This book is enduring because of Mr. Carnegie's profound understanding of human nature and his effective prescription for eliminating human weakness. As Carnegie said, "Only 65,438+05% of a person's success is attributed to his professional knowledge. Another 85% is because of his ability to express ideas, lead others and mobilize the enthusiasm of others. " As long as you keep reading repeatedly, it will help you acquire 85% of the abilities you need for success.
After reading this book, you will find that this book is not a general sermon, but a vivid example to reflect the commonness of some aspects of human nature, to help us realize the weakness of human nature, how to deal with people in daily life and how to effectively influence others; How to overcome the enemy of human existence-worry, in order to create a happy and beautiful life; How to better become the master of life, create a happy family, and so on. When we handle these things well, we will get twice the result with half the effort, and aim at these weaknesses and achieve success.
Carnegie was born in a poor agricultural family in the western United States. His boyhood was full of inferiority, frustration, fear and melancholy, and his anxiety was always hidden in his heart. He was laughed at, laughed at and even tried to commit suicide for the rest of his life.
Fortunately, he finally chose to train himself with his own psychological knowledge and common psychological characteristics of human beings, explore and analyze, and be reborn in all kinds of pains, creating and developing a training method that integrates eloquence, being a person, sales and management, which has influenced millions of people of different nationalities and ages and become the "father of success". He became the "father of success".
You know, we should all be brave to be our own masters, and never let ourselves be full of inferiority and frustration. Learn to have an "optimistic and approachable communication concept" and move forward with a positive and sunny attitude. In our daily life and communication with people, we can face our work and life again and enjoy a happy life.
There are too many experiences in the book "The Weakness of Human Nature", so I will share them with you, and take out your little books quickly.
1. What a person shows off is missing.
2. The place where a person cares more is the place where he feels most inferior.
3. Think like a wise man; Speak like a normal person.
People fail not because they have no confidence, but because they can't turn confidence into action and stick to it.
To succeed, you must meet the following conditions: use your desire to improve your enthusiasm, use your perseverance to smooth the mountain, and I believe you will succeed.
6. The process of spiritual maturity is a process of self-discovery and self-exploration. It's hard to understand others unless we know ourselves first.
The saddest thing in the world is that a person has nothing to show off, but his sad inferiority is covered by disgusting arrogance and self-expansion.
8. If you are unhappy, the only way to be happy is to sit up happily, show a happy expression, speak and act. -If your behavior smells of happiness, you can't stay depressed. This little basic fact can bring miracles to our lives.
9. abraham lincoln said: "A great man can't care about others everywhere and spend his time arguing with others; Unnecessary arguments will not only damage his character, but also make him lose self-control. Be as modest as possible to others. It is better to let the dog go first than to compete with the dog for the road. If you are bitten by a dog, even if you kill the dog, your wound will not heal. "
10. Where are your interests and your abilities?
1 1. Fear is mostly caused by ignorance and uncertainty.
12. One of people's natures is that they don't accept criticism from others, always think that they are always right, and like to find various excuses to defend themselves.
13. The most important thing is not whether others love us or not, but whether we deserve to be loved.
14. Many people are not good at communicating with others, mainly because they only talk about things they are interested in, which is boring to others.
15. If you are criticized, please remember that it is because criticizing you will make him feel valued, and it also shows that you have achieved and been valued. Many people are satisfied by blaming people who have achieved more than themselves.
16. Try to get close to those who understand, trust and encourage you, which will have a great influence on your future success.
17. If you admit your mistake before others accuse you. If the other person wants to say something and you say it for him, and he has nothing to say, then you have a 99% chance to get his understanding.
18. The way to cultivate self-confidence is to do what you are afraid to do and get a record of successful experience.
19. Everyone I meet is better than me. I should learn from them in this respect.
For those immature people, they can always find some excuses to cover up some of their shortcomings or unfortunate things.
2 1. What you think you are is not who you really are, but what you think you are and what you will become.
22. Gratitude is the product of great education, and you can't get it from ordinary people; It is human nature to forget or be ungrateful.
23. It seems that there are fewer people who can cultivate their listening ability in silence than those with good personality.
The only way to influence another person in the world is to talk about what he wants and tell him how to get it.
25. The saddest thing in human nature is that all of us are procrastinating and dreaming of the beautiful rose garden in the sky instead of enjoying the roses blooming outside the window today.
Being kind to others is not a responsibility, but a pleasure, because it can improve your health and happiness. When you treat others well, you treat yourself well.
27. Protect other people's faces! What an important question this is! And we seldom think about it. Even if others make mistakes, we are right, and losing face will ruin a person.
28. Many troubles in life stem from our blind comparison with others and forgetting to enjoy our own life.
29. Our fatigue is usually not caused by the work itself, but by worry, tension and discomfort.
30. Hatred can't hurt each other's hair, but it turns their days into purgatory.
People should understand the "weakness of human nature" in life and learn to face human nature.
Every time I read Carnegie's The Weakness of Human Nature, I get new enlightenment. Sometimes I think, maybe I will be happier if I live a little confused, because some things in it are too realistic.
No matter what interpersonal problems you encounter in life, work and study, you can find the answers in this book. It is like a scalpel, cutting all the cancer in your interpersonal relationship, painful and happy.
The weakness of human nature analyzes the weakness of human nature from many aspects, and points out the direction for those who are caught in the dilemma of workplace and life. This means not only you or me, but all of us.
We can't overcome the weaknesses of human nature, but we can see these weaknesses and use them correctly to change our lives.
Be a self-reflective person and constantly meet better yourself. Be smart and make more friends. Be a happy person and laugh at all the hardships in life.