What you must understand at the age of 20.

1. Give up anxiety and keep your feet on the ground

Life is not afraid of slowness, but of stopping. Constant anxiety will only kill our fighting spirit. When you settle down, learn more, experience more and accumulate more. You will find that opportunities, inspiration and good luck will follow. Anxiety also disappeared. There is no road in life in vain, and every step counts.

Learn to be alone and don't try to please others.

Low-quality socialization is not as good as high-quality solitude. Why look for a sense of existence in others? Everyone is an independent individual, and no one has the obligation to be nice to you. In the final analysis, it is not mature enough to be alone, or it is too inferior. So learning to grow is very important to life. Learn to be alone, learn to be strong and surprise everyone.

3. Be ambitious and learn to break through the comfort zone.

Only by leaving the comfort zone can we accelerate our growth. Are you satisfied with lying in bed playing with your mobile phone and having a stable job? Then you never know how many possibilities you have. Bite your teeth and do some uncomfortable things, such as reading books and learning skills. The journey up the mountain is always tiring, but the scenery on the mountain will make you feel that it is worthwhile to pay.

Replace fantasy with action.

If you do it, you're halfway there. Many people indulge in daydreaming and do nothing, so time is wasted in endless daydreaming. Take a step forward and you will find a wider world ahead. Don't stand still and wait for the pie to hit you. What if it's not pie that falls?

5. Keep reading in January.

The advantage of reading a book is that it moistens things silently, and it will slowly moisten things silently. As San Mao said: "Even if you don't remember the book you read, it still exists, in the conversation, in the temperament, in the boundless mind and in the profound spirit. Stick to this for a year, and you will make great changes.

6. Keep exercising for half an hour every day.

If you often have loss of appetite, backache and poor sleep. Then you can keep exercising for half an hour every day. In the long run, you will find that the whole person's state is different. Doing things will be more efficient. For a little fairy who goes on a diet to lose weight, it is better to exercise to lose weight.

7. Get up early and don't stay up late

If porridge is cooked for a long time, it will paste, and people will be bald if they stay up late for a long time. Staying up at two or three o'clock is also brushing your mobile phone to play games. It is better to go to bed early and get up early. Only 20 years old, learn self-discipline. If you go on like this, your eyes will be as black as every night you spend.

8. Learn to praise and affirm others

You release a little more kindness, and the outside world will return it to you. If the chat starts with "No, you are wrong" and "You are not right", the basic chat ends here. I like to deny others, belittle others by highlighting myself, and arouse others' disgust. You can't hide a joke. You know: cheap mouth ≠ joke and praise more, affirm others and get along with others more harmoniously.

9. Be humble and polite to others

I always like people who are simple, sincere and polite. Wherever life goes, there are people and mountains outside. If your emotional intelligence is low and you often put on airs, your road will only get narrower and narrower.

10. Learn to refuse

When you learn to refuse others and learn to answer blows with blows. Instead, I will respect you and even fear you. If you take a person too seriously, it is easy to make the other person not take you seriously; Refuse, not because of meanness, but to prove that we can also have the ability to let go. Learn to refuse and your life will be great.

1 1. Learn to trouble others.

We are always used to doing things by ourselves, big and small, and don't want to bother others, for fear that others will be unwilling or owe others. But when others give themselves trouble, they feel nothing and will help them enthusiastically. In fact, disturbing others is not a bad thing. Proper trouble will also promote mutual feelings. A simple truth: children who cry have candy to eat, and spoiled people have the best life. They are willing to trouble others, and the troubled people are also very happy and even have a better relationship. So sensible girls, try to trouble others, don't do everything yourself.

12. Don't ask questions that Baidu can find.

These questions, once or twice, others are still willing to answer you. If you ask too many questions, you may think you are stupid and unwilling to help you. Learning to ask questions is also a science. Moreover, a person's energy is limited, others have their own things to do, and there is no time to help you solve these small problems. So if you encounter anything, search online first.

13. Rational love, refusing to fall in love.

Both boys and girls refused to lick the dog. Focus on improving yourself is the last word. Ignoring your love, just taking, not taking the initiative, not being responsible, not refusing, not promising, nine times out of ten is deceiving your feelings. Love doesn't come at will, and it can't be forced. Two-way love is the best In addition, in a good relationship, the most important thing is that both sides can maintain their independent personalities and communicate well.

14. Stop swearing

Nobody likes swearing people. Never think swearing is cool. Generally speaking, swearing is ill-bred, and often swearing will make you fidgety, get no respect from others, and make people disgusted. When you often swear, you have automatically divided yourself into the field of swearing. Then the people you meet will not speak very well.

Learn to listen.

People who can listen can become communication experts without any communication skills. People who listen carefully can make others feel cared for, respected and understood. Now the world is too noisy, everyone has a lot to say, but few people listen carefully. Therefore, it is cool to be a person who is willing to listen.

16. Stick to what you like and are good at.

You have to find your place between heaven and earth, and then various forces will come out to push you forward. Find your goal and stick to it, and you will find that everything we do is helping us get better slowly.

17. Keep studying for one hour every day.

Progress every day 1%. After that year, it will be 37.8 times what it is now. And the daily decline is 1%, and one year later it is now 3%. Step by step leads to a thousand miles, and laziness leads to an abyss. So start by studying for an hour every day! Constantly improve yourself and master the skills to learn. Seize every opportunity to get the life you want.

18. Keep an open mind and keep learning.

The more ordinary people, the more closed their minds will be; The better people are, the more open-minded they are. Open thinking means: accommodating different opinions, accepting new things, and learning areas that you have never touched before. Change "I can't" to "I can learn". Always believe that you have more possibilities.

19. Socialize upward and get along with excellent people.

One's circle is very important. People around you influence your aura all the time. Imagine, is it better to study in the dormitory where everyone is brushing their mobile phones and playing games or in the library? So do people. Contact more excellent people, and her good habits will always affect you to become excellent. And you have this idea of getting better, and with hard work, you will get better slowly. Everything is interlocking.

20. Be a positive energy person.

Be a positive person, and the world you see will be more lovely. The best way for people to progress is to be close to those who are full of positive energy. A better way is to become such a person full of positive energy and change to attract more people who need this kind of power.