leave yourself with lifelong regrets. As the famous writer Liu Qing once said: Although the road of life is long, critical points are often only a few steps away. -Especially when one is young. Both he and you have reached a critical point in life. Don't regret it for the rest of your life because you didn't take these crucial steps.

Secondly, "puppy love" is harmful to your physical and mental health. Research by American scientists shows that young people who fall in love before the age of 17, because they are unable to cope with the emotional distress caused by their first love, will pave the way for mental illness in the future, especially boys. This is because middle school students are in the transitional period from adolescence to adolescence. Their bodies, minds, and thoughts are not yet mature, they have insufficient knowledge and experience, and limited social experience. Their ability to choose and evaluate life and things is still low, and they are still unable to deal with love affairs. Various disputes arise, and once you fall out of love, your immature mind will be greatly harmed, and your spirit will be completely broken. Moreover, it is easy to fall into pain and trouble due to falling out of love or to have lifelong regrets due to emotional impulse. What's more, they may be unable to extricate themselves because of "loving too deeply" and cannot sleep at night, which may lead to some psychological disorders and mental diseases over time. All affect physical and mental health to a certain extent.

In addition, the success rate of "puppy love" is very small.

High school students, after all, are still children, with active and extreme thinking, and unstable emotions. Therefore, this kind of love is often a temporary emotional impulse, which is not solid and short-lived. Someone has made statistics like this: when junior high school students fall in love, the probability of success is 0.0003, that is, out of 10,000 junior high school students who fall in love, only 3 will succeed; when high school students fall in love, the probability of success is 0.002, which is 1,000. When high school students fall in love, only two succeed. This means that when it comes to dating in middle school, there are far more failures than successes. Even if the two get married in the future, their lives will be full of ups and downs and contradictions. Zijun and Juansheng in Lu Xun's "Sorrow" are a good example. Zijun and Juansheng truly love each other, and they broke through many obstacles and came together. , established a common life, but in the end, the two broke up. It's not because of the involvement of a third party, nor because of differences in personality, it's just because they lack an economic foundation. This kind of marriage that is established without being able to solve the problem of food is like a castle in the air that will eventually collapse.

Children, each stage of life has a different theme of happiness. In childhood, you enjoy the care of your parents, in your youth, you experience the enrichment of studying, in your youth, you indulge in the romance of love, and in your middle age, you embrace the glory of your career. , enjoy family happiness in old age. The mismatch of themes between different age groups is often a tragedy. Dear daughter, if "puppy love" really comes to you, then let it bloom in your heart, thank you in your heart, and bury it in your heart! All you can do now is use your efforts to fight for a bright future In the future, you will definitely taste the sweetness and happiness that mature love brings to you! Remember: don’t pick the fruits of autumn in summer.

Daddy who will always love you

XXXX. You are writing this letter to discuss with you the issue of "puppy love" among middle school students. In fact, we have talked about this topic a lot. The reason why I am writing this letter is to clarify my thoughts again. In addition, if If there is any disagreement with you, and it is inconvenient for you to refute it when speaking, you can also write back to Dad and we will discuss it further.

?Puppy love? This word may be very sensitive to many parents. We often see parents of my age asking whether their children have signs of puppy love, either with horror or with awe-inspiring expressions. I understand the worries of parents, but at the same time I also want to say that middle school students? Puppy love? is not a scourge. As long as it is treated correctly and handled properly, it can be turned into the most pure and beautiful memory of youth and cherished. Some education experts say that "puppy love" among middle school students can be seen as "premature practice". It is normal for adolescent children to be interested or even fond of the opposite sex. The so-called "puppy love" may be an appreciation of the other person's character, admiration for the other person's achievements, or maybe they just think the other person is beautiful? That's it. Dad was also young. When I was your age, there was a boy with a round face who could recite poetry. I loved watching him perform and felt that I fell in love with him. But at that time, there were boundaries between boys and girls. (It's very feudal, right). The deskmate must draw a line in the middle and usually don't talk to each other, so it can be said that the father and the boy don't know each other at all. Now I have long forgotten how long that "like" lasted. In short, it feels a bit ridiculous when I think about it now, but it remains in my memory as a beautiful fragment of my boyhood. The "early practice" I just mentioned is a kind of temptation of the opposite sex and a hazy fantasy of love. Adolescence is the first step for a person to move from childhood to adulthood. There is still a long way to go. With the growth of knowledge and experience, cognition will change greatly. Dad was thinking, even if that boy and I could talk and date, would I really marry him? Absolutely not, haha, because there are too many variables.

Let’s talk about why parents should worry and be afraid of puppy love. Adolescence is the stage of schooling, and of course academics should be the main focus. If you put too much energy into emotional aspects, your academic performance will be affected. Of course, dad does not approve of some parents interfering in this, either reprimanding or obstructing it in every possible way. In fact, it may be just an innocent friendship that the children mistake for love. As long as parents guide them correctly, they believe that their children will understand the overall situation and take into account the overall situation. Even if children really like someone, they can make progress together as long as they handle the appropriateness of getting along and encourage each other.

I heard that one year the top students in liberal arts and sciences in the college entrance examination were a couple. I don’t know if this is true. If so, it would be a good story. If two people love each other, they must not be in love with each other and indulge in it every day. In the end, if both of them learn nothing, there will be regrets even if they can get together in the future; if one party has poor self-control, there will be a huge gap in knowledge between the two in the future. It's too big, and the possibility of getting together is slim. After all, two people have to pay attention to a good match.

The second issue that worries parents is about sex. Adolescent children have a preliminary understanding of sex, but at the same time they are full of curiosity. What dad wants to tell you here is that as a boy, you must have a sense of responsibility and know what you can and cannot do.

Finally, Dad wants to tell you what kind of person he wants you to find. Maybe it's too early to talk about this topic, but even when you grow up, you must remember the following four words. This is what your father and I often call "temper and temperament." Living with a good-tempered person will make you feel comfortable and comfortable all your life. No one wants to live a restless life all day long. Also, remember: "A situation is easy to change, but a character is hard to change." If you find that the other person has a bad temper and is petty, don't try to change her, because you simply can't. The so-called "character", of course, refers to a person's quality and cultivation. Dad won't go into details about this. You can also identify this based on your current knowledge and experience.

That’s all.

Bless you, my son.

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