Forgiving others is equal to being kind to yourself
The ancients said: Forgive others with a heart that forgives yourself, and you will be friends with others; blame yourself with a heart that blames others. , then there will be too few. The latest modern scientific research shows that forgiving others is good for physical and mental health. The old saying today tells a true truth: Forgiving others is equal to being kind to yourself.
Andrew Matthews said: "A violet is crushed by one foot, but it leaves the fragrance on the heel. This is forgiveness." If a person has the spirit of a violet, he will There will be many friends, because forgiving others is equivalent to being kind to yourself.
Throughout the ages, many knowledgeable and generous people have used tolerance to achieve happy interpersonal relationships and successful careers.
The State of Zhao was once one of the Seven Heroes of the Warring States Period, but was later threatened by the State of Qin. King Zhao made an exception and promoted the low-status Lin Xiangru. Lin Xiangru negotiated with King Qin several times, skillfully defeated King Qin and maintained King Zhao's dignity. Later, Lin Xiangru was promoted several times to the right of Lian Po, which made Lian Po extremely unhappy. He threatened to embarrass Lin Xiangru. But Lin Xiangru treated him with tolerance and took the initiative to avoid Lian Po. Later, Lian Po heard that Lin Xiangru was avoiding him for the benefit of the country. He was so ashamed that he suddenly felt respectful. So he shouldered a thorn to plead guilty, and in the end the two shook hands and talked happily, becoming intimate and creating an ever-lasting legend of "harmony between generals and prime ministers". It was Lin Xiangru's tolerance that prevented Zhao from being threatened by Qin in the short term. If the Prime Minister is like a rat's belly and a chicken's intestines, he is always at odds with Lian Po and does not forgive him, I am afraid that both sides will lose, and the security of Zhao will also be endangered. It can be seen that forgiving others not only treats oneself kindly, but also safeguards national interests.
Qi Huangong was once shot by Guan Zhong, who had assisted Prince Jiu, but he ignored the past grudges and still reused the talented Guan Zhong and made Guan Zhong his prime minister. This requires such a broad mind! It is this kind of tolerance that makes Guan Zhong devoted to Qi Huan Gong and loyal, and does his best to help Qi Huan Gong defeat the heroes and achieve hegemony.
When King Chuzhuang was hosting a banquet, all the lights suddenly went out. His beloved concubine told him that someone had molested her, and the offender's hat was pulled off. She asked King Chuzhuang to light a lamp to check, but King Chuzhuang He stopped her and asked all the ministers to leave. Later, in a fierce battle, the Chu State was defeated miserably, and only one tiger general risked his life to save King Zhuang of Chu from breaking out. After questioning, King Chuzhuang found out that the person who risked his life to save him was the person he had forgiven at that banquet. King Zhuang of Chu forgave his ministers, and in exchange for their gratitude, he saved his own life. Doesn’t this example illustrate that to forgive others is to be kind to yourself?
Zeng Guofan said: "There is no greater kindness than forgiveness." The meaning is very obvious, that is, forgiving others is equivalent to being kind to yourself. This principle of conduct applies to the relationship between emperors and ministers in ancient times, to the relationship between people in modern society, and to the relationship between nations and nations.
Forgive others, because forgiving others is equal to being kind to yourself!
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The article starts from the analysis of the given materials and reaches the conclusion that "forgiving others is equal to treating yourself well", and then lists typical examples in ancient times that are consistent with this view to illustrate , and finally popularize this relationship from ancient times to the present, from individuals to groups, from nations to countries, making the discussion more in-depth.
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When faced with relational topics such as "forgiving others and being kind to oneself", some students often juxtapose the two to explain their relationship: Forgiving others is a Virtue is a manifestation of generosity, so when you are in the world, you must treat people with a tolerant heart; but you must not forgive others too much, you must be moderate, and you must have a good sense of proportion. While forgiving others, you must also be kind to yourself, because the body develops Skin comes from your parents, and not treating yourself well is unfilial.
In fact, after careful analysis and careful consideration of the several materials given, it is not difficult to find the relationship between the two: tolerating others is a virtue and is beneficial to one's own physical and mental health, so to forgive others is to be kind to yourself.