The key to a person's ultimate success is not because he accurately plans his own success, but because he persists.
All academic success depends on only two things-strategy and persistence, and persistence itself is the most important strategy.
Have you heard of it recently:
So, why does the insistence of repeated emphasis suddenly become useless? Maybe you have the same doubts.
Recently, I have a little understanding of what is going on:
This starts with a problem I met when I was running.
Not long ago, when I was running in the morning, I was suddenly scared-afraid that I could not continue to surpass it.
Note: what I'm talking about here is constantly exceeding the limits of my speed and distance, not running or not. Running is definitely to run, because running is to have a healthy body (of course, there are other ways, running is just the way I choose), which is the foundation.
This problem has been bothering me for many days, although I still insist on running as planned every day (my plan is: after training for half a year, I will finish the marathon in three and a half hours. At present, it is 20km, and it is not difficult to pace at 4: 40), but there is always something in my heart to answer me.
In the last article, I analyzed the reason why I always want to run faster and faster-the phenotypic personality is at work. So, I gave up my original plan and prepared to just run and exercise.
Today I will analyze myself: why are you afraid of not insisting?
Everything that needs to be adhered to is difficult, and our brains will instinctively resist difficulties. Just like in the face of danger, the brain will instinctively avoid it without your command at all.
This is the root cause of my sudden fear of not persisting. Because there must be many difficulties in constantly surpassing yourself.
So, what if I use willpower to control this instinctive reaction?
Of course, this is absolutely correct-the brain is your own, and of course you should control it for my use.
However, as we all know:
However, there are many places that require willpower-if you don't choose carefully.
In life, we should not only insist on doing difficult things, but also many things that consume willpower, such as: all kinds of interference, anxiety, choice, emotional control, entertainment and so on. How to deal with so many difficulties with limited willpower is really a problem.
The amount of willpower varies from person to person. Some people are born with strong willpower. Relatively speaking, in the face of difficulties, they can persist for a longer time and have a greater chance of success.
Some people say that willpower is innate. I don't agree with this view. I think, of course, willpower can be improved through acquired training, but this improvement is limited.
For me with general willpower, if I run out of willpower today, then those difficult but important things will be difficult for me to complete, or even if I finish, the efficiency will be very low and the effect will be very poor. This may be the reason why I have never been able to achieve the moment of success.
How to break it?
What you really want to do must be what you like, usually the so-called hobbies.
When doing these things, it is easy for us to get involved because of interest. When I encounter difficulties, I will continue to do it, because I like it and will not consume too much willpower.
For example, Emil Wakin Chau likes singing, so he always sings, sings to the best and sings all his life.
But this kind of interest and hobby is usually innate, and not everyone can find their real interest (the environment has great influence); And some interests are not suitable for the current social environment.
I'm not particularly interested in anything, but a whim at most.
What should we do?
Yes, it's Socrates' famous saying again.
It's really thought-provoking Each of us needs to know ourselves deeply, especially what we really want.
As the first of the three questions put forward at the beginning of Ray Dalio's Principles: What do you want?
Whether it's the brain's instinctive desire or self-pursuit. Is the source of motivation for their own actions.
However, to know what you really want, you need to know yourself and know yourself thoroughly.
I think everyone has a need for growth and progress, just like the evolution of biology, which is irreversible.
I often ask myself a question recently: If tomorrow is the end, what do I want to do most?
There is no doubt that the first one is to meet the closest person.
So if tomorrow is not the end, what if there is still some time? What do you want to do most?
Want to help them grow and progress, want to help them live a better life, don't you?
then what If you are young, you still have a lot of time. What do you want to do most?
Is it not growth and progress? Isn't it better for the closest people to grow and progress through themselves?
Seriously reflect on yourself, and the result of knowing yourself is to understand what you really want. That is growth and progress!
It must be said that playing games is actually the pursuit of growth and progress, and our brains should really feel the joy of growth and progress in games; Although it is in the virtual world, this feeling is really real. In the game, we can usually upgrade quickly, which is equivalent to growth and progress in reality. But the "progress" in the game is much faster, and this progress is timely feedback, which can be seen immediately, and it is not necessary to experience it through slow accumulation as in reality. This may be the reason why many people are addicted to games, because the growth experience brought by games is too timely, and the brain is easily addicted to this experience and never wants to stop.
I used to play games, and sometimes I was even addicted to them. Until I found out that the feeling of growing up was just an illusion, which was not my real experience at all. However, the real growth experience can only come from the real world.
Since growth and progress is what you really want, then take it as the most important and correct thing to do and stick to it.
Incorrect things-things that are not helpful to growth and progress-are completely unnecessary to do, let alone persist in doing them. This is ineffective and a waste, which wastes not only time but also valuable willpower.
However, the right thing is usually what you really want to do; Doing these things often doesn't require persistence. You may just need to keep thinking about what you really want, constantly reflect on what you really want, and then continue to do it, that's all.
As mentioned in the last article, I want to run faster just because I like to express my personality. You might say, I'm running away. Yes, I'm just avoiding things that need to be adhered to but are not important, giving myself more willpower to deal with things that have to be dealt with and not letting them affect things that are really important to me.
I just keep doing the right thing, because that's what I really want to do, and I don't need any persistence at all; There will certainly be many difficulties during this period, because the correct way is to "stay in the stretching zone". That must always be difficult, but only in this way can we do better and better, right? Isn't that what you want?
From this perspective, doing or not doing seems to have little to do with "persistence". The key is whether you want to do it or not, isn't it?
The punch line teacher once mentioned the feeling that "I can't stop at all", which may be that I didn't insist on doing the right thing.
What I have been looking for may be this feeling of "I can't stop at all". So maybe it's true: