? Distance

? Thinking

? Distance includes spatial distance and psychological distance. Psychological distance is not necessarily proportional to spatial distance. Psychological distance reflects human feelings. The distance depends on the closeness of people. Distance produces beauty. Distance can regulate interpersonal relationships. Distance can ensure the normal operation of society. The way to shorten the distance is action. There needs to be a safe distance in interpersonal communication.

　? Topic composition ideas and materials 37 (distance)

? Famous saying

? The furthest distance in the world is not the distance between life and death, but when I stand in front of you, you don't know that I love you.

　? -Tagore

? The voices of chickens and dogs hear each other, and the old and the dead do not interact. -Lao Tzu

? Outgoing and attacking. -The Warring States Policy

? The world is but a little place, after all. -Wang Bo

? If the heart is near, the distant road will be short. -Russian proverb

? The fragrance far away stinks near. -proverb

? Relatives come from afar, but neighbors build walls. -proverb

? Not afraid of thousands of miles away, I am afraid of the partition board. -proverb

? See you every three years, and kill the chicken again; See you three times a day, spit on it. -proverb

? People have thickness, and water has depth. -proverb

? If you don't come to the door for three years, you won't kiss. -proverb

? Tea is cool when people walk. -proverb

? Although the relatives are close, the money is divided. -proverb

? ? Classic material

? The enlightenment of "distance theory"

? (Distance makes beauty)

? The theory of distance was first put forward by Italian aesthetician Ron Girnus. The essential point is that the audience should keep a certain distance from the actors on the stage when watching the play, so as to produce a good aesthetic effect; If it is too close, it will reduce this aesthetic effect. Of course, the distance is too far to achieve this effect. Now the ticket price in the theater depends on the distance, which is the reason. We can see that the fares in the first and second rows and the last rows are much lower than those in the middle rows. It is for this reason that there is a folk saying in China: "You only know the Sao of the sheepfold when you keep it." It also fulfilled this theory. There are also such things as "relatives can only walk, not watch", which is also the reappearance of this truth.

　? Psychological distance in ancient poetry

? (Psychological distance reflects human feelings)

? There are many examples in ancient poems that illustrate that psychological distance can be beyond space distance. Such as expressing love, Li Shangyin's Untitled: "but far beyond my reach is the Enchanted Mountain, and you are on the other side, ten thousand peaks away." The hero conveys his heart to the lover who is hard to meet. Although they are far apart, the hero's love for Iraqis is so close. The fourth part of Yuan Zhen's "Leaving Thoughts": "Once the sea was difficult for water, forever amber. Take a lazy look back at the flowers, half-edge cultivation and half-edge gentleman. " The love has been lost, and the distance between them is far away. However, the deep and single-minded love makes this beautiful feeling vivid. Will the distance of missing be far away? Su Shi's yearning for his dead wife makes people feel the pain at close range: "Ten years of life and death are two boundless. Don't think about it, you will never forget it. " Although the living and the dead are separated forever, the emotional bond is knotted and always exists. Many poems all prove that in the face of unforgettable acacia, there is no distance.

　? However, Wang Bo's "and yet, while China holds our friendship, and heaven remains our neighbourhood" is just in sharp contrast with "a world far away", which proves that friendship can travel through time and space.

　? There are also those that reflect the relationship between kinship and distance, such as Du Fu's Moonlit Night: "for our boy and girl, poor little babes, are too young to know where the Capital is. Her cloudy hair is sweet with mist, her jade-white shoulder is cold in the moon. " Although thousands of miles apart, you can clearly "see" the situation at home. Another example is Li Shangyin's "note on a rainy night to a friend in the north" and Su Shi's "Water Tune"? When will there be a bright moon? ":"I hope people will last for a long time, and thousands of miles will be beautiful. " The distance between time and space has deepened the affection in their hearts, and in their hearts, distance has become no distance. The lovesickness story of Cowherd and Weaver Tianhe shows that distance makes love better and longer.

　? How do poets feel about distance

? (psychological distance and spatial distance)

? Gu Cheng's Far and Near: "You look at me/the clouds/I think/you look at me far away/you look at the clouds very close." Between eyes and eyes, the distance between you and me can't be much longer than the distance between you and the cloud. But why does the poet feel that "when you look at me, it is far away, and when you look at the clouds, it is very close"? The reason is that what the poet wrote is an abnormal life and a distorted interpersonal relationship. In this twisted relationship, everything is upside down. The relationship between people who should be close to each other is alienated by the barrier of heart, which seems so lonely and inaccessible; Because of the alienation of interpersonal relationship, man and nature have narrowed the distance and become very close.

　? Tagore's poem "The farthest distance in the world": "The farthest distance in the world/is not the distance between life and death/but that I stand in front of you/you don't know that I love you." Because of love, in the poet's mind, the farthest distance in the world is not "the distance between life and death", but the distance between me and you, although face to face, but we can't communicate!

　? The distance should be moderate

? (The beauty produced by distance is also relative)

? Wang Guozhen's Travel: "All faraway places/have a temptation to us/either to beauty/to legend." It fully shows that distance can produce beauty. And his other poem "The mountain is high and the road is far": "There is no road longer than feet/no mountain higher than people." It clearly tells us that distance is relative. Only moderate distance can be beautiful. For example, sitting far away from the lake, you can't see dirty water, which is that distance produces beauty.

　? Taiwan Province's distance

? (Looking across the strait, the distance is sad)

? Yu Guangzhong's Homesickness: "Homesickness is a shallow strait. I am here and the mainland is there." No matter how wide the strait is, in the author's eyes, it only separates "this end" and "that end", and what can't be stopped is the dense "homesickness".

　? Another example is Love's Homeward Boundaries: "When the distance is adjusted to a heart-beating level/a distant mountain flies head-on/hits me with serious internal injuries", the invisible distant mountain can be expanded by dozens of times in the poet's telescope and hit the poet with serious internal injuries head-on, but it is far away from the strait "the soil of the old country is within reach". Why? Homesickness! It is homesickness that shortens the distance between the two sides of the strait to a short distance. The psychological close distance just reflects the deep blood relationship of the descendants of the Chinese people.

　? Please keep the distance between cars

? (distance and safety)

? City is a precision machine with high identity. People living in the city should obey the order and keep their distance, so as to ensure the normal operation of the city.

　? Nowadays, there are more and more private cars and taxis in the city, which leads to high traffic tension. Even when there is no traffic jam, the distance between cars can't be very far. Therefore, drivers should be vigilant at all times and keep a certain distance from the car in front to avoid traffic accidents.

　? However, in real life, there are still many people who don't understand this truth and always like to overtake and rear-end, resulting in serious consequences.

　? Liu Yong's story

? (Love needs to be close)

? Mr. Liu Yong tells a story in the book "Endless Fate": In order to know the parents in the children's hearts, the director of a kindergarten in Taipei specially collected more than 1 pictures of families drawn by children, and he found that most of the fathers in the pictures had no hands. Therefore, the director of the kindergarten pointed out: "In children's minds, the father is a person who lacks contact."

　? Mr. Liu Yong said with emotion: "Is the father really not in contact with children?" He recalled that his daughter was sick and vomited milk when she was very young, and he was so anxious that he even sucked her nostrils blocked by milk that he couldn't breathe. Anyone who has read Mr. Liu Yong's book knows that the relationship between Mr. Liu Yong and his son and daughter is really enviable. They are both father and son, teachers and students, and friends. There is no generation gap between them, they talk about almost everything, and their psychological distance is very close.

　? However, our traditional manners and customs are that the father is strict with the mother, and most fathers maintain a lofty posture, lacking intimate and friendly ways to express their love for their children, and can't get along with them. The consequence of this is that children are afraid of their fathers and will not take the initiative to communicate with their fathers. The generation gap between the two generations is getting deeper and deeper.

　? The strategy of far-reaching and near-attacking

? (Reasonable use of distance to achieve strategic goals)

? "Make friends far away and attack near" is an idiom, which means to contact distant countries and attack neighboring countries. This idiom comes from the allusions in the Warring States Policy.

　? When Fan Ju (a Wei native, who entered the Qin Dynasty to be the photo of King Zhao of Qin) first arrived in the State of Qin, he said to King Zhao: "The king's country is vast, with thousands of chariots and millions of fighters. With the courage of Chi and the large number of chariots and horses, dealing with princes is like a fast-running Han Lu (a good dog's name) chasing a lame rabbit, and the business of overlord is not to mention. Now you shut down the Hangu Pass and dare not calculate Shandong (especially Han and Wei), which shows that Hou has plotted disloyalty for the country, and the king's plan is also flawed. "

　? The king of Qin said, "Where are the mistakes in planning?"

　? Fan Ju said, "Your Majesty crossed Korea and Wei to attack the powerful State of Qi. Not desirable. Less troops is not enough to harm Qi, but more may harm itself. I guess the king may think that it is not advisable to send less troops and let Korea and Wei go all out, but in fact the allies (Qin allied with Korea and Wei at that time) are not credible. Is it appropriate to cross other countries to attack far away? The plan is too careless. "

　? "Once upon a time, the State of Qi crusaded against Chu, defeated Chu, killed Chu, and opened up thousands of miles of land, but in the end, it didn't get any land. Did Qi not want land? No, but the situation doesn't allow it. The vassals found that Qi was weak after winning the battle, and the monarch and his subjects were not United, so they took the opportunity to attack. The monarch of Qi was humiliated, the army was defeated and laughed at by the whole world. The reason for this is that Qi's attack on Chu is objectively beneficial to Han and Wei. This is exactly what the saying goes:' lend weapons to thugs and give food to thieves.' The king might as well make friends with distant countries and attack neighboring countries, so even if he gets the land of size, it will be the land of the king. Isn't it a bit ridiculous that the king is now far away from the near? ”

　? Ji Kang broke up with Shan Tao

? (Different aspirations make the mind distant)

? Ji Kang was a famous writer and thinker in Wei and Jin Dynasties. His most important ideas are "the more famous he is, the more natural he is" and "the less boring he is". He has an instinctive aversion to wealth and official career. Ji Kang's "just being ill in the intestines, being blunt and outspoken, will happen when something happens", his feelings are too strong, and he is often difficult to control himself, and he proudly despises people who are different from himself. Zhong Hui, a powerful official in the DPRK, is famous for his visit. He "sits on his back, not for the ceremony".

　? He lived in seclusion in the mountains and refused to participate in politics. Shan Tao, his good friend, lived in seclusion with him, but later he took part in politics for various reasons and recommended him as an official. Two people's choices were different, and their ideals turned against each other. Ji Kang angrily wrote "Breaking Up with Shan Ju Yuan", indicating that he would make a clean break with Shan Tao from now on.

　? Mi Heng's unforgettable friendship with Kong Rong

? (Age is not the distance of friendship)

? Kong Rong was a writer in the late Eastern Han Dynasty. When Kong Rong was 5 years old and famous all over the world, Mi Heng was under 2 years old, but they became friends, and their friendship remained unchanged. Kong Rong loved Mi Heng's talent deeply and recommended him to Cao Cao many times. The two men are congenial in temperament. They oppose Cao Cao's autocratic policy, are not afraid of violence, and laugh and curse. Later, Cao Cao killed Kong Rong for an excuse, Mi Heng denounced Cao Cao in public, and Cao Cao impeded his life and killed Mi Heng.

　? ? Yilin story

? A graphics card failure caused by a "cat"

? One day, my beautiful screen suddenly turned into a "mapo face", and there was a serious phenomenon of flower screen. Looking at this "colorful" display, my first reaction is: something is wrong with my monitor! I hurriedly adjusted it: degaussing, adjusting refresh frequency, color ... I tried it one by one, but it was useless. No way, as a rookie, I can only restart the machine, but when I started the machine again, I found that everything was normal and there was no screen phenomenon. Just in case, I played the game for nearly two hours. Still, I was secretly pleased. It turned out to be a false alarm. So I drove the cat online again, but soon the phenomenon of flower screen appeared again!

　? Why is this? After being turned on for such a long time, the images displayed on the monitor are normal, indicating that my monitor and graphics card should be all right. But as long as you surf the Internet, it will soon be ... Is it the kitten's problem? ! Hey, a dead horse is a living horse doctor. Try it. I spent n minutes carefully reloading my kitten, but once I got online, the result was still non-negotiable.

　? In desperation, I unplugged the video card and studied it carefully, but found nothing. So I casually inserted the graphics card into the slot, turned on the internet and wanted to try again. Maybe a miracle would happen. A miracle really happened. This time I surfed the Internet for three hours without a screen.

　? The problem was solved, and when I was excited, I wondered why, so I opened the chassis again. At this time, I found that I had just moved the graphics card from the slot near the cat to another slot far away from the cat. I put the video card back in its original place, and the fault appeared again. At this time, I understood that my kitten would generate an electromagnetic field around it when it was working. Originally, my graphics card was too close to the cat and was disturbed by the magnetic field to produce a screen. Just now, when I moved it away from the kitten, it was no longer disturbed by it, and it no longer produced a screen. Thinking of this, I quickly pulled out the video card and inserted it into the slot far away from the cat. Sure enough, everything is normal again, and I can finally surf the Internet again. This little fault gave me the enlightenment of life: it's really distance that produces beauty!

　? The distance between teachers and students

? When a primary school teacher took her students to participate in social practice, a student suddenly said to her, "Teacher, in school, you are too strict. When we see you, it's like a mouse seeing a cat, and it's too late to hide." Teacher, shall we get along equally in the future? " The child suddenly came up with such a sentence, which surprised her and inspired her. Immediately replied: "OK, but tell me what aspects of teachers don't get along equally?" "Sometimes when you lose your temper, you scold (criticize) us and punish us for sweeping the floor and copying our homework." Children's words